Masturbating for Provider as a complete session

[oldmacdoladxgx]

Hi. Serious inquiry here. I find that often when I schedule a meeting with a provider my main interest is in masturbating myself while she, (either fully clothed or naked), watches. I do enjoy all the other contact required activities as well but the masturbation satisfies a fetish desire. To be clear, I am not in favor of or interested in exposing myself to or masturbating in front of unwilling participants. So my questions are: 1) If I show up for a session and say this is what i want to do for the next 30 to 45 minutes will it creep out the provider? Will they feel insulted that I am asking not to be touched? 2) Should I make this known to the provider before I arrive for the session? 3) What can I do to make it more interesting for the provider? 4) How often do you get a request like this? I'm really interested in your opinions. Thanks.

[albundy]

That's what I love about "Another Realm". You get to find out about all kinds of things that would normally never occur to me. Like this. You want to pay a lady to just watch you jack off. First time I've heard that one. I mean, I've heard about watching each other masterbate, or just watching her masterbate. But I've never heard of paying someone just to watch you jack off and that was it.

I can't imagine that it would be hard to find someone to do that. That's easy money right there. Just show up, watch the guy jerk off, and then leave. Easy Peasy.

Hell, you could pick up a street walker to do that for real cheap. You don't want her to touch you anyway.

The great thing about your particular fetish is there is no chance of accidental pregnancy or catching anything other than a brush burn. Good luck in your search, and happy jacking my hobby brother.

[SweetDulce]

1) not me
2) yes
3) have her instruct you, or critique ur style, play music, role play
4) only once.

[roaringfork]

1) I suspect that women are creeped out or insulted by most of the stuff guys do. Certain women are paid a lot of money not to show it (at least for an hour).
2) As with every other activity, just make a polite request during the session: "Do you mind if I...."
3) Give her more money.
4) "I don't do this for nobody else, Honey."

[Mina Harker]

I am intrigued! :3
I actually really like exploring fetishes with safe, considerate gentlemen but so far the only inquiries I've really had have been for some not so safe ones like breath control. (Because there's no way that could go badly.)

1) I think if you showed up and told me that's what you wanted to do for our time, you would have my full attention and curiosity which nearly always gets me at least a little hot under the collar so good job, you!

2) I think as a general rule, it would be good to let a lady know before hand but I would personally be pretty pleased with the surprise.

3) For me, I think just hearing you talk would be pretty interesting. Like telling me exactly what you felt. Describing sensation and mental process. I think I'd like being inside your head while you're pleasuring yourself. Though if you did that I couldn't promise not to jump you a little when you were finished which might be a mixed bag for you.

4) If by "like this" you mean sort of a fetish thing and if we're counting daddy/daughter play, I've honestly lost track. Sadly, that's the one fetish I'm very certain I'm not into.

[DallasRain]

I have several gents that have requested that type sessions...so i say BRING IT BABY/LET'S DO IT!!!!

[Guest032117]

As long as I get to masterbate while you masterbate. My most recent request and review on this was by ECCIE member "brimac." We had one hell of a sexy time!

[IanFleming]

I've had many sessions somewhat similar to what you describe. I'm not a full service guy. Too old, and condoms just deflate me. LOL. But I like many of the other activities, at least for awhile. But I really like being close to a naked lady, while basically servicing myself. I guess it goes back to the day of looking at a Playboy when I was a kid and masturbating.

But the responses I have gotten from a few of the ladies was never bad, or made me feel weird. Basically the responses were "I've never had a session like this before." Maybe they thought I was weird, but then, I am. As far as I know there was no bad feeling about it.

Anyway, that's my two cents on this subject.

[ElisabethWhispers]

When I was new, there was a guy who wanted to touch himself while (with the other hand) squeezing the side of my hip while looking in a full length mirror. Since I was new, and not familiar with that sort of thing, I was a little unnerved.

But having someone wanting to touch themselves in front of me? It happens quite a bit. Takes different forms and the folks here will know what I'm saying. Doesn't bother me at all. I LIKE it.

I don't think that you need to give some disclaimer before meeting, unless it adds a little bit of comfort to the initial meeting, and it may.

Interesting topic, though. It's appreciated that you have some concern for our feelings and well being. That's to be commended.

And welcome to Another Realm!

Sincerely,
Elisabeth

[down4fun]

all you have to do is find the right lady and work out the price

[alexissweet69]

I have no problem with that, as long as I can masterbate with you too!

[Guest101616]

So funny! This is an activity I love, roles reversed. Problem is , most "watchers" watch for maybe 2.5 seconds before deciding their one size fits all oral technique can do the job better (it doesnt, fyi). A tip of the hat to you, kind sir!

[Lena Duvall]

1) If I were met with this request when, especially if it were posed in a thoughtful way, I'd be open to obliging. I can see how this wouldn't be everyone's cup of tea, but I don't personally see anything "creepy" about it. Plus, I do appreciate when a gent is clear about his desires and how he communicates said desires.

2) I'd say to be mindful about each specific provider's boundaries around communicating about specifics and "activities" before a date. This may be included in an etiquette section on a website or elsewhere. Some providers prefer to discuss things only after screening, or after a date is confirmed. While some prefer not to at all before a date.

3)Perhaps their can be an aspect where a provider puts on a show for you. There are also so many role play possibilities. For example, some people have an ignore fetish. You and her not making contact with each other for a time could play into a similar power dynamic, if you're into that. Also, I've seen some great examples of Dominant women giving men really intricate and verbose jerk of instruction, which sometimes includes orgasm control. And of course mutual masturbation can be so much fun!

4) Outside of some brief moments of mutual masturbation, this hasn't really come up for me.

Best of luck with your search!

[Guest030824]

The ladies that check references will already know what you expect. That is the great thing about this site. I expect any lady I see for the first time to have talked to previous providers. The ladies I have met would probably encourage me to help me get off.

[DallasRain]

yes.....