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Originally Posted by MrNyceGuy
I can honestly say I would love to spend an hour with you at dinner and just talk. Then take you back to a 5 star hotel for 2 full hours of anything goes type fun.
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I actually did a version of that when Gemma was in town last.
It was the first time that we have ever met. Our history on the board has been, interesting and although I was a target of her lashing out several times...I still had a respect for her. I could tell she was smart from her quick wit and was also someone who has had a lot of life experiences. I chose to ignore her rather than fight.
One day out of the blue, I received a very sincere apology from her and accepted it. I find the inability to forgive very unattractive and self-harming attribute.
So...as I do for many visiting friends, I asked her to join me for drinks at Harry's in Westport and I kept her until after noon the next day.
When I think of Gemma..... I think of words like strong, loyal, honest and sincere.
As many of us have, she has had life experiences that caused her to keep people at an arms length to protect herself.
I have traveled down my own road, I understood where she had been and could see where she is going. Her hard exterior was her protection from the world and it served her as it needed to for a time.
I have seen her transform over time as evidence of her very honest and accepting way that she is reconciling her past with her future. Owning who she was and recognizing that it is her choice to be that person or not. A sign of someone who is taking control of her life and becoming more healthy.
So often we are our own worst enemy and lie to ourselves about people we used to be...when we have control, to an extent, to intentionally create the life we want to live.
I am sure that she can walk the walk because she has made genuine changes in her life. Why judge someone for who they were in another time?
Live in the present, think in the present, be in the moment.
I consider myself an excellent judge of character and KNOW Gemma can walk the walk. After spending 18 hours with her, several bottles of wine, falls off the bed and playing dress up with my fun lingerie...I have a great read and have seen her continuing on that path.
I hope that you receive tons of support from the Community in reinventing yourself.
Can I Walk The Walk?..
, and time, I am slowly emerging into a world of endless possibilities. A world I thought rejected me.. hated me.. punished me. I see now, I love life and the people in mine. I hope to reach out to all in need, in more positive ways. 
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