do you guys really want honesty from a provider?

[Guest031210-2]

this poor guy...he must have realized that the hobby is a fantasy and not reality! at least isnt that what its supposed to be--FANTASY!

So do you guys really want us to be honest with you?

www.eccie.net/showthread.php?t=20126

[pornodave69]

It all depends on what it is. I'd rather you not fake an orgasm to make me feel good. Instead, show me what you like so it's real. If it happens, it happens. If not, let's be honest, I'm not there to get you off, I'm there for my own self-gratification, but I'd prefer it to be a two-way street.

Honestly, I'd love to have longer dick, but it's thick. Tell me what you like and how I can work with what I've got to please you better. Don't tell me "you're in so deep."

If she's honest about it, I'd love to hear if she thinks I'm a good lover or not. If not, what can I do differently to change that?

Of course, if I just don't please you (or any guy) politely suggest ways that I/he can improve by telling me/him "You know what I like..." and make requests that will change my/his actions the next time and hopefully things will improve.

I'm not here to get my ego stroked. Something else needs the stroking. But if there's something I can learn to please other women, providers or civilians, then let me know. It'll only be better for all of us. The fantasy isn't that I think that I'm good, it's that I'm with a woman who normally wouldn't give me the time of day, let alone all the other good stuff.

[Outdoorsman]

Thanks chella for posting here, I found that thread very entertaining. One persons stated it pretty close to how I feel about it.

I do want honesty, I do want the lady to enjoy as much as possible. Every person has a talent that i have been with. And I do exentuate the positive and thats all I ask from her. I have self confidence and I do not need a lady to enhance mine, I am fine in that area. I apprecaite a compliment as much as the next person but I want that compliment to be genuine.

I have been with ladies that have asked me if certain things they did were unusual for providers, I am honest and told her "no" pretty much all providers I have been with preform that certain act. Other providers have attempted to show me why they are different and better service than others, I do not like the salesmanship. I do tell the lady what acts I thought were outstanding, if it is BJ, I exenuate on that issue, I do not and will not tell a lady her skills are great when they are not. For example a lady asks me after a BJ "how was that?" If I am not impressed I am not mean or hurtful and say "That was horrible." I tell her that I like her legs or that her energy while doing doggie was great something that is true and positive about the experience. I do not consider that a lie. And this is what I want from a lady that I pay.

I cannot recall ever asking a lady "how was I?" or any comments concerning my performance during a session. My performance is rather irrelevant as I am the customer, but again I do not have issues with my self confidence. Ladies have told me that the DATY was great or she was completely satisified, and I typically respond by stating "I don't know about that, but yes I had fun!" because I do not know what the truth really is and I really do not lose any sleep over it. There are times though when I have been complimented and whether true or not I have believed it and when that occurs it is kinda nice but I do not search it out. If it was not fun for you, I just ask say nothing and if it was so miserable just do not take my appts any more. I don't want anyone to be miserable.

I do not know if the lady is faking her orgasms or not and again I do not think about it much. I hope she can enjoy herself and have fun, the way I see it if I have to do a job I can be miserable and whine about it or I can do it to the best of my ability and make the task as fun as possible. It is all about attitude. The ladies I repeat with often I feel are the most honest to me, do they lie, absolutely. But that is not my issue, it is theirs. If you feel better telling me I have a huge dick when it is not, go for it. But understand I already know reality. I realize I cannot control others and that means even if I try to make someone feel good about themselves by telling a fib it still may not work, because ulitamtely it is up to each individual how they feel about themselves.

Thanks again for the post I did enjoy. And thats the truth. lol

[Hobbihorse2]

No!

I really don't need anyone to tell me how much they enjoy my $$$. That is the only thing that is the truth, rest is just not 100% believable. (of course, if I have bad breath, I hope they tell me instead of just trying to endure it for the next hour or so)

HH

[tigerfan225]

Yea...What PornoDave69 said....

[Guest082215]

Personally I dont care if she lies or not - I also dont care if she is enjoying it or not - I dont care if she has an O or not - I dont care if she is happy or feeling good or likes it when I LFK or whatever - The session is ALL ABOUT ME!

LFG

[docdavid49]

I agree with everything Dave said except this part here..... I really don't care if I please ANY guy ever!! In fact I hope that I NEVER do.

Originally Posted by pornodave69

Of course, if I just don't please you (or any guy)

I know I read it wrong but at first glance....

[Wiley64]

Ditto to what Pornodave69 said.

[trekker]

Well, since one of the reasons I hobby is to improve my skill, I want some honest, constructive feedback about what works and what doesn't. Press here, wiggle your finger this way, lick higher, to the side-all are more useful than a fake orgasm. I don't make a woman cum every time and I've busted a couple faking it by finally getting a more subtle real one after the spectacular fake. Yeah, I want attention and a "release", but I want to improve myself too.

[gimme_that]

[QUOTE=Outdoorsman;120909]I do want honesty, I do want the lady to enjoy as much I have self confidence and I do not need a lady to enhance mine, I am fine in that area. I apprecaite a compliment as much as the next person but I want that compliment to be genuine.......I do not and will not tell a lady her skills are great when they are not. [QUOTE=Outdoorsman;120909]

I think this is the same stance I have on this.

[pornodave69]

Originally Posted by docdavid49

I agree with everything Dave said except this part here..... I really don't care if I please ANY guy ever!! In fact I hope that I NEVER do.



I know I read it wrong but at first glance....

HA!HA! I had to go back and read it again myself. It didn't translate quite the way I intended, but, like you, I don't care to please any guy ever as well!!! I'm glad I put eh I/he qualifiers in the rest of the text.

[tigerfan225]

Originally Posted by trekker

Well, since one of the reasons I hobby is to improve my skill, I want some honest, constructive feedback about what works and what doesn't. Press here, wiggle your finger this way, lick higher, to the side-all are more useful than a fake orgasm. I don't make a woman cum every time and I've busted a couple faking it by finally getting a more subtle real one after the spectacular fake. Yeah, I want attention and a "release", but I want to improve myself too.

I get off...when she gets off...

I agree with Trekkers post as well...for example:

Two of my favorites (Angel Devine, AmberSTOL) both will lead you to the promise land in DATY. They gently (or not so gently the closer they get) guide you along with a pull or a nudge of the head, I think that has made me better at DATY. These two ladies are very responsive to it,they understand how to get what they want out of it, and if they are lying or faking, I could never tell. For this reason, I could stay down on these two for hours!!


In stark contrast..other providers will just tolerate DATY (Chella..you know who I am talking about), b/c they have had some pretty bad tongue action in the past. Why not use this time to make a client a better lover?

[rocky82]

I dont care, I just want a bj.

[tigerfan225]

Rocky...maybe that is the reason you guys in Lafayette cant get providers over there...No fun for them just staring at belly buttons.lol

[DallasRain]

rocky82---good answer!! lol!