NC/NS list

[Altbier]

Quoting flinde from another thread that I didn't want to add to:

Suggestion to owner/mods. How about a city specific NC/NS official thread?

This problem comes up, over and over again. Frankly, I'm getting as sick of writing my "this is not an (alert, review) its just a young gal missing an appointment - its part of the hobby - live with it - its part of the charm of young gals" bs as people probably are of reading it.

If it were all in one place, I could cruise past with my scroll mouse, and stood up guys would have a place to "vent". And people who care would have a place to check NC/NS history.

I like this idea. I'm not as tolerant as flinde of the inconsideration behind NCNS. I understand that things come up that can cause a cancellation, but in my book, NCNS is rude and inexcusable. A simple, timely phone call or text is all it takes to cancel. If I have an easy way to check on a provider's NCNS history, I'll use it to help decide if I really want to try to see her.

A single NCNS "alert" on a provider probably wouldn't sway me one way or the other unless I was already uncertain about her. But multiple reports by different hobbyists would certainly make me look elsewhere for my fun. No alerts probably wouldn't be particularly useful either.

If such a list or thread or whatever were started, should providers have the opportunity to comment? If so, would it be any different from simply posting in the coed section? It would at least make searches for such info easier.

[MsPrittiKitti]

sounds like a good idea to me.
i think it should include the name & date of wo did the nc/ns.

since this is in coed...i think the list should include gents & ladies alike.

i wonder if there should be abother part to include if the "wrong" party made right on it.

[Chuck12]

I like the idea. There is really no appropriate forum for NC/NS by providers or hobbyists.

It does not go in the review forum because no session took place and providers can't post there to rebut the post. It does not go in alerts because, there is really no danger involved with it, just bad TCB skills or whatever.

And they dont really belong in the Co-ed because any post here immediately becomes a "suck it up dude" or "what did you do wrong" or as Bibi pointed out in another thread "hang [the] provider by her pussy" topic instead of a sharing of info on a NC/NS which might help another hobbyist in the future or in some situations may get a misunderstanding resolved. Plus with the constant posts in Co-ed they get lost easily.

I thought about suggesting starting it in the Men only area but that would not be fair since providers could not rebut any posts that may be false, etc.

I think a NC/NS forum would be a great addition. It would provide a forum to post about a NC/NS and allow a provider to rebut the post if it is not completely accurate. It will make it easier to search and use the info. Also, it would allow the guys that don't care about NC/NS to just ignore the forum.

[Chuck12]

I did not see Amaya's post, she was posting as i was writing mine. I agree this would be for gents and ladies alike.

[Volumptous Vivianna]

Originally Posted by MsPrittiKitti

sounds like a good idea to me.
i think it should include the name & date of wo did the nc/ns.

since this is in coed...i think the list should include gents & ladies alike.

i wonder if there should be abother part to include if the "wrong" party made right on it.

I agree, I think it would be very useful information for both sides of the hobby

[SAKnight1982]

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[Chuck12]

I've posted the topic in the main member suggestions forum: http://www.eccie.net/showthread.php?...30#post1098430.

Your input is welcome, although i did quote the first three posts from this thread.

[Master Vader]

I agree with this but I also see a potential downside with one NCNS because of unforeseen circumstances possibly blackballing someone.

[flinde]

Lord Vader,

They are already here. In Co-ed discussions, alerts, review forums. other places.

Except now, I and others respond. Say "this is not an alert", or "this is not a review" etc.

And someone (I wont mention any names here to protect the guilty) says "Get your head out of your ass flinde" or "kiss my ass flinde this gal needs to be boycotted".

And the drama continues. No one is gonna get "blackballed" by a NC/NS. Or a couple. Shit happens.

Especially if they are hot.

Your boyfriend (or mother, or priest) shows up unexpectedly and you are gonna say: "Excuse me hunny, I gotta call the guy that I was meeting to bang me for money and tell him not to come - I cant make it". Yea, right.

A separate, specific thread, and people who don't care can ignore. And people can look at if they want--no more "I heard she NCN/S 1/2 the time" rumoring. The posts are the posts.

[JSmith2010]

Keep in mind there's a difference between a NCNS and a call-no-show.

In other words if you call and say you can't make it, that's one thing, but if you don't call and don't show that's something else.

Personally I think this would be better in the mens section, co-ed just gets too out of hand.

[Mature Companion]

Hmmmmm,,
Now who would make up the majority of that NC/NS bullshit list?
Hobbyist or providers?

While hobbyist like to point out which ladies NC/NS them. I'm not certain that those men will be too thrilled to have their names on a public co-ed NC/NS list. As it would indicate that their just as much to blame as the providers they bitch about.

But you're correct, Prittikitti.
If said list were to be posted in Co-ed, the men who pull that same bull shit crap, should be listed on it too. It's only fair!!

Then perhaps folks would stop playing those fucking Nc/NS/ last minute cancellation games and get back to what the hobby's really about.

Originally Posted by MsPrittiKitti

sounds like a good idea to me.
i think it should include the name & date of wo did the nc/ns.

since this is in coed...i think the list should include gents & ladies alike.
.

[Bobave]

Originally Posted by JSmith2010

Personally I think this would be better in the mens section, co-ed just gets too out of hand.

Right, and of course, something similar in the PR. Wherever it sits, it should remain a *simple list* without comment allowed, so we don't get straight back into all the prosecution/defense postings that gum up the whole thing.

[MsPrittiKitti]

there would have to be a clear defination of what a nc/ns is.

however after reading...im on the fence

i can see complaints if mens names were listed publicly. i "assume" some men think their superior bc we work for "them"...so this is bs!!i would imagine some ladies would be afraid to post, in fear of ruining their rep.

having it in mens only area..well i see no good in that bc there could be the "blacklisting" someone. idk. girls couldnt defend themselves.

if there was a fair way to do it. without all the politics...i think its a great idea. but i think it can also get messy quick. so now im on the fence about it.

hmmm...theres not a way to anonymousy do it. bc then its he said /she said.

this is a grrat idea thats gonna take a good master plan to make it work!!!

[Chuck12]

Originally Posted by MsPrittiKitti

there would have to be a clear defination of what a nc/ns is.

however after reading...im on the fence

i can see complaints if mens names were listed publicly. i "assume" some men think their superior bc we work for "them"...so this is bs!!i would imagine some ladies would be afraid to post, in fear of ruining their rep.

having it in mens only area..well i see no good in that bc there could be the "blacklisting" someone. idk. girls couldnt defend themselves.

if there was a fair way to do it. without all the politics...i think its a great idea. but i think it can also get messy quick. so now im on the fence about it.

hmmm...theres not a way to anonymousy do it. bc then its he said /she said.

this is a grrat idea thats gonna take a good master plan to make it work!!!

No one is saying anyone is superior to anybody else. I am suggesting a forum to post NC/NS's.

That would be appointment set and either of the sides (provider or hobbyist) does not show up to the appointment without getting in contact with the other person to let them know why they could not see them.

I am not suggesting a list, but a forum to post NC/NS instances, just like in the alerts you can post alerts. Just a forum were both providers and hobbyists can post when they are stood up for an appointed time without any reason or apology. That way those who chose to care about it can search said information.

As i stated in my first post right now there is no good forum for this info. In co-ed it turns into an all out battle, and a NC/NS is not a review or alert. Therefore, the only venues are the Men's and Women's separate private areas, where situations can not be disputed by the other party to the NC/NS.

[JSmith2010]

I don't think it needs to be disputed, that's what causes all of the problems.

I'm sure we'll soon see something like this in the most useful section for us.