A provider applies for a job at your company

[Sir Lancehernot]

Strictly hypothetical:

A woman you know to be a provider applies for a job at your company. Either she's getting out of the business, or she works nights and weekends only, and she wants (or needs) to have a day job.

Several different scenarios are possible:
1) Probably the easiest one is that you know who she is -- you saw her ads or her P411 profile, or a buddy sent you her pic -- but she doesn't know you.

2) You know each other -- say you met at some socials -- but you never met BCD.

3) You've been BCD with her.

How would you address the situation?

Would it make a difference if you were involved in the hiring decision or will be in her supervisory chain? Would it make a difference if she saw you and recognized you?

[Donnie Brasco]

Same as seeing her at the mall, at the dance club, the lake, or at the park. You DAMN SURE never, ever leave the door open to mix business with the hobby. Unless, you want your world to come down crashing. Then it's perfectly alright to invite the opportunity of that hapenning.

[Captain Caveman]

What Donnie Brasco said... I would go to great lengths to treat her as a new employee who is new to my company. I would keep it business appropriate.

[steverino50]

The first rule of Fight Club!

[MrKlean]

+1
Don't mix business and pleasure......NEVER!
You have too much to lose.

[Sir Lancehernot]

I think you guys are being much too simple in your thinking.

I was thinking of the potential for either of you to use the knowledge that you had to influence the hiring decision, one way or the other. I was thinking of the potential for a somewhat awkward working relationship, whether it would be better for either one or both of you if she weren't hired for that particular job. I was also thinking about the ability for the ability of either party to cause the other some professional or personal discomfort if the working relationship went bad. I was thinking about the potential for problems should the company discover her "night job" and then, somehow, that you were aware of it.

Being in close proximity on a daily basis, or having knowledge that might influence a company's decision, is a lot more complex than merely bumping into her in a mall.

[Charlie_Harper]

It won't be on the resume. So it never happened. EEOC applies.

[Iluvwomen]

If she is easy on the eyes and shows up everyday hire her.

[bigtxhorseman]

Could be a tough situation...let's go with the scenario that the 2 of you know one another. The fact of having been BCD doesn't matter, guilty by association in the public's eye. You can not NOT hire her simply based on her "other" activities.she could be quite qualified for the position, not mention you could be left with a law suit pending....not likely but possible.
So, now lies another question. When do you have "the talk"? During the hiring process? After she's hired? Or after you've hired someone else? That should be fun explaining why someone else got the job!

[jafun]

What happens in hobby stays here! Treat her with respect and just like everyone else.

[Precision45]

Very unstable ground for sure. If you happen to know each other and she applies, it could possibly be used as leverage (by her) to influence you to hire her (Blackmail.) I'm not saying all gals are like that, it's just a scenario.

The other possible scenario I see is that I wouldn't want to have an employee get arrested for prostitution. The fallout from that could have long lasting problems for both sides.

The most professional way to handle it would be to interview her as if she's anyone else coming in. If she's the most qualified, fits the mold of the most ideal candidate your looking for, then hire her, if not then don't. Employers are not required to hire someone just because they are qualified for the job. In this day and age, most companies are doing background checks on potential candidates and being a known provider is absolute reason NOT to hire someone.

[elgato111]

It is best to keep the hobby and business separate to protect yourself. However, in a business situation the decision as to whether or not hire someone who is qualified for the job should not be based on personal experience with that person.

All companies go through various background checks which include qualifications for the job. If she turns out to be the best candidate for the job then she should be given the opportunity.

If you and she are familiar with each other, have seen each other BCD, and you are her supervisor of course there needs to be a frank conversation about what is expected in the workplace and that work has nothing to do with the hobby.

This is not an easy situation for either party. Just have to play it by ear in my opinion.

[LuckJack]

I actually hired a provider a couple of years back. We met at a social and discovered we had common interest (Not BCD) She was my best employee, now she was mature and kinda BBW so no one blinked an eye but that gal could sell ice to Eskimos. She has retired and is perusing a culinary career (no not Nicole Preston, although she attended several classes I thought) When you deal with mature sane people you can be cool.

[Hercules]

Convince her that a special "breathalyzer" is all part of the normal screening process and that pantyless Tuesdays/Wednesdays/Thursdays/Fridays are mandatory.

[OldTimeBuddie]

My perspective: I have only rarely seen a provider with whom I do not already have an emotional connection (mostly recommendations from others I trust) or with whom such a bond didn't wind up being made (have a couple in that process right now)

Bear with the story, it's relevant I promise.

There's a board game called "A Question Of Scruples," which my family played regularly -- you pull a card with a moral dilemma, and state how you would handle it. If challenged on your answer both sides get a chance make their case, then everyone votes as to whether you are fibbing or not by holding up a card with a thumbs up or thumbs down. You get "points" for successfully fibbing.

At one point I got a card which asked if I would help an (understood to be qualified) friend get a job where I worked.

I responded that I would not, and made a passionate defense of my side when challenged. Everyone at the table including the sib who challenged me ended up holding up the thumbs up card -- except for me. I held up my down card and said "Don't be stupid, of *course* I would help a friend." Round won.