KNOWING YOUR WORK (question for the ladies)

[wantsome]

This is related to the other thread about what to do if you know a co-worker is a provider.

Have any of the ladies here ever run into the other situation of having a new potential date contact you and when checking references, finding out he either works with you in your "other job" or is someone you know outside of the hobby? How do you deal with this? Do you just get back to him, do you just tell him no, or do you let him know that you are not comfortable being you know him? Obviously the other option is to just go ahead with the appointment.

I have seen this question on other boards and was facinated at some of the answers.

[Chloe]

Are you asking because I SO gave you THAT look across the office??? Quit making that look and SO proposition me

[BrookeButtons]

As I answered this question in the other post......

I say stay away. I have always had "other jobs" besides this one and if somehow it came up or a co-worker found out that I was a provider....I would kindly decline. Way too messy for both parties and a lot to loose from both. If you really have to think about seeing the lady in question....its probably your inner person telling you what you already know, that it isn't a good idea. As far as her telling other employees, you shouldn't have to worry. Many of us girls realize that when the session ends, that is that. We go about our lives and ask you to go about yours. And the only time this session is ever brought back up, is when a reference is in question. Bottom line, I would say stay away. Too many what if's could happen and probably would happen. Especially if you feel as though she may not be able to handle keeping this UTR

[offshoredrilling]

My ATF is trying to get a 1 year contract job where I work. If she gets it. Well I will stay her friend. And it will be hell for 1 year. As I would be thinking of making it NO talking about it at work. And cut it off till the contract is up. But we are still talking. She is thinking weekends only. MMMMMMM maybe, not sure I like that idea.

[GP]

Originally Posted by offshoredrilling

And cut it off till the contract is up.

LOL

[Doove]

Originally Posted by offshoredrilling

And cut it off till the contract is up.

Originally Posted by GP

LOL

Yeah, it does seem a little extreme, OSD. I'd recommend you not do that.

[offshoredrilling]

Ok I did not pick my words with care.
But I do feel that if I keep seeing her as a UTR providers. That it could be a problem. She is of the thinking that if she gets the job. On the weekends would be ok. Of the times I have seen folks that play with others at work. Most of the time it does not end well. Too many times I have seen one or the other get fired. A few times both.

[brutusbluto]

Originally Posted by offshoredrilling

Of the times I have seen folks that play with others at work. Most of the time it does not end well.

The key is to not play at work, play at home!

[offshoredrilling]

Ok this is pay back, and its time to pay. mmm lets try

No trucking at work unless you are a trucker. Then beware of the lot _________.

[heatherelite]

I had a neighbor on the street that I grew up contact me; he didn't know it was me when he originally contacted me. I actually used to play in his house (with his daughters) when I was growing up and he always scared me-not maliciously mind you but just in a general grumpy father who is always yelling at the neighborhood kids to get out of his house kind of way.

I originally declined to meet him because I thought it would be akward but he really wanted to go through with it. We did and it worked out great! We even wave to each other when I drive by to visit my parents

[jackfengshui]

There is one potential situation that has not been mentioned. Some providers are pursuing an education, and some hobbyists are involved with education. That general connection could be a positive one. However, things can become more complicated if they happen to be associated with the same institution - especially if they have reason to run into each other.

[GP]

All hypothetically speaking (OF COURSE), but just imagine the perks of being a professor or even a dean. You could give straight A's and never pay for an appointment to the student/provider. You could even offer tutoring in trade. Since this is the story line of many porno's, it must happen quite often. LOL shhhhhhhhhh

[offshoredrilling]

mmmm getting a GED, going to night school, or going to collage. And you find the teacher is a hobbyist, or the student is a provider. Or even the other way around.

I saw once where a provider was having problems. And so she had a caseworker, only to find out her caseworker was also a provider. At one time in rochester(long time ago)till he was fired, a caseworker was a pimp. The incall was a church. And I know of a time a teacher found out that the parent was his ATF.

In a long gone better day at the AC Collage girls would show up. A few found that when the took a plane home, there client was the pilot.

[theasianview]

OSD, if you ever write a book or blog about those experiences from years gone by, let me know, i would love to read them!

[ConsultantGuy]

No doubt OSD - you seem to have a story for everything - it cracks me up