BDSM Posts/Reviews

[Guest062512]

BDSM is a serious turn-off for me. I usually won't go to visit a lady if I know she enjoys such activities. The mental images of that make the lady much less attractive in my opinion. I totally respect your right and privilege to partake in such pleasures. It just goes against my grain. Just a quirk of mine, I know.

We have a lovely forum for such activities on the ECCIE main page. Could we keep threads and reviews of BDSM activities on that forum? I would GREATLY appreciate it. (Ignorance is bliss.)

If I'm out of line, Mods please let me know. If anybody else wants to flame me, flame away. I'm pretty fireproof.

[OldGrump]

+1 Crossroads. Some of that (including the porn minis) look more like violence than love making.

Some folks seem to be into it, but I don't see the attraction.

I'll take slow and sensual any day.

[Guest050911]

Sir,

I understand that edge play is not for everyone - BDSM, foot fetish, etc....

And we do try to keep most of the posts in the Another Realm section, But they do leak out occasionally.

Unfortunately, there is not yet a forum for reviews there. Reviews still are posted in the city where they originated. I am afraid you will have to suffer through them, at least for the time being...

I do ask that you remember that what is one man's Pistachio is another man's Vanilla, and on here we try not to judge for what folks do. I do not know of a single lady that I have done edge play with that does not also give fantastic GFE. I would hate to be limited to a dark corner because of the things I enjoy.

Just chalk it up to different strokes for different folks.

PPE

[Guest071613-2]

Originally Posted by Crossroads

BDSM is a serious turn-off for me. I usually won't go to visit a lady if I know she enjoys such activities. The mental images of that make the lady much less attractive in my opinion.

There are varying degrees of BDSM....What about sensual bondage and discipline? Where does one draw the line? For instance, here's one of PPE's stories, it's not violent at all and is an accurate portrayal of one of many,many activities that do not include violence. To each their own.

What about guys who get grossed out by other kinds of activities beyond BDSM? Although they aren't the norm, I know plenty of guys who think Greek play is less than desirable....Do we need to have several different review sub-forums for everyone? What about ladies who do DP MFM? Is that icky, too?

Maybe gentlemen who enjoy BDSM could put BDSM in the 'activities' portion of the review and then you don't have to read it if you don't want to...

[Guest022712-3]

CR- do you truly get disgusted at all activities in that realm, or what you perceive BDSM to be all about?

Thanks to porn, so many guys assume that BDSM is all about slapping a girl around, forcing cock down her throat, beating her mercilessly, etc. Its for that very fact that I am VERY cautious about taking that kind of appointment. I have to be sure that the person on the other end is actually experienced in that realm and isn't just trying to live out some sick porn movie fantasy. Inexperience leads to injury.

A true Dom/sub relationship is generally more about control-- the giving and taking of it. A sub gives control to the Dom/Domme by allowing themselves to be restrained, trained, etc. A true Dom/Domme isn't all about beating the sub or borderline rape of the sub. One of the biggest things I look at when asked for this type of play is the post history of the person. Do they appear to hate women? Misogynistic? Because that tells me instantly that they are NOT a true Dom. Dom's do not hate women-- on the contrary, they love women-- particularly those they choose as their "pets". A good Dom/Domme will be focused on whats best for the other party-- and would not cause deliberate, TRUE harm to the other party. Discipline and harm are not the same thing. And-- a true Dom/Domme knows that the sub is really the one with the power. A sub should always be able to stop whatever is going on with the utterance of one word.

Wow-- got a little long winded. Just wanted to kind of give my perspective on the whole world.

[txcwby6]

It would depend upon your definition of BDSM and, more importantly, your level of trust in a particular Provider that offers BDSM. It can mean anything from a smack on your ass, nibble of the niupples, hot wax dripped on your skin, clamps, restraints, suspension, whips, electro-torture, breathing-deprivation, etc....

Different strokes for different folks. Some men/women enjoy dominating of being dominant. Some couples truly enjoy watching their partner being pleasured by another. Some men think it'd be hot to take their wives to a swingers club UNTIL another man starts showing interest in his wife or she starts getting into it. Most guys will completely lose thier shit the moment their gf/wife starts moaning and gasping when another man's dick is sliding inside a place he considered his private domain.