The other side of the ATF

[DallasRain]

woooaaaa!!! Not all of us gals do this "just for the money"!!!! lol
I guess I am probably not the normal type of provider though...alot of providers are not in a lasting & open relationship like me.

I myself do this for the sexy fun & a little extra income....I have been happily married to the BESTEST man on earth for over 25 years!!! We live quite nicely & freely because of my "career".....I enjoy it MORE than any other career I have ever had!!!!

I am a natural born slut,so this type of work suits me perfectly!!!

I enjoy the "adrenaline rush" and the "comfy feeling" I get from my sessions & my commraderie with my clients....plus the freedom it allows to do what we want,when we want!


{and my SO is so proud of me that I have built "The Dallas Experience" to the level it is!!....plus he loves sharing "his princess" with other men}!!!

[JoesphFriday]

Claire,

As the song goes "Everybody plays the Fool Sometimes" to each their own. Lets face it everybody is in this thing we call the HOBBY from some personal angle. Some people look at it like the providers taking advantage of a mans weakness for sex. Some people look at it like some old horny bastards cheatin on his wife taking advantage of some helpless girl that needs money. Hell who knows in a different time and place, and under different circumstances the provider and client may have been able to have a truely compatible relationship, but then he would have turned into a dawg any way right.

[Eden_Monet]

I actually had an ATF for 2 straight years. We saw each other 2-3 times a week and developed a mutual admiration for each other. BCD was amazing and we always had fun together. We constantly texted and talked on the phone about how each others day was ... and then

He wanted to take our hobby relationship into civie life. When I respectfully declined (seeing as I don't believe I should be in a serious relationship while still in the hobby) it made him feel rejected.

We saw each other a few times after that incident but one day he stopped calling, and that was the end of that.

[LilRed]

Yup!!! I do it for the money, the adventure and lots and lots of SEX!!!

[ClairJordan]

Originally Posted by LilRed

Yup!!! I do it for the money, the adventure and lots and lots of SEX!!!

With ya on that!!!

[DallasRain]

[ClairJordan]

I love you guys!

[Nina Rae]

Dallas, I didn't mean that all providers ONLY do it for money. What I did mean (and should have been more clear) was that "yes, we are paid for doing this"...but it doesn't mean its the only benefit!

Sex is fun. Contact is fun. Talking to someone new is fun. Its a great way to make a living or have a true "hobby"!

[Jacquie]

The money comes first... BUT, I also love getting dirty with new guys. As I tell all, I want to get some strange too!!

[fox5eod]

This has been one of the most interesting and informative threads I've read on this board. Ladies and fellas, thanks. One question though. What's a normal relationship? In present society we are all engaging in deviant behavior. Quite frankly I just don't have a problem with it. The providers I've seen with one exception have been great. My repeats have always been the ladies I have had great conversations with. I love talking to someone new about stuff. Sex is and should be fun, getting strange is exciting. One last thought. The last word any of us guys wants to hear is that we got put into the "Friends" zone!! Not that we don't want to be friends, just that we know the sex is over. LOL

[ClairJordan]

Originally Posted by fox5eod

This has been one of the most interesting and informative threads I've read on this board. Ladies and fellas, thanks. One question though. What's a normal relationship? In present society we are all engaging in deviant behavior. Quite frankly I just don't have a problem with it. The providers I've seen with one exception have been great. My repeats have always been the ladies I have had great conversations with. I love talking to someone new about stuff. Sex is and should be fun, getting strange is exciting. One last thought. The last word any of us guys wants to hear is that we got put into the "Friends" zone!! Not that we don't want to be friends, just that we know the sex is over. LOL

Yah, well, welome to the real world!!!

A girl can only have so many lovers. True friends are what last.

Looking over your post, I thank you for your kind and observational input. Still hanging tough with my 'friend-zone' theory, though. The longest, most mutually beneficial male-femal realtionships I have experienced have been based on friendship.

Things that make you go hummm..

[Outdoorsman]

I love a good freindship, but friends with benefits is just that much better, to me.