TRAITS OF A UPSCALE,HIGH CLASS PROVIDER

[Guest121613]

You should get paid for this! Your message is clear. Sometimes I try too hard, and this case, a gift is trying too hard to expand a boundary that should not be crossed. I am thinking BCD is "bad conduct discharge"? Something I want to avoid.

If it turns to friendship, then it needs to be on her terms, not mine.

[seductivesarah]

Platinum pussy!...Hold on that is just in their head! I believe a seasoned provider who enjoys her job is considered a high dollar hottie. Unless her education and table manners has helped her enjoy all the spit on her face while sucking cock, I would have to say its how she enjoys her job.

[BlackKnight]

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. There are as many different flavors as there are tastes. However, when "shopping"....

-- is she visually attractive....to me
-- quality of her marketing (website, ads, etc)
-- low volume (I don't want to be #12 for the day)
-- can she write, express herself grammatically correct
-- quality of her incall (doesn't have to be $$$$, but clean, comfortable, safe)
-- her dress, both in and out of the bedroom. How does she look in a LBD at dinner.
-- can she carry on a conversation on topics other than BCD
-- is she someone I'd want to spend an overnight with
-- does she watch the clock. Two examples: went to NYC. On Wednesday I saw a top 40 TER provider. We're approaching the end of our hour and she says "Hey fella, we gotta finish you up!" Talk about deflating...literally. On Saturday, I see the then #1 ranked TER provider at the time. One hour appt...but as I'm dressing, SHE asks me if I'd like to go get a bite to eat. We spend 2 hours in a little Italian restaurant. That, ladies and gents, is a high class provider.

[NinaBrooke]

Here is a greawt article from the wonderful Maggie Mc Neill aka the Honest Courtesan, who writes exactly about the kind of "Othering" as Ava put it so exactly.

http://maggiemcneill.wordpress.com/2...10/whorearchy/

"Among the few facts about sex work that everyone agrees upon is that there is a “whorearchy”, a sort of class system among sex workers. Now, nobody agrees on anything about that system, only that it exists. Many strippers, dominatrices, porn actresses, etc insist not only that they aren’t whores, but that they’re better than we are; those whose professions have separated enough from ours that they aren’t even considered sex workers any more (such as actresses and especially masseuses) can be very pompous about it. Prostitutes, on the other hand, sometimes see themselves as better, smarter, more discreet, etc than strippers or porn starlets; sugar babies and other halfway whores deny that they’re sex workers at all; and some unusually self-deluded escorts will even try to draw imaginary lines separating themselves from other hookers" - The Honest Courtesan

[Guest121613]

Concerning self-elevation at the expense of others - I think this a very common problem for two reasons, 1) many people try to compare themselves to others in general (work place, friends, business), and convince themselves that they are better than others in an effort to lift themselves through insecurity 2) Society still judges the "whore" poorly, maybe because many have never been with a provider.

I think we should have a "Courtesan" Day, in which we adore our providers!

Have you adored your provider today?

Originally Posted by ninasastri

"Among the few facts about sex work that everyone agrees upon is that there is a “whorearchy”, a sort of class system among sex workers. Now, nobody agrees on anything about that system, only that it exists. Many strippers, dominatrices, porn actresses, etc.........." - The Honest Courtesan

[NinaBrooke]

Originally Posted by lostforkate

I think we should have a "Courtesan" Day, in which we adore our providers!

Have you adored your provider today?

In Europe - let`s say at least the german speaking countries , if I am not mistaken, maybe all european countries - have an international "courtesan" or "sexworker" day. It is the 2nd of June each year. Its called "International Whores Day" - Listed here: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of...tive_days#June

(I am not sure if you get a free day at work, though, bwahahahaha......)

[Guest121613]

lololololo + lmao.... i just set up my work calendar to be OOO for that day... ATFs (yes plural) get ready!!!!..... thank you for enlightening me Nina.... who wants to start a thread in anticipation, and make this more a WW holiday, or I am always a little behind, and one is already started???

[NinaBrooke]

Here is an interesting view on the distinction of Quality versus Quantity" and what makes sexworkers acting in hierarchies of better and worse ones. The woman is from Berlin, speaking german, so her article is written in the same style of english like I do, it`s a little harder to understand, because we german speaking people use long sentences and sometimes it`s also hard to adjust grammatically. Nevertheless a super work to read through, here a few excerpts to trigger interest:

" The hypocrisy works from the inside and the outside; clichés are more marketable than the idea of a self-determined sexworker life.

