relationship experience, how to compensate

[jondalart]

I think this would make a good compliment thread to the "fuck and leave" discussion.

I will admit to having enjoyed the relationship experience in the past with an awesome provider. I appreciated it, and as I think back, I sometimes gave extra gifts. But not always. I think I could have been more generous in hindsight.

I do remember sexting with the provider one night, and she sent me pics to help me jack off. On my next date, I gave her an extra $100 tip for helping me get off.

I also gave extra gifts for Xmas, Valentines, birthday, my birthday (lol), usually cash, plus a couple of small things.

Curious to hear providers opinions, as well as suggestions from hobbiest on what they think is fair.

[DiamondJohn]

Treat them nice. Show respect. Golden rule applies to everyone.

[Guest042416]

Originally Posted by DiamondJohn

Fuck and leave. Or get a lady in the real world.

lmfao!!!

what he said.

I cant even do an overnight without kicking her out anyway after the deed is done once or twice, ive tried, cant do it.

Im like wtf do we do now., ill take you home fuck this spooning shit,

sorry task I ve tried it twice and I cant do it with a provider, just cant, I do pay them the overnight fee we agreed on and give them the ride home after I tell them its time to go, no cuddle form e.

That being said I can do it with a date or a girl where no money exchanged ive done that I still aint crazy about it but that's becauses im just not into that shit but I can do it,

When its with a provider with the money exchanged, hmmm not for me.

Ive tried, I also think to myself now that I would have the provider at my place all the time once they know where im living, or pulling drop overs as some providers have been known to do on here with some members.

This be another good thread, the love fest will come out in the guys that get hooked and all in love so have at it.

Fuck and Leave for me

[woodywouldpekher]

This thread could actually go in more directions that just fuck and leave. Gift giving is aka tip giving. Gifts and/or tips should always be based on the quality of service.

[JohnnyCap]

Definitely a good complement to the other sappy wuss look at me bullshitbird. The golden rule is half-assed at best.

What do I think is fair? Paying a fair fucking fee and avoiding the bullshit.

[Guest070916]

Originally Posted by DiamondJohn

Treat them nice. Show respect. Golden rule applies to everyone.

Certainly does and it's just common sense!
Werked very well for me over the years!......

[JONBALLS]

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=h_uvBGrJSCE#t=14

[Guest070916]

LOL....great tune JB! Almost posted it yesterday in a thread dealing with all the Asians flocking into Buff lately!.....

[JohnnyCap]

Bad music and lots of children, perfect for eccie.

Is this where you're supposed to say "ijs"?

[KaylaRyder]

Originally Posted by DiamondJohn

Treat them nice. Show respect. Golden rule applies to everyone.

Yes it does... xoxoxoxoxo

[KaylaRyder]

Originally Posted by jondalart

I think this would make a good compliment thread to the "fuck and leave" discussion.

I will admit to having enjoyed the relationship experience in the past with an awesome provider. I appreciated it, and as I think back, I sometimes gave extra gifts. But not always. I think I could have been more generous in hindsight.

I do remember sexting with the provider one night, and she sent me pics to help me jack off. On my next date, I gave her an extra $100 tip for helping me get off.

I also gave extra gifts for Xmas, Valentines, birthday, my birthday (lol), usually cash, plus a couple of small things.

Curious to hear providers opinions, as well as suggestions from hobbiest on what they think is fair.

I think that's awsome, although I never exspect it... I give more of myself and extra time to those who continue to see me on a regular basis.. I'm a connector and if there's a connection I would rather see the same guys then the first guy who is ready to throw $ my way.. my regulars always get first dibs of my play time, wich is normally very minimal .. I do care about those I see and I tend to catch feelings although I think ik when to draw the line..

[dominic716]

you seem like a good girl trisha good heart nothing wrong with caring or wanting to be cared for and respected in return just human nature still a few providers i still care about alot that i will prob never see again

[TSlyC]

This may have to do with the type of provider I most enjoy(not typically girl next door type - sorry Trisha!) but I simply don't understand this kind of relationship.

I have given gifts to providers who I've known for a long time, in the same way I give my long term doctor or barber a gift for the holidays. They're people who make my life easier/more enjoyable.

I've paid providers, been given good service and left(w/ repeat visits).

OR

Dated a provider/former provider and stopped paying all together.

Its difficult for me to imagine paying with money, and also with my affection. To have a relationship where you wonder if your fun is based on the $$$ in your pocket.

If you're looking for emotional support, I'd suggest dating someone.

If you're looking for quality service with no strings attached(most of the time), I'd suggest seeing a provider.

[jondalart]

even though there is some trolling on this thread, i mean for this to trigger some thoughts on guys who are enioying the relationship aspect. I know from a few providers, that they are inundated with email, texts, etc, and if guys are looking for the hybrid provider/relationship thing, there probably should be an assessment of the value, and the hobbiest should be trying to make it worth the providers time. Maybe barter, or driving for a provider when they have car issues, or even take them shopping. I remember OSD had a "take a hooker shopping" thread.

I also cannot discuss this without cautionvfor the hobbiest about providers who play the love con, and take guys for a ride, so it can be reversed where the hobbiest is getting hosed.

I have found that providers who are in the 300ph range usually have better communications, as far as seduction and fiendly emails and such, so in those cases, the providers are getting a little more per date to offset the unchargable time of flirting, and niceties via email, etc.

Although I appreciate a friendly provider, i really like the eroticism and seduction a skille provider or courtesan can bring. I love it when the flirting gets me so hot, that i cannot wait to see them again.

The responses in the FandL thread showed there us a lot of hobby interest in the hybridization.

[jondalart]

That is really a good thing to do, as regulars allow you to reduce screening time, and/or canceled appointments, and you get to know what they rsally enjoy. as a hobbiest who appreciates such things, i also care about the provider not overdoing it, as well as being comfortable from a prosperity perspective. though if providers struggle money wise, there is usually a self destructive reason behind it.

for providers who enjoy the experience, it can be tough to seperate the eroticism from actual feelings. Sort of job requirement to able to sort it and realize to just enjoy it for the moment, and appreciate it for what it is.

Originally Posted by trisha.xxx .countrygirl

I think that's awsome, although I never exspect it... I give more of myself and extra time to those who continue to see me on a regular basis.. I'm a connector and if there's a connection I would rather see the same guys then the first guy who is ready to throw $ my way.. my regulars always get first dibs of my play time, wich is normally very minimal .. I do care about those I see and I tend to catch feelings although I think ik when to draw the line..