Making A Successful Site

[Charlotte Carrington]

There are no sites that are safe, there are no sites that are immune to Buffoonery, they are what we make them.

I am going to break it down on what we can do to make things better or worse and it is up to each one of us to decide which way this site can go..

1. We all know the Indy's is going down, if not now, soon, the owner was just jailed yesterday, he had to pay a $25,000.00 bail to get out of jail and he goes for one of a few Pre-Trial conferences to settle and argue his case before his trial/sentencing. See court website if you don't believe me.

Now with that said, You will see a trickle of people come over here from Indy.s and like it or not, that at times that site is known for its tomfoolery and anger, hagglers and SOME people who are loured into a false sense of security about safety. Many of the posters that are on that site are the ones controlling this site as well.

2. You can choose to have a good conversation or not. Being a part of an intelligent fun conversation does not mean that you have to be hating on everyone and acting like you are still in High school but simply displaying your personality is what everyone seems to want. so be it, but when the name calling and general distaste for one another starts,, the boards go down..

Who wants to be a part of something that will hurt your reputation or belittle you as a human? Not many so therefore people stay away. Not worth our time..agreed..??

3. Everyone has an opinion and you know what they say (yes taint jokes inserted here) we all like to tell them, doesn't mean we will all agree, and that's okay.. we will hold fast to our beliefs in everything in life as well we should.

Being kind is an ART.. it is harder to do that then to be mean, MOST ARE INCAPABLE OF EVEN FATHOMING it to be a necessity in life to be happy~~I have met more KIND men in this business and have been taught that kindness comes from trying to be a good, informed and conscious human being. It is a daily chore for some, every word should be guarded and scrutinized when they speak them. Study Human nature, it will show you how to behave to one another, (i.e. open doors, make those compliments etc).

4. If you all are wanting banter, then someone has to make the first move and welcome lovingly the ladies who feel safe to post.. There are more shy belles in this business than hard cored big mouths who can handle you tough guys..Belittling and berating a woman for her thoughts is not only UN-gentlemanly, but plain rude, some ladies don't have the tough skin as others, and it hurts their feelings. so taking a second to think about what you say ...the key to kindness

I hear what the ladies say, don't fool yourself, it is getting to where most wont talk at all.

5. Picking apart and looking for trouble. Bullying comes in all forms, looking for trouble is just that..

I know we all don't agree on everything, that's okay.. stating points is healthy and at times we all learn and might even change our minds on our original thoughts (hell, that's why Obama is hated so much now..who elected him again?) but to seek out hate because your are virtually invisible is just childish.

Each one of you is not that invisible if you hobby, eventually you will see a girl, she will see your plates, she will talk to another, they will compare notes, you will be labeled as an unworthy, untrusted, not to see client and a bad chance to take if we choose to take your money...ladies look for men who will damage their career and not see them, I know a few ladies who will not see men on TER for this reason,, who needs a bad REP.. right? Even men get them..it;s called blacklisted, blackballed.. it exists trust me!

6. Having someone TRASH you on a public board is not the end of your business, it is what you make it, does it hurt,, sure, I am one for example.. Some (CUNT) outed my real name and house address on another board and then I got slammed by many for ASSUMING RUMORS were true,, but in the end, Justice prevailed, rumors were proven to be just that and she got her KARMA!!

I recommend standing tall and knowing who you are a a person can only make your stronger and fight that much harder..MADE MY BUSINESS TRIPLE, plus made me more aware of how I treat others and what I say.

Finding a common ground and weeding out and ignoring the individuals who are consistent shit stirrers seems to be the key,, Possibly, Worth a try.

You can BEAT THEM,, you don't have to JOIN THEM..



I hope that is all I have to say about that.. going stealth now...

[bambino]

Something tells me this isn't all you have to say, but it was a mouthful!

[Charlotte Carrington]

I am always having a mouthful of SOMETHING!!

[Guest123018-4]

The site is just fine, it is the local forums that make it overall a better place provided that there is relevant information and participation. It is up to the members in the local forums to make that area worthwhile.

As far as safety is concerned, it is up to each individual to take care of themselves. No site can provide assurances that you will be safe if you participate..

I hope I never grow up,; I have seen way too many people turn into old fucks that cant have a laugh at themselves or laugh with others. Is there a law of nature that says you cannot have fun all of your life. I think it is the old fucks and busybodies that attempt to kill the fun for everyone and I refuse to be one of them.

For the ladies, this is their business and for the men this is our hobby. As a business they have a right to conduct it in the manner the choose and if you do not like it you can always take your hobby dollars elsewhere. As a hobbyist you can give an honest review of the business and your experience with the knowledge that the review is just your opinion of the experience that you had.
I think that the experience will vary depending on if you are some buff dude or a 390lb slob with poor hygene; you should have realistic expectations.

