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MJHolland · 07-24-2016, 08:02 AM

Hello. Im MJ! I want to start off by apologizing to those who feel like they got the short end of the stick with me. I hope you will see this and let me have another chance to make it up to you. Although I am a professional, this is not the industry that I have very much experience with and so I am still learning how to filter the good from the bad and how to manage my time efficiently. With that being said, I would like to explain a few things.

First, I have just recently had my first very scary stalker. It started when I was in Houston, and he has found his way to me on this site. I think it is someone I know, and I am having this investigated further. I have filed a police report, but they arent too eager to help, so I am left to figure out who this monster is and why the need to harass me. So if i was a NCNS or did not respond or if there are any other negative issues, this may have happened bc of a certain phrase or a trigger to his style of writing to me.

Second, I am sorry to those who feel like me raising my rates was not fair. I agree and disagree, and if you will pm me, then I will discuss giving you the original rate one time. I am making a provider post later this morning to publicly advertise the increase, so from today on that will be what I go by.

Third, yall are really critical and hard on us as providers and I just want to ask that you take a moment to realize what we do, what we go through, the things we put up with and all with smiles on our faces. Please be patient with us and if there is something that is in immediate need, just communicate with us. I love my clients and I have not met anyone from here that I would not want to see again.

Once again, I apologize for the bumps in the road, but that is life unfortunately. Everyone deserves a second chance....i think.

Thank you for reading and have a lovely day!

MUAH!
MJHolland

john_deere · 07-24-2016, 10:56 AM

just want to address one part of your post… that's regarding what you said about us mean guys taking it easy on girls.

i understand that at times reading some of these threads might be intimidating and you might think some of us are a bunch of real hard ass assholes.

what you have to remember is that this is a tough market on both sides of the game. west texas is spread out over a huge area stretching from el paso to amarillo. guys in this market are always frustrated and understandably so because girls fail so often to understand this. it's annoying when they can't even do something as simple as put the name of the city where they will be in their fucking advertisements. we also get promised a lot of visits by hot girls who ultimately never show up for one reason or another.

so… just try to keep in mind that there's a lot of frustration out here. we get that you girls lead a complicated life but at the end of day this is a very simple game.

FBSMLUVR · 07-24-2016, 01:38 PM

Ms. MJ,

First and foremost, I'm very sorry to hear about this scary stalker dude that you're having a hard time with. Hopefully the West TX wind will blow him on his merry way and he'll leave you alone. Regarding him finding you on this site, it looks to me like he's been found out and his account has been frozen. Most likely banned at some point, so maybe that's a start.

Regarding the NCNS's that have been reported on you. I realize you're new, still trying to figure all this out, and manage your time efficiently. But, you've NCNS'd several times now and twice to a well respected monger on here that I would personally vouch for. If you're spidey senses were going off due to some sort of a trigger as you mentioned to cause you to decide not to go thru with the appointment, then you should have just cancelled. It only would have taken a few seconds to send a PM/txt to let the person know. You yourself mention that communication key. I see zero justification from your statement to over look your NCNS's.

Regarding raising your rates. No problem, set your rates to whatever you feel they should be. But, to increase your rates after a session has been agreed upon with your original rates and then trying to up them a few minutes before the session is not going to cut it with any of us. Of course, if that is truly the case which has been mentioned previously. Set your rates, clearly state your menu in your showcase, which you haven't created yet, and I would suggest that you do asap so we know up front all the info we need to make an informed decision on whether to see you or not. And stick by those rates and menu, this isn't BP.

As far as us being very critical or hard on you ladies. I don't see where that's been the case here with you or any providers in West TX. We're a pretty mellow bunch out here, but if things go down the wrong way, we will share our experiences and call the provider out for it. Most of us try to be very honest with our reviews, whether good or bad. If you think we're critical or hard out here, you sure the fuck don't wanna mess with Houston/Dallas/Austin, etc. Keep in mind, this is an information sharing board, we are the clients and you are the provider of the services we're here for. If you don't think you can handle being critiqued, then maybe this place isn't for you.

