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sabrina nicole · 05-22-2010, 12:20 PM

First of all, in all my ads I write screening is a must!When a member ask you to visit a couple of his friends that are not members,is that a safe way to hobby?

I enjoy the hobby and want to keep it safe,for me and my hobby friends.Anyone that has ever sceen me will tell you the same,so in return do the same for me and do not ask me to hobby outside our hobby world!If I'm wrong for feeling this way I must have misunderstood some of the escort101 advice we find posted for our help to screening,right?We providers have to trust in each other when it comes to screening and I hope the clients do the same.............But first step to enjoy such a hobby, take the time to become a member!

Thanks for putting up with me around here,I really take advice that come from the board...........and use it !

Black Sedan · 05-22-2010, 12:32 PM

Sabrina, you might want to post this question in your ladies powder room.

I'd say, it depends on your comfort level.

Do you trust this hobbyist enough to solely rely on his word for screening? Given you have represented yourself as a newish provider, it seems unlikely you would have a client who you could trust that much yet.

Why can't his buddies sign up for a P411 account?

Consider the possibilities:

Maybe the word has gotten around that they are disrespectful in some way, and thus blacklisted by providers.

Perhaps he was arrested and and volunteered to vice that he could get them past screening so they could arrest you. Have you asked for advice about the HEAT in the city your incall is located in? Some of the suburban louies are very aggressive.

Maybe he's just trying to look like a pimp to his friends (okay that's mostly harmless).

T-Can · 05-22-2010, 12:34 PM

Most of my RL friends know I do this so it would not be shocking for me to bring a provider out - it has been almost done before but provider was sick.
Hell, I've even had a hobbyiest hang out with my RL friends just because he is a cool dude!

But.....it gets complicated if you're married or have an SO.

I don't think it should matter to providers but that's JMO.

It worked in Pretty Woman.....kind of!

urhuckleberry · 05-22-2010, 03:23 PM

What if the trusted client got busted by Ellie and is flipping his contacts as a plea bargain...

Stranger things have happened...

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travelling_man · 05-22-2010, 03:34 PM

It depends on how much you trust your client - and that's it. If he introduces a friend to you then you're taking his word that the guy is ok. Do you trust your client enough to do that?

Lust4xxxLife · 05-22-2010, 04:31 PM

I recommend screening ALWAYS. I know nothing about how any of my friends behave BCD. Nor do they know anything about my life BCD. Just because a guy might be good to go for a beer with doesn't mean he doesn't turn into an ass in other situations. Once upon a time, I knew a guy who I thought was pretty cool but it turns out he was a wife-beater. Everybody was shocked when it came out. Screen, always screen.

Guest071613-2 · 05-22-2010, 04:52 PM

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Originally Posted by Lust4xxxLife

I recommend screening ALWAYS. I know nothing about how any of my friends behave BCD. Nor do they know anything about my life BCD. Just because a guy might be good to go for a beer with doesn't mean he doesn't turn into an ass in other situations....... Screen, always screen.

+1!!!!!!!!!

Screen no matter WHAT! Screen frequent posters, screen mods and admin, screen everyone, all the time, no matter what, always and all the time. Every single time! You can't afford not to. It's a pain in the ass at times, but so is being in jail, robbed, beat up, or dead. Do it religiously!

I've made the offer in other places, but I will make it here, too: I know a lot of the newer ladies don't always know how to screen, I certainly did not know how when I was new. If any of you ladies don't know how, please feel free to PM me and ask. It makes us all safer. It's crucial that you know how, and trust me, most gentlemen don't mind it, and they understand. A lot of ladies are afraid it will run off business..and it will..it will run off the kind of business you don't want. SCREEN!!!

GneissGuy · 05-22-2010, 05:29 PM

The fact that your trusted client "Bill" says "Joe" is a real world friend is a useful piece of information. How much weight it carries is up to you. How well do you know Bill? How long and how well has Bill known Joe, etc.? How trustworthy is Bill?

mastermind_1 · 05-22-2010, 06:57 PM

Sabrina was my first eccie provider to meet with and she made me take the time to become a member.At first it was a pain in the ass but I have to respect why!I was told about Sabrina by a friend she had a meeting with on her trip to Houston.I talked with her a few times but she was not tring to hear it,members only!Sabrina,dont change anything it looks like you have it under control!

am-a-pleaser · 05-22-2010, 07:10 PM

I agree with L4L. Sabrina be very careful.

lisa.lisa0302 · 05-22-2010, 08:07 PM

Seems like you are getting some good responses, no need to post in the ladies room, seems she wanted everyone's opinion. And its nice to know that some of these gents who responded said what a provider would say anyway......kudos.

Just because one gents was cool especially BCD, does not mean his friend is. If he found a gem why would he would he take a chance and share with his friend. His friend could blow it and ruin everything.

Some things friends should not share......just saying.

Guest100513-2 · 05-22-2010, 08:11 PM

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Originally Posted by lisa.lisa0302

Seems like you are getting some good responses, no need to post in the ladies room, seems she wanted everyone's opinion. And its nice to know that some of these gents who responded said what a provider would say anyway......kudos.

I was guessing a provider would say this is nothing more than an ad.

Guest071613-2 · 05-22-2010, 08:32 PM

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Originally Posted by monkmonk

I was guessing a provider would say this is nothing more than an ad.

You know, I was going to do that but decided against it, because it would just be stating the obvious. Instead, I decided to respond genuinely, figuring sometimes it's just better to turn chicken shit into chicken salad. Anyway, it could have been worse...it could have been a poll.

Mister Tudball · 05-22-2010, 08:51 PM

Better to play it safe than be sorry, Sabrina. Screen, screen, screen. The gents who matter won't mind. From your posts, you seem like a very sweet girl and we'd like to have you around for a long time.

jfred · 05-22-2010, 08:58 PM

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Originally Posted by Dannie

You know, I was going to do that but decided against it...it could have been a poll.

That's a good way to approach things, Dannie. I may actually try it sometime.

Sure, the lady's getting her name out on the board. But at least it's not something like the black gal who posts "Gentlemen, I'm Curious Why Haven't You Ever Hit Chocolate Pussy 'Cause It's So So Good -- Especially MINE!!"?" And then got 3k+ hits and 86 responses. (Sigh)

I know one or two men who, if I said they would treat you well, who would do just that. I know their ways generally (not so much specifically sexually) and, perhaps most importantly, I know their lovers and ex-lovers. If they were freaks I'd have heard about it. I'd also know it (for heaven sake!) if he'd been busted and made a deal.

Frankly, if I told a provider who trusted me that she could trust him and she still screened him -- I'd be at least a little bit surprised.

On the other hand I have drinking buddies (who I'd be more likely to be recommending to providers anyway) that I simply couldn't vouch for with that kind of certainly.

I really respect your approach, however, Dannie. The risks are real. And even if they were minimal and you could get by slacking for a long time -- the one time you let a bad guy in could be very memorable.