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Originally Posted by Natalie Reign
If a provider has multiple reviews, do you feel it's necessary to ask about services? If so, why?
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The primary reason given for no explicit conversation about services and fees is that it makes a case for LE. From the guy's perspective, if they've passed your screening, they may be under the impression that you've determined that they aren't LE. From there it's a short leap of inductive reasoning that then it ought to be OK to discuss specifics.
Their reason to discuss specifics is to assure their satisfaction and to make sure that everyone's expectations are on the table and any boundaries are clearly defined.
Why? Reviews are not always accurate, especially in the comments section, and may include embellishments to secure "atta boy" and "you're my hero" sorts of comments from fellow hobbyists.
Sometimes under the broad GFE experience umbrella in the visible part of the review, activities may be included in the comments that may or may not be on the menu for
everybody (YMMV), or aren't ever on the menu for
anybody but they make the reviewer sound like a stud like CIM, NQNS, TUHA, TUMA, etc., because the provider may not typically allow it but
they got it because they are so great in bed, so charming, so hot, so whatever.
So, the apparently experienced, yet nice, guys who think that you are now certain that they aren't LE may feel OK with asking about taboos because they want to clear, and if something they want, that may be a dealbreaker for them, is going to be on the menu, even if it requires something extra with regards to compensation, or that something that seems to require extra compensation from some other providers is part of the standard sticker-price option package.
For the guys in this category, since they assume that they aren't considered LE that now it's incumbent upon them to make sure that
all communication is clear.
Now, as to what to so, if you tell them that you're not comfortable having that sort of discussion, whether it's via phone email or face-to-face,
and they persist, then yeah, they're being clueless and it may sound strict but shutting them out from then on is entirely your prerogative. If they do it, literally,
once and then you entirely shut them down, then yeah, that seems overly drastic and borderline clinically paranoid. But still it's your decision and that's all the explanation you need to give.
After all, there's more than enough fish in the sea, for both parties. Even if you're really being unreasonable, I'm sure the guy can find somebody else to meet his needs and take his money and you'll be able to find a suitable suitor to replace him as well. The boards are filled with hyperbole, some playful, some courteous, some socially "lubricating" (so to speak) and some delusional about how wonderful this person or that person is, but in the end, none of us is irreplaceable or God's singular gift to the other gender. If somebody (usually the guy) then gets pissed because they got frozen out (by you or somebody else) and starts on a scorched earth campaign to trash the object of their frustration, they're just labeling themselves as an egocentric little whiny crybaby with big red permanent marker on their foreheads.
I mean, seriously, the worst thing that's happening to them is they wanted some pussy but didn't get laid;
big fucking deal. That's it? That's their fucking end of the world tragedy? They should be ashamed to be whining about getting a little sand in their precious pink
manginas when there's hundreds of human beings out there, just in this city alone, dealing with real life-or-death shit like cancer, strokes, physical abuse, and addiction. Fucking walk it off, nancy-boy.
Request for Advice from the Hobbyists
And what about wardrobe requests? Does telling providers that I have a bra and panty fetish cross the line?
That's the point.
