What little things do you appreciate most?

[Guest062512]

Originally Posted by tracibrooks

That first part surprises me. I always jump up kind of quick to get a warm cloth because in my head I think "I wouldn't want to lay there all sticky!" Perhaps wrongful thinking? Everything else is perfectly understandable. Thanks for the input!

Here's a suggestion: Keep a washcloth or hand towel (dry) on the nightstand or under the pillow - somewhere reachable - when the deed is done, without leaving the bed (or the bedmate) grab that cloth in one hand, snuggle up with your head on my chest, and do a quick but gentle wipe down as we relax and cool down. Then when the time is better, you can get a warm wet cloth to finish the cleanup or we can just hop in the shower. This gets rid of the "sticky" and keeps you there in my arms for the afterglow.







~~CR~~

[Bonferroni]

Great suggestion Crossroads. Quite a few of the AMP providers keep their warm washcloths in a rice steamer or crockpot in their rooms.

[ItalianaPrincess]

Swallowing.

That's what I love about you TEXAS T - you are so low maintenance.





XOXO
ItalianaPrincess

[ONEXKID]

Originally Posted by ItalianaPrincess

That's what I love about you TEXAS T - you are so low maintenance.





XOXO
ItalianaPrincess

I'm VERY low maintenance too... Lol

[Guest062912]

Originally Posted by Lancs4440

Wow, what a great thread!

Thanks, I'm glad you think so! And those were some hot scenarios. I can see how you'd be stuck on a girl like that. Certainly sounds like ATF material. Appreciate you stopping by!

Originally Posted by Crossroads

Here's a suggestion: Keep a washcloth or hand towel (dry) on the nightstand or under the pillow - somewhere reachable - when the deed is done, without leaving the bed (or the bedmate) grab that cloth in one hand, snuggle up with your head on my chest, and do a quick but gentle wipe down as we relax and cool down. Then when the time is better, you can get a warm wet cloth to finish the cleanup or we can just hop in the shower. This gets rid of the "sticky" and keeps you there in my arms for the afterglow.

Oooo, good idea, CR! You're so smart!

[TexTongue]

Awesome Thread!! Thanks Traci!!!

[st929]

Oh forgot to mention a personal favorite ... meeting me at door fresh from shower with no perfume smell to attach to my clothes which don't get washed. LOL. I love the fresh from shower look and no perfume means no stupid excuses.

[PoppyToyota]

My most memorable moment happened last year. She was the first provider to kiss me like she meant it. Until then I wasn't sure what the term "IOP" meant. What a passionate kisser! She left me weak in the knees and I almost fell down from her kiss. Sure wish i could find another to kiss like hers. Driving 260 miles is asking a lot but, I'm sure I'll be heading back down at one point or another.

[Copierguy0]

Originally Posted by tracibrooks

Awesome replies everyone. I really appreciate your input.

The thing I find interesting, is there are a few things (in this thread and other places) that I've seen multiple people write exactly the same, and then I've seen things that are exactly opposite for two people. For instance, some gents LOVE when I let them undress me and take their time with it, and others are disappointed and a little put-out if I don't jump out of my clothes right away.

This hobby is so incredibly varied, which is both wonderful and frustrating, lol. I'd have to add open communication to my list of desired qualities. I find that the clients that are very open with me about what they like and want are usually the ones that leave most satisfied, and I feel most satisfied by a job well done. And also I would have to add patience and compassion to my list. The ones that forgive my little mistakes, my awkward moments, my quirkiness. The ones that really understand that I'm a person, and a relatively young one at that. I don't have it all figured out yet, and the ones that are patient and compassionate are the ones I LOVE to see, again and again.

Sometimes I think we forget that everyone has ATFs (even providers), but we can't all expect to be everyone's ATF. I really believe that ACTING like an ATF is the best way to become one. Ladies, pay attention and remember what he likes. Make him feel welcome and comfortable. If you want him to come back, give him a reason to. Gents, do something that makes you stand out to her, in a positive way. If you want to be treated like her ATF, then act like it. Bring her little gifts that let her know that you KNOW her, and what she likes. Be considerate and understanding. Talk to her like she's a PERSON. Be a tipper (it doesn't even need to be a lot. Even just an extra $20 can be the highlight of my day, because it makes me feel like he really enjoys me and feels like I am valuable, and recognizes that I don't just try to give the minimum acceptable effort). All of these things are some of the ways my ATFs got their status.

