Anyone ever feel guilty???

[Ranchhand]

I been doing this for longer than I want to think about, and spent more money than I want to think about. Something happened recently that has never happened before. After a session with a lady, I felt guilty. I am married and know my wife loves me to death, but its always been about the strange. I have never met anyone I would leave my wife for, but as I said its always about the strange. I was just wondering if anyone has ever felt guilty about this hobby business of ours. Hell, maybe Im just getting too damn old. At 67 maybe I just dont want it as much as I use too. Anyway, I dont like the feeling I had after my session. Maybe there comes a time when you just need to step back and take a look at what your doing. Then again, maybe its just the age...

[1337]

I don't see how you guys with wives/gfs do this. I would feel guilty as hell, but then again, I've never been in a relationship where she stops allowing me to have sex with her -- and I assume that is where most of you married guys are? I'm not sure I blame you!

[Ydoido]

I am right there with you Ranch. I am divorced however when I was married there were occasions when I felt wrong for what I did with providers especially coming home and trying not to show my level of enjoyment. I never let it disturb my relationship however I did find myself meeting providers less and less.

[cowboyfan2745]

Taking a break or hiatus is probably healthy for everyone. Gotta remember this is a fantasy world that it's nice to visit for short periods of time but this isn't reality or RL.

The wives, girlfriends or significant others are real life, so feeling guilty about playing in this hobby of ours is probably a natural response IMO.

[gee_a_cee]

In answer to the OPs question the short answer is yes.

[ck1942]

We all should remember that for the gents, this is a hobby (implying part-time for us) but for the ladies it is a business (meaning more than part-time).

Thing is, most folks in the hobby are somewhat lonely or often feel somewhat deprived of companionship and intimacy.

Many people feel it is only about the "sex" but sex is really an emotionless activity.

When the emotions spring loose, the actors/acresses need to look out!

Guilt is an emotion, but look at it this way. At least the guilty folks are still going home and not deserting the family. At least until they get caught up in the other emotions -- lust, love, empathy, sympathy, etc., that constitute true relationships.

Better to have a relationship that bats .900 and try to ignore the other 10 pct than give up that 90 pct that works for a piece of ass.

OK, if she's a great looking redhead who owns a liquor store or has a twin sister and they are both pharmacists.... then I might have to rethink everything.

[enderwiggin]

I don't hobby when I'm in a relationship. I prefer clear boundaries in my life and the hobby doesn't mix with SOs. If I can't hobby with a clear conscience and really enjoy myself, I don't hobby.

[Ranchhand]

After giving it a little thought I have come to a conclusion. Its not so much the act of the sex itself that made me feel guilty. Hell, I have had may a trist with providers. In this case though, I enjoyed myself more than I ever have with a provider. Usually its just a sex thing, and I go on with life. This was different. Not a emotional attachment but it was just better than usual. This lady just made me feel so special, and I havent had that happen before. I doubt I will give up the hobby, but I wont be seeing this particular provider again. I have been married for 47 years and love my wife dearly, but there are just some things you cant get at home, and at her age she just isnt interested in sex much any longer. When I came home I had a difficult time looking her in the eye and not feeling guilty. Just something thats never happened to me before. I am still in that guilty phase. Its not a feeling of worrying about getting caught at all, its just hard to explain. I will just ease off for a while and see how things go. Maybe at my age its just the thought of realizing I dont have that long left of this earth and thinking about immortality. Anyway, I appreaciate the answers and also the pm's I have received and realizing im not the only one that sometimes feels this way.

[Guest052213]

you obviously don't feel that guilty or you wouldnt do it at all.

[oralick]

FWIW, I haven't felt guilty when in a relationship when spending time with a lady in the business. If I did the same things with someone I knew from work, bar, neighborhood, etc, then I would feel guilty because there may be a chance for emotional straying as well, and I won't do that to a lady I am in a relationship with.

[Ranchhand]

Gabby, thanks for your wonderful insight, you seem like the type of person I would really like to spend time with. Im not perfect, maybe you are. I was asking a question that was intended for the guys, but I appreciate your wise ass remark. If you dont have something constructive to say, I would rather you just keep your thoughts to yourself. Always someone to come along and fuck up a thread though. Just cant seem to be avoided on this site.

[davidsmith0123]

Chill, Ranch. Gotta ignore that post. Seems to me you've received a lot of good feedback here. Look at the bright side, and don't let her post lead to a bunch of back and forth drama that ruins your thread.

While obnoxious, for me her words carry a bit of truth. In fact I don't feel guilty enough to stop. It may be that I don't feel much guilt at all, so not a high hurdle, but for me at least her words are correct.

(And ... I am no WK here. Never seen her, never will.)

[Ranchhand]

Wont be any drama, I dont know if I feel guilty enough to stop or not, thats still up in the air. As far as her, I have had my say. She may even be correct, I may feel guilty enough to stop. That was sort of the whole point of the post. Maybe I didnt make myself clear enough. Time will tell. I do truly appreciate the positive feedback. I dont mind the WK's if there are any, hell sometimes they make posts interesting.

[Guest120719]

;-) ranch your the best... Hopefully u get over the guilt and just have fun the years u still have left

[Ranchhand]

Thanks Lana, you are a sweetheart