Nations do not have 'friends', they have allies and that changes depending on Realpolitik.
You two sound like a couple of liberals that worry about feelings. Who gives a fuc what another nation's head thinks of us. It always comes down to Realpolitik.
Examples of US
Realpolitik
The policy of
Realpolitik was formally introduced to the
Richard Nixon White House by
Henry Kissinger.
[3] In this context, the policy meant dealing with other powerful nations in a practical manner rather than on the basis of political doctrine or ethics—for instance, Nixon's diplomacy with the
People's Republic of China, despite the U.S.'s opposition to
communism and the previous doctrine of
containment. Another example is Kissinger's use of
shuttle diplomacy after the
1973 Arab-Israeli war, where he persuaded the Israelis to withdraw partially from the Sinai in deference to the political realities created by the oil crisis.
Realpolitik is distinct from ideological politics in that it is not dictated by a fixed set of rules, but instead tends to be goal-oriented, limited only by practical exigencies. Since realpolitik is ordered toward the most practical means of securing national interests, it can often entail compromising on ideological principles. For example, During the
Cold War, the U.S. often supported authoritarian regimes that were human rights violators, in order to theoretically secure the greater national interest of regional stability. Detractors would characterize this attitude as amoral, while supporters would contend that they are merely operating within limits defined by practical reality.[
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Most recently, former ambassador
Dennis Ross advocated this approach to foreign policy in his 2007 book
Statecraft: And how to Restore America's Standing in the World.
For the purposes of contrast, and speaking in
ideal types, political
ideologues would tend to favor principle over other considerations. Such individuals or groups can reject compromises which they see as the abandonment of their ideals, and so may sacrifice political gain in favor of adhering to principles they believe to be constitutive of long term goals.