Maria,
I'm sure others will chime in but this topic has been beat to death. If you do a search on this site, you'll find plenty of topics on the why's and where's of being a large/fat/voluptuous/fluffy/Rubenesque woman.
I'm not trying to stop others from speaking freely and answering your questions but some of us that have been around for awhile are probably not going to give you the answers that you seek.
In fact, I think that there is a topic that is fairly recent in the National section that offers insight to the answers that you might appreciate.
Take care,
Elisabeth
P.S. Historically, larger women haven't been well treated on boards such as this one. Fortunately, men are changing their minds about being thoughtful to women regardless of their size, whether they wish to see them or not. Trying to define such a term is an exercise in frustration, though. Here is the topic that I was speaking of above:
http://www.eccie.net/showthread.php?t=422598
It's very nice for the most part. And somewhat refreshing.
P.S.S. Edited to add: I just looked at your showcase, you're no where NEAR a BBW so I hope that you're not concerned about that. Hugs ...