I agree everyone deserves a second chance. I commend you for coming on here and making a public apology to the gents that you've NCNS'd, but actions are going to speak louder than words. We're a pretty damn forgiving bunch out here, so I think you'll get your second chance, but the ball is in your court to do the right thing now.

Good luck to you darlin' and I honestly do hope you do well in the future!

MJHolland · 07-24-2016, 03:03 PM

In regards to the rate issue...there was never a discussion about the rates, he was assuming what they were. I admit i am at fault for not making this clear. But to be an asshole about it when i tried to fix it, then talk shit is unacceptable, veteran or not. We are all humans, and we all make mistakes.

Fin`

sidekick · 07-24-2016, 03:42 PM

I will give you the benefit of any doubt on my part. I will even offer to book a third appointment and split the difference between our original booking rate and your new rate. You do not need to reply here but can send a PM if you care to respond. If things go as I expect then I will be writing a positive review in the near future.

BTW - JD is getting soft in his old age or else you are now his favorite Sqeeze + GFE (inside joke). He and FBSMLUVR pretty well laid it out for you to be successful and become one of our area top providers of you should so decide.

Good Luck on your RL issues.

john_deere · 07-24-2016, 04:22 PM

oh, i am sure as fuck not getting soft and i haven't seen this girl.

i just generally choose not to wade in without clear provocation, and i respect mjholland for her communication effort here.

sidekick · 07-24-2016, 06:28 PM

Ha Ha JD! I thought you were taking your afternoon siesta. Maybe you should give her a spin and let us know if she is going to stick around.

DocHolyday · 07-24-2016, 06:41 PM

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Originally Posted by FBSMLUVR

Ms. MJ,

First and foremost, I'm very sorry to hear about this scary stalker dude that you're having a hard time with. Hopefully the West TX wind will blow him on his merry way and he'll leave you alone. Regarding him finding you on this site, it looks to me like he's been found out and his account has been frozen. Most likely banned at some point, so maybe that's a start.

Regarding the NCNS's that have been reported on you. I realize you're new, still trying to figure all this out, and manage your time efficiently. But, you've NCNS'd several times now and twice to a well respected monger on here that I would personally vouch for. If you're spidey senses were going off due to some sort of a trigger as you mentioned to cause you to decide not to go thru with the appointment, then you should have just cancelled. It only would have taken a few seconds to send a PM/txt to let the person know. You yourself mention that communication key. I see zero justification from your statement to over look your NCNS's.

Regarding raising your rates. No problem, set your rates to whatever you feel they should be. But, to increase your rates after a session has been agreed upon with your original rates and then trying to up them a few minutes before the session is not going to cut it with any of us. Of course, if that is truly the case which has been mentioned previously. Set your rates, clearly state your menu in your showcase, which you haven't created yet, and I would suggest that you do asap so we know up front all the info we need to make an informed decision on whether to see you or not. And stick by those rates and menu, this isn't BP.

As far as us being very critical or hard on you ladies. I don't see where that's been the case here with you or any providers in West TX. We're a pretty mellow bunch out here, but if things go down the wrong way, we will share our experiences and call the provider out for it. Most of us try to be very honest with our reviews, whether good or bad. If you think we're critical or hard out here, you sure the fuck don't wanna mess with Houston/Dallas/Austin, etc. Keep in mind, this is an information sharing board, we are the clients and you are the provider of the services we're here for. If you don't think you can handle being critiqued, then maybe this place isn't for you.

I agree everyone deserves a second chance. I commend you for coming on here and making a public apology to the gents that you've NCNS'd, but actions are going to speak louder than words. We're a pretty damn forgiving bunch out here, so I think you'll get your second chance, but the ball is in your court to do the right thing now.

Good luck to you darlin' and I honestly do hope you do well in the future!

FBSMLUVR BRAVO!!! That was one hell of a great post Sir. My hat is off to you. You did one Hell of a great job explaining things. I could not have done better! You read some posts from time to time that really rise above the rest and this is one of them.

