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GuyFromKC · 12-18-2016, 10:42 AM

Although i prefer a full hour, on several occasions now I have scheduled a 1/2 hour due to my busy schedule. Met someone Friday with rave reviews and I noticed when I got back to my car that I had been there 45 minutes. I got a series of texts and PMs that I shortchanged her, threatening to blacklist me and tell other providers. I won't out her as she may have just forgotten I scheduled 30 and not 60, we all make mistakes (I have both emails and texts showing it was clearly 30).

My question is for both guys and gals out there. Did I do something wrong? Is it my job to watch the clock and offer up more compensation? I'm used to girls telling me it's time. Especially if you are over by just 15 minutes or less?

Davidian1980 · 12-18-2016, 12:59 PM

Comes down to respect. As a guy there is an expectation that providers respect our time by being ready at scheduled time.... that should be reciprocated by respecting a ladies time during a session.
Even if you go over with conversation or whatever, it should be a respect thing that you keep an eye on the clock, feel the vibe of the date and know gen your welcome is at an end.

seductrix4u · 12-18-2016, 01:31 PM

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Originally Posted by GuyFromKC

Although i prefer a full hour, on several occasions now I have scheduled a 1/2 hour due to my busy schedule. Met someone Friday with rave reviews and I noticed when I got back to my car that I had been there 45 minutes. I got a series of texts and PMs that I shortchanged her, threatening to blacklist me and tell other providers. I won't out her as she may have just forgotten I scheduled 30 and not 60, we all make mistakes (I have both emails and texts showing it was clearly 30).

My question is for both guys and gals out there. Did I do something wrong? Is it my job to watch the clock and offer up more compensation? I'm used to girls telling me it's time. Especially if you are over by just 15 minutes or less?

I don't say this to make you feel badly, but if you were too busy to book an hour (and pay for the hour), then you should have also been too busy to stay an extra 15 minutes.

As a provider, for my hour appointments, I have a CD that plays about 53 minutes. When it ends, I start wrapping things up. I take that initiative to move things along. On my STC dates, it's moot.

Now, if she confused that you were supposed to be there an hour (and that happens sometimes--we're human), then it's understandable that she didn't rush you off.

As a courtesy, I would schedule another date with her as soon as your schedule allows, and ensure that you tip her nicely for the overage on this last date. Then, if you say you only have 30 minutes, make sure you stick to that. Or I assure you, she will!

To you, it's 15 minutes. To a provider, it's value.

G/L ~ Candice

Wizard of Ahhhhs · 12-18-2016, 03:58 PM

I guess my 2 cents on this is....

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Originally Posted by GuyFromKC

...I got a series of texts and PMs that I shortchanged her, threatening to blacklist me and tell other providers...

...how did you respond to her? If you got defensive, told her you had "proof" that you only booked 30 minutes and that it was fully her responsibility to be the timekeeper, etc., then you may have some making up to do, if you intend on requesting time with her again.

If her initial series of texts/PMs to you were threatening, without you giving an opportunity to apologize and offer to make it right, then shame on her.

Personally, I have never booked just a half-hour because the time can go by <snap> like that. But, with that said, I think there is some mutual responsibility in timekeeping. In the heat of the moment, time can get away. So, first one to glance at the clock makes a comment... a "ten-minute warning", if you will.

Candice's 53-minute CD is an interesting idea (I would hope the CD would build up to some type of powerful, crescendo conclusion to time it with her final, big O!!)

If you haven't already done so, and if she's worth a return visit, tell her you acknowledge the extended time and that you will make it up to her on your next visit. Heck, even schedule the next visit in your conversation! But, I still think the timekeeper job description is a two-way street. Good luck!

GuyFromKC · 12-18-2016, 03:59 PM

I guess I got spoiled by starting with girls that let me know.
If its on me I guess I need to bring a timer with an alarm.

GuyFromKC · 12-18-2016, 04:08 PM

Well she thought I was ignoring her, but I had powered off the phone at the elevator, so no harm. So she was not overly rude considering that. And I wan't rude back, I explained myself. This isn't a rant on her which is why she remainss nameless. I just wanted views on this topic.

