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Originally Posted by aap17
While I like to and want to tip, I am unsure of what a proper tip amount is. I usually tip $20 or so on a $140 - $160 visit. Is that too little? I don't want to insult the provider! I can't really afford a $50 tip, but I do want to show extra appreciation. Is tipping expected? What is a decent tip? Thanks...Paul
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Hey Paul,
Great question. And one that generates lots of buzz here and on (most) other boards. If you study through the responses, you'll see some common threads.
1. Providers almost always answer the same way: "I appreciate a tip but never expect it." What provider would say they expect it? I've never met one. Nor have I met one who doesn't appreciate it.
2. Gentlemen almost never know how much. This is probably true and I think the ladies would be the first to tell you there is no defined amount. Why? Because they don't expect it and probably usually don't get it. So any amount is probably welcomed by them.
3. Tippers almost always justify their behavior in terms of manners and etiquette. Non-tippers almost always justify their behavior by defining "professionalism" (i.e., you don't tip your dentist or lawyer, etc.).
4. Ladies in general can't tell you if tippers receive "better" service. It depends most likely on the individual lady you are seeing. I can't imagine that she wouldn't modify her service at least some if you have a history of tipping her. But that's her call.
5. Non-tippers will usually say that the best tip is a polite attitude and return service. Tippers will usually say they have polite attitudes, are return customers, AND they tip. If given the choice between a return customer with a good attitude and a bottle of wine and a return customer with a good attitude and a generous cash tip, some ladies prefer the latter. I have no data with which to determine if ALL ladies prefer this. Perhaps the ladies could answer this but I suspect they won't; because, in reality, I suspect most men don't tip and therefore ladies don't want to offend the majority of their customer base.
6. Normally, if you come out on the boards in favor of tipping, you will be accused by the non-tippers as "brown nosing" or "white knighting." If you come out against tipping, you will be labeled by the tippers as a "cheap bastard."
And the ladies will stay out of the argument.
Is there a bottom line. Probably. Is tipping appropriate and if so, how much? The answer is yes, while an individual choice, tipping is always appropriate when the level of service has exceeded your expectations. I doubt you'll ever find a lady who is anything but grateful for a cash tip. The amount is never set, never a percentage. The amount is always up to you and as some have suggested, an extra $20 "on the pile" as you suggest is a nice gesture. No lady of whom I'm aware expects a certain percentage.
As for tipping your doctor and lawyer, I've always considered that a baseless argument. If my doctor looked like my ATF and got naked with me for two hours, I would indeed tip my doctor.
The whole point is, "was it special to you?" If she made it special, you have an opportunity to make it special for her with a tip.
All the best.
JDN
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