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Originally Posted by thathottnurse
When a provider you have seen before reaches out to you, in what way do you prefer she contact you? Mass emails? Group email updates? Private pm? No contact?
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Never happened. But, if it did:
First, you have to know what you're trying to achieve. A mass e-mail, PM, or text will, necessarily have an entirely different, impersonal feel about it than one that's being directed to an individual. I can see how an e-mail of the nature you described might not be welcomed -- it mixes the personal and the commercial in a way that some guys, myself included, might find disconcerting. If you want to change your menu, it's best to do it in a commercial medium (ads) as opposed to a personal one (e-mail).
Many guys want no contact unless they initiate it or you are responding to them, so you probably should check if in doubt. On the other hand, I'm one of those PLs who doesn't have many friends and whose sole source of intimacy is the hobby. While I'm very well aware of the nature of my relationships, and the limitations on them, the IOP doesn't have to end when the door hits my ass on the way out. A little personal attention, if only viewed as client-retention tactics -- a personal note expressing a desire to see me again, or one referring to something that we talked about, or just asking how I'm doing -- would go a long way toward ensuring a repeat visit. But then again, those from whom I'd love to receive such communications are already getting my repeat visits, so there's very little business upside for them.
As to the medium, I think the only assumption you can make about safety is that a PM is okay. Most of us have hobby e-mail addresses that are secure, but, if you have any doubts about whether to send something to one, ask. Never assume that a phone number is appropriate for unsolicited messages; always check.