+1 FBSMLUVR
+1 SK
+1 JD

FBSMLUVR · 07-24-2016, 07:52 PM

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Originally Posted by MJHolland

In regards to the rate issue...there was never a discussion about the rates, he was assuming what they were. I admit i am at fault for not making this clear. But to be an asshole about it when i tried to fix it, then talk shit is unacceptable, veteran or not. We are all humans, and we all make mistakes.

Fin`

There should Never be a need for a discussion about the rates unless there is a question about a review special. Why don't you take the fucking time to set up a showcase instead of playing this "feel sorry for me BS"? Then there is no question about your rates and menu?!? Pretty fucking simple IMO, then there won't be any issues. He wasn't being an asshole, he was going off what your original rates were from your posts and reviews, and you decided to pull some BP BS on him. Of course he assumed what your rates were, you fucking published them or allowed them to be posted in your reviews.

What is unacceptable is you NOT taking the fucking time to create a showcase so that we fucks know what we're getting into. You wanna keep going? Keep feeling sorry for yourself? Digging a hole that you won't be able to get out of? You go right ahead. You've admitted to fucking up. It's on you and you need to dig yourself out of this hole you've put yourself in.

CryptKicker · 07-24-2016, 08:20 PM

Guys- there is NO reason to be rude as shit to the lady. She is trying to make it right and you are trying to run her off. Knock it off and tone it down,

Zgirl2 · 07-24-2016, 08:47 PM

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Originally Posted by CryptKicker

Guys- there is NO reason to be rude as shit to the lady. She is trying to make it right and you are trying to run her off. Knock it off and tone it down,

I'm with Crypt on this one. Sometimes it really works my nerves the way some men talk to women. Hookers or not, we are still females and do have feelings. No need to curse the lady.

FBSMLUVR · 07-24-2016, 09:04 PM

Ok then, lets just all accept the fact that several NCNS's is acceptable. I wasn't cursing the lady, just trying to explain a simple fact. The fact that OUR time is just as valuable as the lady's time is.

Guess I deserved that infraction. Going to the library tomorrow to get a book on being more PC. But don't hold your breath. Even though I'm a man, I have feelings too lol

CryptKicker · 07-24-2016, 09:14 PM

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Originally Posted by FBSMLUVR

Ok then, lets just all accept the fact that several NCNS's is acceptable. I wasn't cursing the lady, just trying to explain a simple fact. The fact that OUR time is just as valuable as the lady's time is.

Guess I deserved that infraction. Going to the library tomorrow to get a book on being more PC. But don't hold your breath. Even though I'm a man, I have feelings too lol

No- you weren't cursing her but you were all over rule #1:

#1 - Avoid cases of unprovoked rudeness to others. No place for it here. Yes, with the dynamic nature of the threads and topics, tempers will flare and things will become heated from time to time. You may often encounter individuals who become passionate or emotional when expressing one's opinion or point of view. That's all understood and perfectly acceptable within reason…….but, start slamming or bashing another member and be met with consequences.

There was zero reason to be this rude to the lady.

FBSMLUVR · 07-24-2016, 09:41 PM

Ok, I understand the rules and thanks for the clarification Crypt. How about you disable my account because I've had enough of this BS.

Keyhole Arc Blow · 07-24-2016, 09:57 PM

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Originally Posted by MJHolland

Third, yall are really critical and hard on us as providers and I just want to ask that you take a moment to realize what we do, what we go through, the things we put up with and all with smiles on our faces.

I empathize with you, I used to think if I was a chick then I would be in this line of work, making 2Gs or however much a week dancing and seeing guys outside the club. Then I realized a fair bit of the clients yall see are probably older(too old for me), overweight, or have weird tendencies and quirks that are super annoying to the point of not wanting to see the guy a few providers have shared with me. Use guys have it easy in comparison.

Can't comment on the rest because I honestly don't even remember any threads complaining about NCNS or rates lol

Good on you for trying to make it right though.