Have Clients Spoilt Your Relationships With Other Men?

[Chloe Kensington]

I was just thinking, sometimes as companions we get such royal treatment from clients that it's hard to consider other men.

And I assume clients get such royal treatment that it's hard to consider 'regular' women.

A case in point is someone I met from here - enjoyed such fabulous days, including limo service and Dom Perignon and way more pleasures than I'm going to list here - you know who you are! Terribly guilty as charged. How wonderful!

Presently I live in Miami where there are lots of young hot men for the taking but sadly they just don't tend to have any class, any knowledge of how to really treat a woman - whether they're rich or poor.

I think the relationships between escorts and clients sometimes set a very good example for the relationships we want in the rest of our lives. The sexiness, the intensity, the extravagance, the protocol, can all be great.

What do you think? What are your experiences? I kind of feel that in some odd ways this situation raises the bar for both clients and companions alike.

Which in real life can be somewhat difficult...

Chloe Kensington xxx

[Guest050216]

This is a hobby and not the next Pretty Women movie!

[Chloe Kensington]

Originally Posted by radarlove

This is a hobby and not the next Pretty Women movie!

So what? You think your expectations and experiences of other women are not affected by this? They totally are.

[PhantomofTheOpera]

First, I realize you posted this for the girls but I have a guys perspective on this question. It is funny Chloe, as I would have argued a couple of years ago that in no way would the P4P realm alter my perception of how to act with other women in a relationship. By relationship I mean a real one, not the lust one found an hour at a time in the P4P world. Yet, my ex would argue otherwise and did point to several things that I missed. After the crash and burn of that, I did an evaluation of myself and why things went the way they did. The results of that eval, lead me to believe I had a perception based on one thing while reality was an entirely other thing. So, yes, this world will screw up your real world relationships, and it matters not who you are, guy or girl, or how in control you think you are. Everyone, last I checked, was human, although some might very well be the spawn of Satan or his sister.

A couple of additional thoughts I will add are: My evaluations lead me to several conclusions as well as checks I make now in the real world. For me, I raised my bar of expectations for the women I become involved with. So far, I find that I enjoy talking to most ladies yet no one has made it to the level I expect for them to be a romantic involvement as a partner. This may seem braggadocios but it isn't. I am now very selective of whom I let in and even the ex made the comment that I was used to being around beautiful women. I always thought that was an odd statement, even though it is a true one. I still don’t know if it is good or bad, but I am used to that and I expect to be like that until the day I am no longer in the real world.

[Tiffani Jameson]

I'm a realist, so no.

I've had no shortage of wonderful men trying to spoil me in my real life, but they're either married, or clingfilm . If I've been spoiled in any way, it's that once our encounter is over, the communication between us is friendly and not as pressured. My clients don't throw temper tantrums if I don't respond to correspondence, can't answer my phone, or being a mom.

I think the trait my interactions between me and my clients have exacerbated is the no jealousy factor, which I'm learning is not good for relationships. Am I really supposed to take his incessant whining about why I didn't answer my phone, or why I'm not at home as a sign he REALLY likes me? Yikes! I'm going to be single forever...

I'm learning I can't put all this sweet lovin' on civvie men and expect things to stay normal. They go from Ted Turner to Ike Turner.

[Chloe Kensington]

Originally Posted by PhantomofTheOpera

First, I realize you posted this for the girls but I have a guys perspective on this question. It is funny Chloe, as I would have argued a couple of years ago that in no way would the P4P realm alter my perception of how to act with other women in a relationship. By relationship I mean a real one, not the lust one found an hour at a time in the P4P world. Yet, my ex would argue otherwise and did point to several things that I missed. After the crash and burn of that, I did an evaluation of myself and why things went the way they did. The results of that eval, lead me to believe I had a perception based on one thing while reality was an entirely other thing. So, yes, this world will screw up your real world relationships, and it matters not who you are, guy or girl, or how in control you think you are. Everyone, last I checked, was human, although some might very well be the spawn of Satan or his sister.

A couple of additional thoughts I will add are: My evaluations lead me to several conclusions as well as checks I make now in the real world. For me, I raised my bar of expectations for the women I become involved with. So far, I find that I enjoy talking to most ladies yet no one has made it to the level I expect for them to be a romantic involvement as a partner. This may seem braggadocios but it isn't. I am now very selective of whom I let in and even the ex made the comment that I was used to being around beautiful women. I always thought that was an odd statement, even though it is a true one. I still don’t know if it is good or bad, but I am used to that and I expect to be like that until the day I am no longer in the real world.

Thank you Phantom, your response definitely gives pause for thought.

Chloe x

[Chloe Kensington]

Originally Posted by Tiffani Jameson

I'm learning I can't put all this sweet lovin' on civvie men and expect things to stay normal. They go from Ted Turner to Ike Turner.

He he!

[bladtinzu]

Originally Posted by Chloe Kensington

I was just thinking, sometimes as companions we get such royal treatment from clients that it's hard to consider other men.

Royal treatment? What fool does this?

Originally Posted by Chloe Kensington

And I assume clients get such royal treatment that it's hard to consider 'regular' women.

No.. Women are disposable so not at all.

Originally Posted by Chloe Kensington

A case in point is someone I met from here - enjoyed such fabulous days, including limo service and Dom Perignon and way more pleasures than I'm going to list here - you know who you are! Terribly guilty as charged. How wonderful!

Dom? The guy has shitty taste at best buying that cheap swill..

Originally Posted by Chloe Kensington

Presently I live in Miami where there are lots of young hot men for the taking but sadly they just don't tend to have any class, any knowledge of how to really treat a woman - whether they're rich or poor.

