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Originally Posted by texascoffee
Lol. I so want to find a loving/exclusive relationship with a pleaser/provider personality in the BR. I am so sick of having fun on a date and hating the boring sex.
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You're throwing the baby out with the bath water. How many times do you sleep with a new lady before you decide she's "permanently" boring?
It's probably easier to build a good sex life with a non-provider with whom you mesh in all other ways than to try to build a full good marriage with a provider based on her being good in bed.
Most of married life does not involve sex. Especially once you have kids.
If you're already dating a lady you mesh with outside the bedroom, it's easier to expand your sexual relationship than for you to find a provider (good in bed) and then try to get along the non-bedroom hours.
The boring sex may just indicate the girl hasn't had a lot of experience. You two could grow it together.
Even if she HAS been around the block a few times, she may hold back sexually the first few times before she warms up enough to stick her finger up your butt for a prostate massage and reach into the night stand for the nipple clamps. LOL!
She doesn't want to come across like a hooker!
Here's a link to a post a hobbyist just posted today, where he accidently revealed his sexual urges and now his wife wants to explore them with him!
http://www.eccie.net/showthread.php?t=823322