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BigpoppaC · 07-13-2012, 03:09 AM

Anyone ever ask a provider out for a real date? I have felt a connection, but didn't know if I should act on it. Have exchanged several calls and texts back and forth without seeing her or setting up a future meeting. don't know if is all an act to keep me a happy customer, but could really take this one home to meet the family. Ps. I am not not the one that initiates the communication. Any thoughts?

SofaKingFun · 07-13-2012, 04:10 AM

Sure, I've gone out with providers, as friends. No harm in that and it was cool.

However, and this is huge...you stating that, "she's one you could take home to meet the family", leads me to believe that you're possibly better off NOT even attempting the dating thing with her. For whatever the reason, I get the impression that you might be expecting more out of this deal than you're letting on...and this all after how many meetings?

Now I could be way off in my thinking, however you asked so I gave my opinion. You might not agree, and that's cool. I'm calling it like I see it.

No. I think that you'd probably be better off seeing her on a P4P basis and remaining friends on those terms...or you could get a puppy. Either choice would be far more rewarding than going the dating route.

Again, this is just my opinion and it's worth exactly what it cost ya'.

Regards,
SKF- dating counselor and spiritual advisor.

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Guest081519 · 07-13-2012, 04:20 AM

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Originally Posted by BigpoppaC

Anyone ever ask a provider out for a real date? I have felt a connection, but didn't know if I should act on it. Have exchanged several calls and texts back and forth without seeing her or setting up a future meeting. don't know if is all an act to keep me a happy customer, but could really take this one home to meet the family. Ps. I am not not the one that initiates the communication. Any thoughts?

Okay, i got that out of my system. It gets weird after a while. I'm not saying say No to love. All I'm saying is that relationships are hard enough as they are. Now throw in a dash of "I need to do this for money", a "I can be with other men (because I have to), but I'm your one and only", a sprinkle of "Worrying for her safety, because you have no idea who she will meet next" and you have a recipe for disaster.

Everyone is different and it's up to you to make the grown up decision. Think about it this way though. If you want to meet someone to love, go to match.com. I truly wish you the best.

JJ

werdster77 · 07-13-2012, 09:25 AM

To me, it all depends on how much of a prude a person is about sex. If you believe that sex is like a massage then it might be ok. It's nice to get a massage from you SO but it's also nice to have a friend rub your shoulders. And it's nice to go to professional for a good rub down. Any way you go, it doesn't mean you love your SO any less. And it goes both ways. What is good for the goose is good for the gander. The thing is, you'd better be sure that she is not just giving you the ultimate GFE. I've had several girls try to use that ploy in an attempt to make my entire sexcretionary fund go to them.

BigpoppaC · 07-13-2012, 09:52 AM

Great advice ev1 and thanks. I have a strong feeling it could not end well. I don't like sharing my woman either. Think it is best to keep it all business. Well sort of...

foxyred73 · 07-13-2012, 11:11 AM

i will yes and take her on nice date...if you at like a bussiness women running her own business than you will be fine dating her. You rather be on the right foot than the wrong when coming out on a date because both men and women hobby down to one night stand or going to see a lady for sevice.

SofaKingFun · 07-13-2012, 11:54 AM

Let me put it to you in a slightly different way..

These women, especially the "GFE" providers are selling an illusion. Granted, there are some who are genuine and actually cultivate friendships, or dare I say, develop some sort of feelers for their clients and what not through the various encounters; not necessarily bf/gf feelers, just friendly/caring feelers. But for the most part, they're selling the girlfriend illusion. Their goal is to make you believe that you're the only one for the time that you're together. The really great ones do this effortlessly and that's precisely what makes them so great. It seems real. The problems occur when one side fails to flip their 'GFE' switch to 'off' and that's when feelers get hurt...and because they make it seem so believable, that's typically when the boundary lines start to become blurred..and this is also typically where the butthurt starts to develop. .

Please don't misunderstand. I've managed to cultivate some really wonderful friendships with some of these women and I truly value these friendships. However, you really need to keep in mind that this is still a business relationship and that has got to be respected. Because when you slip and forget, or you're both not on the same page, one side or the other is going to feel taken advantage of and things are going to turn ugly...sometimes uglier than anyone could have possibly fathomed. I've seen it happen too many times.

...and let's not forget communication; making sure that you both are on the same page.

So just consider what I've said and take it whichever direction you wish. Just heed the cautions you've been given.

Regards,
SofaKingFun- Interweb Relationship Guru and part-time road-rage consultant

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Maxx · 07-13-2012, 12:04 PM

Could spell disaster. Like a song lyric I know ...... Sometimes it seems that it's just like some dream .......

papitochulo · 07-13-2012, 12:13 PM

I agree with what sofaking said. The girls are very good at making us feel special. I would like to date one close to my house, but I got to understand that they all do it for a reason and getting the wrong impression can lead to problems.

BigpoppaC · 07-13-2012, 12:28 PM

Well said Sofakingfun! Wasnt talking marriage, but just to go out and have fun! Without having to feel like I am paying for it. Wouldnt expect anything out of it in reguards to playtime in the bedroom, but just a good night out. I think it would be best just to let it be the way it is now. I think it could only end badly, bcuz the way we met if things would get serious.

Maxx · 07-13-2012, 12:32 PM

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Well said Sofakingfun! ............. I think it could only end badly, bcuz the way we met if things would get serious.

Now you're thinking with the big head BP !!

Guest083013 · 07-13-2012, 12:40 PM

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BigpoppaC said in part:
".....Wouldnt expect anything out of it in reguards to playtime in the bedroom, but just a good night out....."

sorry kind Sir ---> I don't buy that...

promdate · 07-13-2012, 01:39 PM

Big pop, i think sofa covered it as succinctly as it could be put!

mirandalee · 07-13-2012, 01:43 PM

Ive gone out a couple times with clients and we had a blast "as friends" only but there is one guy I really like a lot but i had to tell myself to not be more than friends cuz it will probably not work out at all and trust me its true... for now I have to slowly pull myself away from him for those who know me... know who im talking about lol..

Jten13 · 07-13-2012, 05:22 PM

Wow Miranda that sucks but I guess part of the game