Learn to not take the bait of the trolls; it really isnt that difficult.When you try to defend yourself to a troll all you are doing is letting them set the hook. Do not get caught and end up being food for the trolls.

Now have fun and enjoy yourselves on a site that does not moderate with a heavy hand. We would really like to keep it that way.

[bambino]

Originally Posted by The2Dogs

The site is just fine, it is the local forums that make it overall a better place provided that there is relevant information and participation. It is up to the members in the local forums to make that area worthwhile.

As far as safety is concerned, it is up to each individual to take care of themselves. No site can provide assurances that you will be safe if you participate..

I hope I never grow up,; I have seen way too many people turn into old fucks that cant have a laugh at themselves or laugh with others. Is there a law of nature that says you cannot have fun all of your life. I think it is the old fucks and busybodies that attempt to kill the fun for everyone and I refuse to be one of them.

For the ladies, this is their business and for the men this is our hobby. As a business they have a right to conduct it in the manner the choose and if you do not like it you can always take your hobby dollars elsewhere. As a hobbyist you can give an honest review of the business and your experience with the knowledge that the review is just your opinion of the experience that you had.
I think that the experience will vary depending on if you are some buff dude or a 390lb slob with poor hygene; you should have realistic expectations.

Learn to not take the bait of the trolls; it really isnt that difficult.When you try to defend yourself to a troll all you are doing is letting them set the hook. Do not get caught and end up being food for the trolls.

Now have fun and enjoy yourselves on a site that does not moderate with a heavy hand. We would really like to keep it that way.

Well said. 2 Dogs should teach a Mod class!

Fuckin Trolls

[goodnightchesty]

I'm trying to decide if I've been duly chastised OR bullied
WTF does it matter what someone posts ? How much they post ? Who they post with ?
If anyone wants to post - they post, if they don't, they don't.
As one of my heroes said: "At this point - what difference does it make?"

[AmishGangster]

Well said 2dogs.

[sexymaid_69]

Lots of good information there Charlotte.
Thank you for posting this.

As for internet "bullying" and name calling, there are immature folks all around us no matter where we are. One can choose to be annoyed by it or one can just let it roll off.

By the way, is this information gleaned from running your own site?
I assume that's a rousing success since you seem to know exactly how to run a great site.

I'm surprised you find the time to enlighten us and run your own site. I Wish I had that much energy.

[sexymaid_69]

Originally Posted by The2Dogs

I hope I never grow up,; I have seen way too many people turn into old fucks that cant have a laugh at themselves or laugh with others. Is there a law of nature that says you cannot have fun all of your life. I think it is the old fucks and busybodies that attempt to kill the fun for everyone and I refuse to be one of them.
.

I agree 1000%

[bambino]

I love SM!

[Charlotte Carrington]

Originally Posted by sexymaid_69

By the way, is this information gleaned from running your own site?
I assume that's a rousing success since you seem to know exactly how to run a great site. I'm surprised you find the time to enlighten us and run your own site. I Wish I had that much energy.

I WAS NOT BASHING THIS SITE only offering help on how to increase traffic..

My site is a success,, but it is PRIVATE.. and you are not a member. we have tons of fun, and yes very intelligent convos.. there are other sites out there with this same banter and there was never anything mentioned about not having fun..

If all of you would go back and read the post, it states,, BEING KIND is how you attract the ladies to participate..I WAS NOT BASHING THIS SITE only offering help on how to increase traffic..

I should have said it all in laymen's terms and not so wordy..

Something like

HEY FUCTARDS,, BE NICE would have worked better.. lol

[Big Stig]

A reputation is made by how you conduct yourself, not by what others say. If you have built a good reputation, it will survive criticism of all sorts. If the reputation you've established for yourself is questionable, than all criticism will be considered plausible. Being truthful is not always being not nice.

That's all I got, carry on.

[sexymaid_69]

When did I once use the word "bashing"?

Enlighten me.

And true, I'm not a member of your site, never wanted to be, as what is discussed there doesn't interest me.

[Charlotte Carrington]

Originally Posted by sexymaid_69

When did I once use the word "bashing"?
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I was not talking to you dear.. ease up cowgirl

[Charlotte Carrington]

Originally Posted by Big Stig

A reputation is made by how you conduct yourself, not by what others say. If you have built a good reputation, it will survive criticism of all sorts. .

Exactly what I said in one of my sentences. WOW,, we agreed Twice in one week.. watch out.