Since you're asking for suggestions, I'll add my voice to the "stay away from her and the club" chorus.
Main suggestion: You do it your way, whatever that means. If you want affection and fun from a provider or a group of providers, I suggest that you start a thread in the Men's Lounge and ask who are the kindest, sweetest, and most trustworthy providers. Meet some of them and create some fun experiences.
You also may want to connect with a group like
https://cancercareservices.org/ in Fort Worth (If you're not from Tarrant County, you could inquire about a likeminded organization in Dallas county). They really do provide superb services to folks with cancer.
Of course, life is terminal. Sometimes cancer takes a life, sometimes an accident. Live it how you please, with as much grace as you can muster for yourself and others.