DallasRain · 12-18-2016, 04:14 PM

It is the providers responsibility to let ya know time is almost up or is up.......it is HER session and HER business.
Now I do not "watch the clock" but i do have a "general idea" of when things need to roll to a stop,so I will find subtle ways of letting the gent know the party is ending....................and if a repaet goes over 5 or ten minutes,I let is slide cause he is a repeat friend and he deserves some leeway.

sinbad6969 · 12-18-2016, 04:47 PM

I have been doing this for quite some tome now and as a result I just have a sense when it comes to time. However, there have been times when I have extended my visit and I will always leave an appropriate tip. I think that is only fair. And to you Candice, what a novel idea to have a 53 minute CD. No guessing , no confusion. You always appear to have all your ducks in a row.

Fixer63 · 12-18-2016, 06:19 PM

I think both need to watch the clock. I usage keep track so I am done with in the time. I have been with come that say we have 5 or 10 minutes left, but also have been with some that time did not matter we were have fun and good conversation.

bilbobaggin · 12-18-2016, 08:51 PM

Looks like to me we have two different issues here.

1. She thought you booked an hour and didn't pay for it. You think you booked half and went over. Communication can resolve. Get on same page and find resolution. Either compensate for the extra time, or arrange something to square it.

2. Who's job is to watch the clock? Neither. Nothing can ruin a good time worse than a buzzer on a phone going off. Most seasoned providers are great at knowing the time and subtly reminding you the time. And the more I hobby the better I get at knowing the time. And yes sometimes you do over on time, and you and the provider need to have an understanding of how to handle that makes both happy.

timmystool · 12-18-2016, 09:03 PM

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Originally Posted by Davidian1980

Comes down to respect. As a guy there is an expectation that providers respect our time by being ready at scheduled time.... that should be reciprocated by respecting a ladies time during a session.
Even if you go over with conversation or whatever, it should be a respect thing that you keep an eye on the clock, feel the vibe of the date and know gen your welcome is at an end.

I dont feel like it comes to "respect"???
but if you arent aware of the time and is talking/licking etc and you want to blow a load, then while you having fun, etc, when time is up, SHES GOING TO GO, and CAN GO without you whining,
she is there for time and she spent time wih you..., so unless shes you buddy, you gotta make sure you know how much time you have left

Davidian1980 · 12-18-2016, 09:22 PM

In this topic I see the hobby as any other service I pay by the hour for. Agreed they are taking the money and it's their business. But I personally feel it's disrespectful of me to assume I can go as long as I want until I'm kicked out. I pay attention to the time and if it's close and things are winding down, I start to get my shit together. If it's close to time, we both know it is yet we are enjoying some good conversation and she's not doing anything to indicate to wrap things up, then we talk until conversation lulls and it's time to hit the road.
Just a personal thing, I want others to respect my time with prompt PMs, being avail at agreed upon times etc, it is only fair for myself personally to give the same back and not overstay any welcome. Just my 2 cents.

Apologizes to the OP if I misinterpreted things here.

Guest021217 · 12-18-2016, 09:24 PM

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Savannah Moon · 12-18-2016, 09:34 PM

DM
Yep

Kat VonDee · 12-18-2016, 09:57 PM

I believe it's the provider's responsibility to pay attention to the time. I'm not saying check the clock every 15 mins, but usually what I do, after the gentleman arrives & has set the donation down, that's when I start the clock in my head. I look at the time & make a mental note of when the session should be over. I don't try to rush anyone out the door, but in the same tense, I don't allow anyone to take advantage of my time. Staying 5-10 mins after the session is over is okay.
If you paid for 30, but stayed 45 mins, I don't really think you can point the finger at anyone & say they're in the wrong. She got confused about the session length, & you stayed a bit over your preferred amount of time. I think it would be fair if you compensated her for the extra time she allowed you to stay, & an idea for her, when booking sessions (this is what I do) I have a way I keep track of who I'm supposed to see, when I'm supposed to see them & the session length, it helps me avoid all confusion.