See the above.. Women/humans are disposable.. Acknowledge and move on..

Originally Posted by Chloe Kensington

I think the relationships between escorts and clients sometimes set a very good example for the relationships we want in the rest of our lives. The sexiness, the intensity, the extravagance, the protocol, can all be great.

It is a business plain and simple. Anyone who thinks it isn't is nothing more than a fool and a dreamer and has no business in this business at all..

Originally Posted by Chloe Kensington

What do you think? What are your experiences? I kind of feel that in some odd ways this situation raises the bar for both clients and companions alike.

Which in real life can be somewhat difficult...

Chloe Kensington xxx

If it raises the bar... Sorry I just cannot fathom the gross ineptitude that goes with that one statement. I am quite sure all the married guys who see escorts because their SO just fucking sucks as a wife has bettered that relationship by seeing escorts. The fact is escorts are way cheaper than divorce.....

[mikkifine]

I have always felt that I get treated better by my clients than the men I meet in my civilian life.

I thought things were good with a male friend from my other job then he started getting pissy like he was frustrated that things were not going to escalate any further than being a friend and sharing some drinks.

Yes and my clients do not make me feel pressured or stressed out like men I meet in my civilian life. Some of them think if they buy me a few beers then I am supposed to go home with them.

[bladtinzu]

Originally Posted by mikkifine

Some of them think if they buy me a few beers then I am supposed to go home with them.

Heck of a pay out for an investment in a few PBR's.. I never could understand that whole mentality there.. Now if she buys me a few beers and expects to take me home then game on!

[Chloe Kensington]

Originally Posted by mikkifine

...men I meet in my civilian life. Some of them think if they buy me a few beers then I am supposed to go home with them.

I've heard that's the case with a lot of men.

In my case it's martinis but thankfully I have guy friends I hang out with and after they've bought me a couple of martinis and whatever (food) they know for sure I'm not going home with them. They still appreciate the company and I appreciate theirs!

Yes they do make it known they'd like things to go further, but they know that's not the way it's going to go.

Chloe Kensington xxx

[NinaBrooke]

Originally Posted by Tiffani Jameson

I'm a realist, so no.

I've had no shortage of wonderful men trying to spoil me in my real life, but they're either married, or clingfilm . If I've been spoiled in any way, it's that once our encounter is over, the communication between us is friendly and not as pressured. My clients don't throw temper tantrums if I don't respond to correspondence, can't answer my phone, or being a mom.

I think the trait my interactions between me and my clients have exacerbated is the no jealousy factor, which I'm learning is not good for relationships. Am I really supposed to take his incessant whining about why I didn't answer my phone, or why I'm not at home as a sign he REALLY likes me? Yikes! I'm going to be single forever...

I'm learning I can't put all this sweet lovin' on civvie men and expect things to stay normal. They go from Ted Turner to Ike Turner.

I agree. There is a business conduct and there is private life. The vulnerability of a private life does not appear in the business world, even if things might be emotional for one or the other side.

[NinaBrooke]

Originally Posted by Chloe Kensington

So what? You think your expectations and experiences of other women are not affected by this? They totally are.

I agree and I think we have discussed this here several times. I am not comparing my personal relationships with my client-ones, but of course I have set the bars high for men to approach me, and anyone just for sex is not on my agenda. But that is just me. So , yes of course the hobby affects the real life somehow.

[Exotic Beauty]

Originally Posted by ninasastri

I agree. There is a business conduct and there is private life. The vulnerability of a private life does not appear in the business world, even if things might be emotional for one or the other side.

I read this whole thread twice and enjoyed the very good topic and replies. Your comment here was well stated.I relate and agree. I love the variety.Real life keeps It's spice or excitement to me with having the multiple fields of work,lifestyle and hobby. Hobby is one of the favorite worlds I've played in the many years I've been in adult and business on this earth.It sure keeps a daily life routine something to look forward to.Also the real life hasn't bored me either.

[Tatiana M.]

Originally Posted by Chloe Kensington

I was just thinking, sometimes as companions we get such royal treatment from clients that it's hard to consider other men.

And I assume clients get such royal treatment that it's hard to consider 'regular' women.

A case in point is someone I met from here - enjoyed such fabulous days, including limo service and Dom Perignon and way more pleasures than I'm going to list here - you know who you are! Terribly guilty as charged. How wonderful!

Presently I live in Miami where there are lots of young hot men for the taking but sadly they just don't tend to have any class, any knowledge of how to really treat a woman - whether they're rich or poor.

I think the relationships between escorts and clients sometimes set a very good example for the relationships we want in the rest of our lives. The sexiness, the intensity, the extravagance, the protocol, can all be great.

What do you think? What are your experiences? I kind of feel that in some odd ways this situation raises the bar for both clients and companions alike.

Which in real life can be somewhat difficult...

Chloe Kensington xxx

Personally, ecorting has effected my dating life in the respect that I will no longer put up with disrespect from civie men. The "clients" have treated me better than any boyfriend I've ever had. As crazy as this sounds, it's the truth. Another thing, since escorting my standards for dating a civie have increased tremendously. The little things that I would put up with before, I wouldn't tolerate in a NY minute now. When I do date someone, I tend to end things pretty quickly when their mind games begin to start. Where in the past I would be willing to work on things, give my all. So I believe escorting has given me a spine, where before escorting I was spineless.

So I have no desire to go back to dating. All of my past boyfriends took me for granted. Many people do find it suspect that I am so happy being single for so long. Friends/family wonder how I could be "alone" for as long as I have. They don't know that I'm not nearly as lonely as they think. I get my jollies from the guys I meet at night. But of course, I don't tell them this. Someday, I do hope to meet my soul mate. But I'm not looking.