Diamonds...a girls best friend?

[RoxanneReynolds]

If a client gifts an expensive diamond and gold tennis bracelet at the beginning of an appointment, should he still be expected to pay for the hour?

[shorty]

Depends on how money hungry a lady is. I would say with most ladies, when they have a gent coming over that there already banking on that money. Yet if lady didn't have another client coming by or he was free for a few more hrs, then it would show your appreciation towards him if you spend a few more hrs OTC.

[Liliana Vess]

I think it would be a very bad idea to take a gift like that and no other consideration.

Unless you have a jeweler's loupe or a lot of experience, how would you know it was real?

[Fancyinheels]

I will be happy to take any such troublesome clients off any lady's hands. (I do have a jeweler's loupe, and a test kit.)

<--- Irish magpie, likes sparkly things.

[NinaBrooke]

It depends on the agreement and how long I know the gentleman.

[Guest121613]

It sounds a bit troublesome to me if it expected as payment. Granted, if the client is extremely wealthy and generous, it may be petty cash for him, and if it is, he can support the donation too.

If he is not wealthy, it may be ahhhhh borrowed or something.

Or could be wanting to expand the relationship, which needs discussion.

When I have gifted, it has always been in addition to the donation and never in leiu of a donation.

[Gotyour6]

If he drives a nice car, presents himself well and has manners then you take the gift AND expect money.

He is doing it because he can. It makes the encounter a bit more personable. Show him a thank you by not watching the clock, give him a little something special, don't be fake about things etc..

When I called a provider a few years ago she was telling me she couldn't send me a recent picture because her laptop was broke. I bought her one, met her, gave her a nice little travel laptop, told her to send me a recent picture now. She fucked my brains out. I still paid her.

[Zabrina Sarafina]

I personally am severely allergic to wearing anything gold, silver etc and I think I also once had a bad reaction to even wearing diamond earrings. But yea I'm not a big fan of wearing shiny real or fake jewels anyway

[Gotyour6]

So would you want to get paid as well as the gift or no?

[Fancyinheels]

Originally Posted by Gotyour6

If he drives a nice car, presents himself well and has manners then you take the gift AND expect money.

He is doing it because he can. It makes the encounter a bit more personable. Show him a thank you by not watching the clock, give him a little something special, don't be fake about things etc..

When I called a provider a few years ago she was telling me she couldn't send me a recent picture because her laptop was broke. I bought her one, met her, gave her a nice little travel laptop, told her to send me a recent picture now. She fucked my brains out. I still paid her.

There you go.

Seriously, I have been presented gifts by my long-time clients, who still paid me, too. These were the gentlemen I spent a lot of extra time with, went on vacation with, and we had more of an old-fashioned "mistress" relationship (not the one with the whips and chains) than the traditional provider/client. One fellow, whom I saw for nearly 5 years, gave me jewelry for Valentine's, St. Paddy's, my birthday, and Christmas, and when we went to Vegas. (I was his "lucky charm" and we always won.) He presented once me with a set of white gold and diamond high-heeled shoe earrings and a pendant, and another time a yellow gold chihuahua charm, so the man knew me well. He treated me like a queen, but he passed away last August. I miss him, and not just because of his generosity. Another wonderful gentleman friend gave me a 14-K necklace stating, "Damn, I'm Good." I wear it when my ego needs a boost, or if I'm feeling particularly frisky. He also always bought me something nice when we traveled together, gave me gift checks on holidays, but alas, he ran into his old girlfriend from 25 years ago and got back together with her. (Darn, darn, darn!)

Other fellows have brought expensive bottles of booze that cost more than I would charge for an hour, one a jade necklace, another a bronze crown and an outfit for the Renaissance Festival, but they also understood the program, and there was always an envelope.

If gentlemen want to give you a present, ladies, accept with graciousness and give them the extra attention they deserve. Lostforkate made a very valid point - the gift of expensive jewelry usually does indicate an expected escalation of the relationship. That's the way things worked for me, and was a VERY good sign of things to come. However, I would be worried if a fellow showed up with fine jewelry and nothing else, perhaps expecting yo "trade," because just as she stated, where did it come from? His wife's jewelry chest? That's when, as Gotyour6 mentioned, you have to look at the total package. If it doesn't match, you have to ask uncomfortable questions.

(And yes, a guy did once bring me a heavy gold bangle that belonged to his current wife and wanted a session in exchange. "She never wears it," he said. Not the point, and I said no and asked him to leave. I later heard that the marriage fell apart, but at least my conscience was clear.)

[NinaBrooke]

Originally Posted by lostforkate

When I have gifted, it has always been in addition to the donation and never in leiu of a donation.

Exactly! I don`t like different arrangements unless proposed in advance.

[NinaBrooke]

Originally Posted by Fancyinheels

the gift of expensive jewelry usually does indicate an expected escalation of the relationship. That's the way things worked for me, and was a VERY good sign of things to come. However, I would be worried if a fellow showed up with fine jewelry and nothing else, perhaps expecting yo "trade," because just as she stated, where did it come from? His wife's jewelry chest? That's when, as Gotyour6 mentioned, you have to look at the total package. If it doesn't match, you have to ask uncomfortable questions.

exactly!

[ICU 812]

The mark-up on diamonds is ~5X. If an item retails for a thousand dollars (to pick an easy number), it will bring $250 to $400 at a pawn shop. If it is a very niece piece, a reputable jeweler may consider buying it back at about %50.

Girls: ALWAYS get the cash first. A gift should be just a nice thing that is extra.

[MrThom]

I was just informed that a single rose would be most appreciated. Lazarus Long was correct.
"Money is a powerfull aphrodisiac, but flowers work almost as well."