Providers, how do you keep it under wraps?

[coefficient]

I understand there are a lot of providers who do not show their faces in ads. I've spoken with some who intimate that they live a double life and no one in their real lives know what they do.

I will admit that some of you do a good job at it and some don't, I personally know a BP chick to which over the phone she mentioned how people on her side of houston don't know what she gets into on the other sides of Houston and I'm looking at her ad on BP and it shows her face clear as day. On the other hand, there are some of you that got it so good to where you would only be figured out if someone comes to this site and reads BCD as to your home location or actually see you.

Ok, and for those that do the opposite, hell, I'm not one to judge but, how do you cope and handle it? Some of you have frontal pics depicting who you are, pregnancy scars, distinctive tatoos, hell, probably legit first AND last names. I'm just wondering how one plans on continuing life after having escort ads out like that. The good thing about it I guess is that BP ads dissapear and the common person doesn't know how to archive pages. In the end they'll just have a collection of "suggestive/provocative" photos of you that can be written off as an accident.

[ThatManFromTexas]

Originally Posted by coefficient

I understand there are a lot of providers who do not show their faces in ads. I've spoken with some who intimate that they live a double life and no one in their real lives know what they do.

I will admit that some of you do a good job at it and some don't, I personally know a BP chick to which over the phone she mentioned how people on her side of houston don't know what she gets into on the other sides of Houston and I'm looking at her ad on BP and it shows her face clear as day. On the other hand, there are some of you that got it so good to where you would only be figured out if someone comes to this site and reads BCD as to your home location or actually see you.

Ok, and for those that do the opposite, hell, I'm not one to judge but, how do you cope and handle it? Some of you have frontal pics depicting who you are, pregnancy scars, distinctive tatoos, hell, probably legit first AND last names. I'm just wondering how one plans on continuing life after having escort ads out like that. The good thing about it I guess is that BP ads dissapear and the common person doesn't know how to archive pages. In the end they'll just have a collection of "suggestive/provocative" photos of you that can be written off as an accident.

It's harder for some than others... like the Daughter-Mother-Grandmother trio that do triples together ... how do they keep that from their family... oh, wait...

[Guest030617]

i cant speak for anyone else....but i have no-one, no parents, brothers, sisters, uncles, aunts,etc that give a flyn f*ck about me......so i dont care who knows what i do for a living....they are not providing food on my kids table I AM.

And as for my kids knowing one day.......that will be at least 15yrs down the road before they start lookn at porn or escort websites, and i will be done with this industry by then.

If i was to every get married my husband would already know what hes gettn into cause im just that honest and upfront about myself and what i do!!!

And its very unlikely that when i do quit and find a new job, that the guy that interviews me is gonna be like 'hey arent you babydollsnow off eccie and all them other escort websites'.....could happen but highly unlikely!!!!!

just sayn!!!

[Meoauniaea]

Some say they sell flowers at night at clubs/bars, some say they are underground poker dealers. Some just tell the truth.

[coefficient]

Originally Posted by babydollsnow

i cant speak for anyone else....but i have no-one, no parents, brothers, sisters, uncles, aunts,etc that give a flyn f*ck about me......so i dont care who knows what i do for a living....they are not providing food on my kids table I AM.

And as for my kids knowing one day.......that will be at least 15yrs down the road before they start lookn at porn or escort websites, and i will be done with this industry by then.

If i was to every get married my husband would already know what hes gettn into cause im just that honest and upfront about myself and what i do!!!

And its very unlikely that when i do quit and find a new job, that the guy that interviews me is gonna be like 'hey arent you babydollsnow off eccie and all them other escort websites'.....could happen but highly unlikely!!!!!

just sayn!!!

bds, is this your only source of income?

Also, she touched on a point i made. This here can vanish so quickly and leave no traces of anything behind. the only thing that can tie you in are distinctive tatoo's. Yeah, your boss isn't going to ask that question but if you have like distinctive tatoo that will show itself every now and then at the work place then all it takes is an eccie browsing guy to stetch his memory.

[Toreador_one]

Originally Posted by babydollsnow

...And as for my kids knowing one day.......that will be at least 15yrs down the road before they start lookn at porn or escort websites, and i will be done with this industry by then...

At least 15 years down the road before they start looking at porn?.... You will be surprised!!!

[absolut]

Originally Posted by babydollsnow

its very unlikely that when i do quit and find a new job, that the guy that interviews me is gonna be like 'hey arent you babydollsnow off eccie and all them other escort websites'.....could happen but highly unlikely!!!!!

just sayn!!!

. . . that YES it could happen. It may be more likely than you think.
And what will you say when it happens?

You have courage to be up front with everyone you wish.
May I offer a personal insight from a real situation?

1. Over the years I have enjoyed knowing and sharing the company of some "out there" ladies, i.e. ladies who each were 'out there' in a public forum some years ago. Each has built a new life with her own lucrative 'civilian' business (food related), both of which are being marketed widely and with great success. I do not think they know each other. But both/each does NOT want her past life and career to be brought to light, nor her current UTR life by which she spices up her off duty time on occasion.