So, shout out to my ATFs. You know who you are, and you know that I just adore you and appreciate you! You are the masters of my hobby universe, and the reason I love my job. <3

Great Thread Traci and A LOT of Great Responses:

“During Screening Process and before session”

Please read my Profile & BIO on P411. I paid for that service and took my time to completely fill out my Profile & Bio for a reason, please take the time to read it. A gent can always tell if a lady read it by the things she does or doesn’t do in a session. Traci, you are so right when you said that the hobby can be so diversified, when you have gents liking everything from BNG to over nights, from wham bam to romantic passionate people. A Great Provider has to be able to turn on a switch that her session favors and wear many hats.

IMHO: A very nice plus to see if we are compatible would be if the lady sent me a PM or talked to me in Chat and asked any questions she might have about ME after she had the chance to read my P411. I had a lady once cancel an appointment with me after reading my BIO when she found out I like DFK and she don’t. I respected that and thanked her for not wasting my $$$ and her time. Communication is very important with me as is your attitude towards me. I am the kind of guy that likes Passionate Romantic sessions. If you have a Passionate Attitude towards me, you will make my heart sing, for an hour or 2. (GFE)

During Session:

You will ALWAYS control your session with me and I will ALWAYS be a Gentleman with you. After doing the above, you already know my likes and dislikes. Candles lit, music playing, (brought drinks with me and maybe a fruit plate) and you have that look in your eye that you are happy to see me. You kiss me as soon as I walk through your door and welcome me into your home and arms.

After the session:

You were very pleased with our time together and you let me know it every chance you got, through PM or in chat IM, or in an Email. Guy’s love to know when we did something right and made you happy. Stroke our Ego. We love it. On the flip side, let us know when we did not do something right or something you did not approve of. I might be a minority on this next statement but I for one, love input or your thoughts of how you thought our session went from beginning to end because Pleasing you, Pleases me.

CG

[Harley*Jayden]

Originally Posted by what the hell

I haven't read every post, I didn't even get off the first page. So if what I typed has been stated several times, sorry.

Just a disclaimer - I realize that I am not the only one that these things happen to regarding specific providers.

After I finish, I like when she gets a warm towel/washcloth and cleans me with it herself instead of just handing it to me. Kinky Little Nikki does a good job at cleaning. After cleaning me sufficiently, she actually looked all around and inspected my area to make sure she cleaned it all. I don't recall anyone else that I have seen that does it. Some providers practically throw the washcloth at you or just tell you to go to the bathroom to clean up.

The first time I saw Reese Foster she called me by name during bcd. So far she is the first and only one to do so. On my second visit, she remembered something about my personality that I don't even remember telling her during our first visit. She used that knowledge to enhance the second visit. And it was probably 3 months inbetween visits.

I like to talk before and after bcd. Most providers start getting dressed and seem disinterested after bcd. They don't talk as much, I guess trying to get you to leave. On my first visit with sovanna, after bcd I started getting dressed and she kept her clothes off and told me to keep mine off and lay beside her. We then went for round two a few minutes later. Definitely the first to do that, and I don't recall it ever happening again.

In one particular session I had discussed wanting to finish with a cof. She agreed. So that time came ( ) and I hurried up to her face to finish. Then she stuck out her tongue to catch it in her mouth. We didn't discuss that, it was a total shock. That was totally hot. I know this is TMI, but I am getting aroused just typing it and this was 3.5 years ago. I won't name her because I don't know if she wants it to be known.

I always like when a provider asks me to pull her hair or spank her. That is always a plus. Again, read the TMI statement above. A couple of providers have done this. Kinky Little Nikki and SexyJazzy are two that come to mind.

And i love it

[E2]

A beautiful gal giving you a subtle, knowing smile.

[LuckJack]

Traci, very good thread and I think one thing stand out, the most erogenous zone of our body is the one between our ears. It truly is the little things. In fact I was talking to an old friend, we had an affair years ago, we both agreed the sex was great but what we missed was the affection.

Someone posted a before session and during session which makes sense to me. My biggest turn off, when PMing and txting a provider for a future appointment is to put the ball in her court (give P411, references, ask for a specific day, etc.) and she goes silent for days. Maybe I am wrong but that just rings of flakiness and I avoid that like fighting with the IRS.

