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bobo1cg · 08-11-2015, 03:21 PM

So every since i have entered the wonderful world of intercourse, I have had one fundamental problem. I can never seem to achieve climax during sex. Many times within the first few minutes i feel really close like it’s going to happen but alas it does not. In my research, i have gathered that it may be a consequence of my many years of porn viewing and self gratification. I have inadvertently trained Mr. Peterson to only respond to Ms. Palm and her 5 daughters. In an effort to resolve this issue, I have decided to abstain from any sexual endeavors for 3 weeks. This includes but is not limited to: Porn, self gratification, sex, etc. basically anything invovling touching my member. lol 3 weeks does not sound like a long time, but for a man in his 30s with a huge sexual appetite and lots of energy this will be the most torture that i could ever put myself through. I dont have much sexual experience but i do know this, I LOVE SEX!!!!! My hope is that if i somehow make it the full 3 weeks, I will be so built up and horny that just looking at a woman will make me explode. It will be like a reboot to my system. It may be a lost cause but after...some lucky provider will feel the wrath of the BEAST! lol
Does anyone think this is a good idea or am i just setting myself up for disappointment?

Chung Tran · 08-11-2015, 03:28 PM

it's a great idea... I think you are probably right about the source of the problem, and the cure.

only thing I would add is, tell yourself it's Mr. Palm and his 5 sons.. maybe your desire to jack off will be less intense, LOL..

bobo1cg · 08-11-2015, 03:30 PM

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Originally Posted by Chung Tran

it's a great idea... I think you are probably right about the source of the problem, and the cure.

only thing I would add is, tell yourself it's Mr. Palm and his 5 sons.. maybe your desire to jack off will be less intense, LOL..

Thanks, lol i'll do that

M69 · 08-11-2015, 04:13 PM

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Originally Posted by bobo1cg

So every since i have entered the wonderful world of intercourse, I have had one fundamental problem. I can never seem to achieve climax during sex. Many times within the first few minutes i feel really close like it’s going to happen but alas it does not. In my research, i have gathered that it may be a consequence of my many years of porn viewing and self gratification. I have inadvertently trained Mr. Peterson to only respond to Ms. Palm and her 5 daughters. In an effort to resolve this issue, I have decided to abstain from any sexual endeavors for 3 weeks. This includes but is not limited to: Porn, self gratification, sex, etc. basically anything invovling touching my member. lol 3 weeks does not sound like a long time, but for a man in his 30s with a huge sexual appetite and lots of energy this will be the most torture that i could ever put myself through. I dont have much sexual experience but i do know this, I LOVE SEX!!!!! My hope is that if i somehow make it the full 3 weeks, I will be so built up and horny that just looking at a woman will make me explode. It will be like a reboot to my system. It may be a lost cause but after...some lucky provider will feel the wrath of the BEAST! lol
Does anyone think this is a good idea or am i just setting myself up for disappointment?

There are 2 other potential solutions to your issue:

Exercise vigorously at least 3 or 4 times a week.
Eliminate Alcohol

bobo1cg · 08-11-2015, 04:24 PM

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Originally Posted by M69

There are 2 other potential solutions to your issue:

Exercise vigorously at least 3 or 4 times a week.
Eliminate Alcohol

I try not to drink before sex because i want to remember every moment.
I am a fit guy and exercise everyday will be the only thing that will keep me going for the next 3 weeks. I have a semi-physically demanding job. My fitbit claims that i burn about 4000 calories a day.

Goose2u · 08-11-2015, 04:56 PM

Have one of our oral experts diagnose you

bobo1cg · 08-11-2015, 05:10 PM

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Originally Posted by Goose2u

Have one of our oral experts diagnose you

That is a good idea, i usually do full service maybe a great oral exam will do the trick.

Chung Tran · 08-11-2015, 05:19 PM

bad idea.. you may love the oral exam, end up excluding FS from your menu, then end up with Dudes blowing you furtively in Department Store restrooms..

go with your original idea

bobo1cg · 08-11-2015, 05:26 PM

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Originally Posted by Chung Tran

bad idea.. you may love the oral exam, end up excluding FS from your menu, then end up with Dudes blowing you furtively in Department Store restrooms..

go with your original idea

lol, you crazy Chung

Im still going to do my original idea and if it works then i can flash flood a woman with a BBBJ

ithyphallicus · 08-11-2015, 07:38 PM

Definitely layoff the self gratification. It may be hard at times but it will be worth it.

Invisible1 · 08-11-2015, 07:42 PM

You will be the "master of your domain!"
Good luck.

bobo1cg · 08-11-2015, 08:00 PM

We shall see what happens if i can make it or not. But i will say it is a love/hate thing for the ladies. Some women enjoy the fact that i can just keep going. On the other hand i did see one provider that annoyingly told me i need to hurry up (total turn off). I do get this response alot "this has never happened before" sometimes negative sometimes positive. lol

Sophia Banks · 08-11-2015, 08:06 PM

I'm not a guy, but I think you are doing a great job being so self aware already. There are many movies and studies done about men (and women) that have trouble climaxing in real life with a real person because you're brain is now trained with your lifelong self pleasuring and expectation patterns. I know that if I use my vibrator too much or for too long, like hours, my clit is numb for days and it's kinda scary, but the feeling does come back.

So, I'm also wondering if this is happening because you are using condoms during live sex, I hope. And if so, welcome to the club because condoms can definitely kill the orgasm buzz, even going limp......sooo often. Maybe try a female condom on the woman, then your cock isn't strangulated....or BBBJ

Also, many medications have this as a Side effect, mostly some antidepressants and blood pressure medications. As a female, when I was on Effexor for anxiety, I could not climax no matter what, could get right on the edge, but nothing, and libido decreased too. If it's meds, ask dr try something else.

Bravo for you to have the balls to be honest and you will find lots of good feedback hopefully here!

bobo1cg · 08-11-2015, 08:09 PM

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Originally Posted by Sophia Banks

I'm not a guy, but I think you are doing a great job being so self aware already. There are many movies and studies done about men (and women) that have trouble climaxing in real life with a real person because you're brain is now trained with your lifelong self pleasuring and expectation patterns. I know that if I use my vibrator too much or for too long, like hours, my clit is numb for days and it's kinda scary, but the feeling does come back.

So, I'm also wondering if this is happening because you are using condoms during live sex, I hope. And if so, welcome to the club because condoms can definitely kill the orgasm buzz, even going limp......sooo often. Maybe try a female condom on the woman, then your cock isn't strangulated....or BBBJ

Bravo for you to have the balls to be honest and you will find lots of good feedback hopefully here!

Thanks, I have never used a female condom but sounds interesting.

seanj317 · 08-11-2015, 08:16 PM

bobo, you don't need 3 weeks, 1 week will do. i have delt with this. 1 week will change your outlook. your balls will be grapefruit sized, and your appetite will be like an Ethiopian in the 80's at a buffet!
1 week will make you cum in 30 seconds while inside a blessed vagina bro. ask me how i know. porn wrecks this for us, you need to stop with the porn, no jacking junior, wait 1 week, and hire the sweetest lady who responds to this thread. Sex will be like a new found skill.
I can make some recommendations....when your ready.....