May I ask, when you leave this hobby life, will you want to be UTR?
Some people who have known you in these days and meet you as a civilian may try to manipulate. This is harassment, but what are you going to say?
Plan for the worst. Prepare for the worst. If it does not happen, your preparation now will give you peace of mind so you are less likely to be caught off guard and suffer for it.

Therefore you may want to devise a SIMPLE script now to use to establish plausible denial when some one asks, and stick to it.
Practice it now with a trusted friend who will keep it confidential.

If you get out of the life, leave it ALL behind, or it may cost you in a myriad of ways.

2. I had a boyhood friend whose mom was a provider. He became aware of it as a teen, and it cost him. This is not blaming. This is just my memory of my good friend, a giant of a fellow with whom I played ball and rode to school and hung out. Recalling his perplexity and how it played out tragically, I would encourage every provider to set up a 'firewall' of privacy and discretion between your present career, and the kids and your family life. This is not a moral judgment. You are trying to provide for yourself and kids. OK.
But the kids do not need to know. They need to NOT know. If they learn of it, be honest with them, and understand the knowledge may cause them some confusion. I doubt that any child has the capacity to weigh those value judgments. And if it becomes known, then there will be some around who will use it against them if only to taunt them. That is a sad part of life on the playground. Kids can be mean to each other. There are bullies in the world, and bullies cheat when they play and fight dirty when conflict arises.

Protecting the kids at all costs is a parent's first and most important duty in life.

I wish you well as you approach the arrival of your baby.

I wish you happiness in every aspect of life.

absolut-Lee

[Guest030617]

I consider myself a Smart young lady with goals in mind, I'm not a young lady just starting out in this business, with that said i have saved a little amount of money...put them in Cd's and trust funds for my kids already....I went to college and got my degree in business management. When i do leave this occupation it will be when i am ready and able to have my own business so i don't have to answer to no-ones questions about my past life!!!!
As far as my kids are concerned, i hear your points on protecting them and making sure no one judges them for what i have done in my life.....and when then do grow up and have to get jobs, and for a small chance i have something to do with them not getting the job, i will sue the shit out of a company, i don't know much about the law but I'm sure that that's not right and i can take legal action against discriminating ones rights....(something like that)!!

Yes it will hurt them to find out about me I'm sure, but at the same time, my kids will not live in a square box with everything perfect in it....they will see the bad good and ugly all over the world....and they will always know that momma loves them and did what she thought she had to do, when she was younger to provide a GOOD life for them (not just getting by with can noodles)..lol....and I'm sure that the love i will provide them with, will make them understand why i do the things i do.

At least I'm not a crackhead, drug dealer, escort with a pimp, or girl on a corner sealing it for a dollar, then not having anything to show for it later in life.....I'm a respected provider with very high goals in mind and I'm not the type of person to give up on them easily

[Guest030617]

Originally Posted by Toreador_one

At least 15 years down the road before they start looking at porn?.... You will be surprised!!!

My oldest is only 17months so it better be 15yrs or he better really hide that sh*t from mommie....lol

[coefficient]

Originally Posted by babydollsnow

I consider myself a Smart young lady with goals in mind, I'm not a young lady just starting out in this business, with that said i have saved a little amount of money...put them in Cd's and trust funds for my kids already....I went to college and got my degree in business management. When i do leave this occupation it will be when i am ready and able to have my own business so i don't have to answer to no-ones questions about my past life!!!!
As far as my kids are concerned, i hear your points on protecting them and making sure no one judges them for what i have done in my life.....and when then do grow up and have to get jobs, and for a small chance i have something to do with them not getting the job, i will sue the shit out of a company, i don't know much about the law but I'm sure that that's not right and i can take legal action against discriminating ones rights....(something like that)!!

Yes it will hurt them to find out about me I'm sure, but at the same time, my kids will not live in a square box with everything perfect in it....they will see the bad good and ugly all over the world....and they will always know that momma loves them and did what she thought she had to do, when she was younger to provide a GOOD life for them (not just getting by with can noodles)..lol....and I'm sure that the love i will provide them with, will make them understand why i do the things i do.

At least I'm not a crackhead, drug dealer, escort with a pimp, or girl on a corner sealing it for a dollar, then not having anything to show for it later in life.....I'm a respected provider with very high goals in mind and I'm not the type of person to give up on them easily

Damn, you make me want to donate $100 bucks to you out of my own will.

[Guest030617]

lmao......thank you sweety, just you mentioning that, just shows that your a good man tooo

[AdventureAdams]

I have no reason to hide anything from the people I care about the most because they know that I am a good person with a sane head on my shoulders working towards my goals and won't judge won't me. I am a horrible liar so it wouldn't be able to keep that big of a secret from them even if I tried.

I have a very busy personal life so its very hard for my civvie co-workers and fellow students to imagine I'm able to fit anything else in my hectic schedule.