I was wondering what would you do to get kicked off ECCIE, that really won't get you kicked off the site.
Many years ago when I first started this Hobby of ours, that was how I was screened as a newbie. I met the lovely Provider at a local restaurant for drinks and appetizers, we chit chatted til she felt comfortable with me and then we moved on to her place.
I think it not only makes you comfortable with the Hobbyist but it makes the Hobbyist comfortable with you.
Also, there have been a couple of Providers that I've seen several times that have met at a restaurant just to have lunch or dinner off the clock and then we continue on our separate ways after eating together. You can make friends in this Hobby of ours that you like to just chill with.
I hope you have a great New Years sugar