Little things during the session:

The greeting at the door, recently a provider met me in a sexy outfit but that was not what got me, she gave me a wonderful full body hug, it was about as sexy as you could get without penetration. One of my favs used to greet me and whisper in my ear something about how she had missed me and it never was exactly the same, once she teared up when she said it, see that was years ago.. but I still think about it.

The smile, The laugh, I love, love, love it when the lady is smiling and upbeat makes for a fun experience. One of my favs laughs and cracks jokes the whole time, no pretense at sexiness, just a fun romp. Another fav smiles and laughs but can get serious, as long as it is upbeat. Leave the real world troubles outside.

The touch, remember the stories about adopted Russian babies and their troubles connecting because they were not touched and held as infants? Ladies I can not tell you how much your caress means to me. If you want SUPER DATY just caress my head as I preform and prepare for blast off.

The word, words have power; "your a handsome man", "your cute"," God you really know how to drive me crazy", "OMG you are on my G spot". Recently I was in a session and she was in CG and she was going to town, I wanted to change position to last longer, she rolled off and said "anything you want but you are really doing it for me" guess who got flipped back on top and got her's. I am not saying to script some lines but if it feels good tell me.

The look, one thing in common with all my favs is that at some point they give me the look. Not the look of lust but a look into my eyes without blinking or looking away that says for this moment we two are the only people in the world.

The sex, OK it needs to be good too, not mechanical of course. Boundaries need to be discussed and I don't mind you gently moving my hand away, I get the message.

The after, please cuddle, yeah I know that is what women are supposed to want. Goose/Gander

The time, Bad-"Your time is up". Good- "Hope your knees aren't still shacking 'cause we better get you on your feet before somebody misses you"

Ladies, thanks so much for your input, you make me want to be a better hobbyist (sorry couldn't stop myself)

[daveindallas]

no clock watching,
no signs of a routine,
a text or email or voice mail(I am divorced so no worries of a SO)the next day or a few days later which makes me feel i wasn't forgotten, and making me feel like there is something about me which is unique or different from most gents she sees.
not jumping up too soon afterwards,at least give me the illusion you would love to stay right there forever.
compliments go a long way.
make me feel like you can't keep your hands off me.
make me feel like i have the magic touch and can make you cum like most men can't.
if you make me feel like i could be your bf if things were different,you have me hooked.

[Guest062912]

Looks like this thread has been resurrected with fervor. Some good stuff flowing in, again. Thanks for all the input and tidbits, ladies and gents. I love reading this stuff! <3

[pmdelites]

i cannot remember if it was posted [or even if i posted it, cos i havent re-read the entire thread]....

yep, there are times when the clothes hit the floor in 10 seconds or less and we are down and dirty, but there are times ...

when i really enjoy letting me undress you and you undressing me. when i'm in the mood for lots of varieties of stimulation, hearing "why dont you get comfortable" zaps that mood. but undressing each other, item by item and not all at once, adds to the overall stimulation and allows for more body to body, lips to body, hand to body, etc. connections. a few women i visit make sure they dont undress by themselves, either immediately after i've walked in the door or as we are ready to proceed.

also...
calling me by my name as i rev up your engine or you rev up mine. and i'm not talking "oh god, that's fucking fantastic!!!" that's the all powerful's name, not mine.

sending a nice email or text a few days later or even weeks later. it makes me believe that you do care that i was there and would like for me to come back for more delites.

not being so rushed or overbooked so that when i a few minutes late or stay a few minutes over the planned hour, you're cool with that. i know i am a procrastinator and underestimate drive times, but knowing i'm not going to get booted out the door at 60:01 after we started is nice. your flexibilty is rewarded when i return the 2nd, 3rd, 4th, 10th time. that and w/ the little treat or tip i leave behind.

after i've visited many times and we are comfortable w/ and enjoy each other's company, extending the time [15-30 mins] we spend together at no extra consulting fee or offering a discount for longer extra time is a real treat. i hope that means you enjoy my company as much as i enjoy yours.

coming up w/ a different kind of encounter or role playing or totally offering yourself to me is a special bonus. i hope that means you not only enjoy my company but trust that i am respectful of your boundaries and put delites at the top of our list.

thanks traci for bringing this up in january, and sexy jazzy for resurrecting it.