Just got home from a business trip to Pittsburgh and wanted to share a hobbying experience in case any of you ever go there. Over the years, I've found that others experiences can be learning tools for my own hobby. Or at least maybe I can save someone one here some hassle.
In doing some research prior to the trip, I found that my usual boards were not as active in the PGH area, so I joined another board that seemed to be much more active (not sure if I can name it here). After browsing the local scene and reading all the recent reviews, I decided to pursue a provider named Naomi for an appointment. Her review history was generally positive with the exception of one older review. She seemed to be pretty active on the board, so I PM'd her the day before my trip to inquire about her availability.
On the day of my arrival in Pittsburgh, we exchanged PM's and she expressed her concerns over my unvouched status on the board. I told her that I understood, safety is always #1 in this game and I would be willing to comply with any screening that she required. She replied with her screening terms as well as her rate. I agreed and a bit later she called me to set up the appointment. During that call, she began lamenting the fact that my hotel was not close to her home. I had given her my location in a PM prior to her establishing her rates, so I assumed that any hardship for travel would have been accounted for in her rate. Red Flag #1.
Eventually, she agreed to the appointment and we set a time. As I had an early flight to catch, I verified with her that she was able to arrive at the established time, which she said would not be a problem. She finally arrived 45 minutes late and I believe that she lied about having to travel an hour since she was posting ads and replying to threads on this website within 25 minutes of arriving at my hotel. Red Flag #2
In addition, my hotel was near the Pittsburgh Airport, which I'd imagine is a prime hobby spot for local providers, but Naomi complained about having to travel over an hour to meet me, despite the fact that her ads clearly state that she provides outcall to the airport.
Despite her tardiness, upon arrival we chatted for a good 15 minutes about life, the hobby, etc. I typically like to do this, especially with providers whom I am unfamiliar, just to break the ice and put everyone at ease. Not knowing if Naomi is a clockwatcher, eventually I asked if she'd like to freshen up and get more comfortable, to which she complied. We both got comfortable and proceeded over to the bed, at which time Naomi offered a massage with lotion. I declined as I hate getting all sticky with lotion, especially in a bed that I must sleep in. Naomi insisted on giving me a massage. Red Flag #3
After several minutes of a completely lame massage, I rolled over and asked her to lie down, planning on going for some DATY. Instead, she proceeded to lie face down and asked me to massage her. My experience tells me that only providers with an agenda tend to try and dictate the appointment, which she had now done a few times. Red Flag #4 But I again complied and massaged her back for a few minutes. I asked her to grab a cover so we could begin some fun, at which point she began "fumbling" through her purse (probably an act).
She announced that she had not brought any protection and it was my responsibility to have it anyways. Again, in 10+ years, I have NEVER seen a provider who travels without any protection. She told me since it was my fault, there was a gas station across the street and if I wanted to go buy some, she would wait...as if I'd fall for that. Sure Naomi, I'll run across the street while you stay here, rob me and then leave. Sounds good. Red Flag #5 Game over for me.
I told her that I was not going anywhere and that it was ridiculous for her to come unprepared. At this point she turned nasty and changed her tune. Her new argument was that protection was irrelevant because our appointment was simply her offering charity to an unvouched newbie on the board. The only reason that she took it was out of the goodness of her heart so that I could become vouched on the board and other providers would see me in the future (which would do me a lot of good since I was in Pittsburgh for 1 day). Her fee was for that tremendous act of charity. In addition, all of a sudden the hotel that I was staying in was an issue for her, even though I gave her the hotel name and address earlier in the day in a PM. Now granted, it was not the Ritz Carlton, but it was chosen because it was cheap and convenient to both my business meeting, as well as the airport. For a one evening stay in PGH, it was fine. But once again, she took the attitude that I should be thanking her for even showing up at such a place.
At this point, her true colors and agenda had been displayed and I knew that there was no recovering this appointment. Also, not knowing what other issues she may have or whom brought her to my hotel, I didn't want to further provoke her by haggling over the fee. So I gave it to her and asked her to leave, which of course she was more than happy to do.
Now I have had meetings with providers where there wasn't that instant click. Not everyone will always be compatible, but again if you are respectful, I have never met a provider that I could not execute a quality appointment with, even if that connection was not there. Unless they have an agenda or are there for a scam.
So all in all, I spent $$.50 for a 10 minute leg rug with cheap, nasty body lotion. I am sure that Pittsburgh has many quality providers, but for those thinking of scheduling with Naomi, BEWARE. You may receive the same treatment that I did.
Link to Naomi's page (again not sure if this is permitted, so remove if not):
http://www.indys.com/forum/memberlis...rofile&u=15089
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So Good to be Home...Scammed in Pittsburgh
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The board and vouch system on Indys are there to protect both parties. I feel that you should write her a review (PM me about it). It is unfortunate that not being a part of the vouch system had a negative impact on your experience. 