providers/clients-perspective/starting out?

[c.c.]

I have a friend who is seeing a guy, and just accepting what she is being offered. She says because she is not an actual escort, that she has to take what she can get. I've told her that the money is for the time spent with a worthy woman(which she is), in her eyes it's just for the...

So I pose the question to providers; when you bagan, did you take what you could, when you could, or what you thought, or were told it was worth?

And for clients; in your eyes, are you donating for the time, or for the activities?

[boo-boo bear]

You are donating for the time, and time alone, as any other definition would make it tricky, now wouldn't it? However, we all have "certain expectations" as to what will, hopefully, occur. Now, it kind of sounds to me that your lady friend is accepting what is given as she does not wish to define herself as an escort or as receiving money for "activities", but just getting "help". And if you have explained to her as to what she should do to improve her income stream then it is up to her to take the actions to make the changes. But it does sound, as you explained it, that the guy may be taking advantage.

[c.c.]

The guy, is definately taking advantage of her. And, you are correct, she is just seeking help, not branching out.

[Guest011512]

Here is another way to view it: She is accepting a lower fee in order to be extremely selective in the client(s) whom she is seeing.

As far as time/service, from a client's prespective, I take the standard disclaimer seriously:

"This site does not promote a prostitution ring nor is this advertisement or any content therein an offer for prostitution. Money exchanged is for companionship only and anything beyond that is a choice made between two consenting adults and not contracted for by the site or myself."

In two of my favorite sessions this year, the provider never got around to taking her panties off.

[BigEddie]

We expect a certain experience within the timeframe. Most of us expect a sexual experience. Sometimes a guy just wants a lady to go to an event with him. But we all have expectations of what will happen during that time. Before I found sites like this, I ran into a few ladies who refused to do anything but talk because I was paying for "time and time alone." I thought were nothing but rip off artists.

It's hard to say if this guy is taking advantage of her without knowing more information on her and on how much he's paying her. And if she's happy with it, why not leave it alone? You could end up driving away this guy, leaving her with nothing.

[c.c.]

This wasn't/isn't supposed to be a thread about my friend, or the circumstances that have her doing, what she is doing. I was just giving a little background, so that it was known what prompted the question.

Activities, are "implied", and I might feel a little ripped off, if I didn't get them BCD, but it depends on the woman/provider, and how she made me feel, while we were doing, whatever we were doing. In my experience, what has made a great session is the moments in between, if all we wanted was the activities, why wouldn't we just seek out a street walker for less?

[travelling_man]

If she is not a legitimate escort with ads, a website, rates posted with her expectations then it is nothing more than a friend helping out another friend. She should be grateful that a friend is willing to help her out and accept what he offers if she chooses to see him. If she thinks that what he gives her is too little then she should tell him or don't see him any longer. It's really that simple. No one is taking "advantage" of anyone else. If two people agree on the activities and a price then it's really no one else's business.

It kind of sounds like a modified type of dating relationship or a sugardaddy relationship. Those can't be compared to a beginning escort so the question asked has no basis for reference. They are totally separate things. What your friend or a girl in a similar situation might get for spending some quality time getting frisky with her friend is nothing at all like an escort advertising herself to the whole world and fucking a complete stranger. Your friends knows the guy in question and chooses to spend time with him. What he gives her in return for her time is unique to that situation only.