In my understanding its a “regime of purity” to satisfy clients needs; escorts with higher rates and their clients dont want to identify with prostitution resp. “Johns” & punters. Thats why escorts advertise not only with highest rates but also with exclusiveness, wishlists and sophistication, that must not necessarly exist in real-time. Its to marketing their target-groups. I wish all sexworkers would call higher rates to manifest the worth of intimacy. But in many views sexworkers and punters are “others”, so called hookers or callgirls who do also incalls or bookings with a limited time from 1 hr. They are “cheap” in their minds and men who ask for a shorter service seem to be the same, in the view of the “highers” and “longers”. I m a sophisticated, intelligent, self-determined escort girl, inside/outside, I stand up for sexworker rights, I confess publicly to act as a sexworker and their rights, I ve no advantages and because of this kind of coming-out & speech just very few bookings with bright men who are worth to meet; I ve a higher degree and I m proud to say because it was a lot of work, but this was never a reason to look down on others, more the opposite, because I am a sexworker among other activities and I know that its work, in particular because I know the very different fields. I worked as a dominatrix, in brothels, later on in hotels, as a callgirl and independent escort"

"The thing is, my experience is that many clients dont feel attracted to women who act self-determined, intelligent, who confess to be a sexworker, because they dont like the word “work” in sexwork and dont want deprived of the illusion that escorts just do it for money and not (only) for fun. Its not only the discretion thing … They think that prostitutes/sexworkers just do it for money whereas escorts do it for fun; funny that the rates are on the highest levels on the side of the called high-class-escorts who seem to do it just for fun. In german & british escort message boards I follow these discussions over years and I m really fed up with it. The male virtual logic, so far I could follow, means that higher rates are justified by an understanding of escort as “no work” and follows the logic that escorts who call higher rates are “pure” like an angel, not too busy and ve just a very few of clients a month, i.e. 2 or 3 escort dates whereas a callgirl who works also from a flat (in UK it is quite normal because business men are usually very busy and use their lunchbreak and spare time for some relaxation) and offer hourly sessions must be very very busy and therefore are not pure enough and make “it” just for money. We all know that the reality looks quite different."

http://nuttenrepublik.wordpress.com/...ood-sexworker/

[Guest121613]

FYI, I sent a note to have the June 2nd off, and got quite a laugh at the office. LOL. I have the air-head gene. I can solve Rubik's cube, but don't ask me where I parked my car.

I do see the point of having distinctions, and to draw the higher revenue from clients, requires strategic planning and marketing, as their needs to be a perception that the best is being offered, and repeat business is the proof of the product.

[Guest121613]

Originally Posted by ninasastri

So you mean you try to book her for a day trip and she won`t? Sorry, I do not understand that part properly maybe.

Maybe you really do like her much more and it is a little emotional for you to adjust. It depends on how her situation is, if you are happy with the boundaries she gives, you give, etc.

I had relationships with clients, have some clients turned into friendships, where of course the escort-client - habitus was put aside (sometimes in a good "pure love, lust and support" partnership manner, sometimes in a "oh my god what a freakin`idiot I was" manner, and sometimes in a "no sex-just friends" manner.

I think , it does not matter what "you" do, gifts aside, if the boundaries are clear (it seems to me from her side, as she politely "ignores" day trips) you might have to adjust your expectations. And see that "the way" you shaped it so far - and I am sure she likes you , too, otherwise she would probably not see you regularly (I couldn`t, and I am sure not many out there can see someone more often , if it does not suit and chemistry is not there - whatever that means) - is a way that is a good way , and does not need changes.

I hope I could say what I meant , clearly. If I see a client falls for me, and I am not comfortable with that, I confront the situation myself to avoid akward expectations and frustrations. And I kind of have the feeling like you really really really like that particular provider and might - subconsciously - search for a way to get close to her BCD. Is that possible?

A few weeks ago, I recently had a great time with this lady (not reviewed), and before we started, I mentioned that I asked for things not typical to her catalog because I really really like her, but understand the request cannot be met. She was very appreciative of my explanation, and we had a good conversation, and great time together. So we understand each other, and the limits, and to respect those limits.

[NinaBrooke]

Originally Posted by lostforkate

A few weeks ago, I recently had a great time with this lady (not reviewed), and before we started, I mentioned that I asked for things not typical to her catalog because I really really like her, but understand the request cannot be met. She was very appreciative of my explanation, and we had a good conversation, and great time together. So we understand each other, and the limits, and to respect those limits.

That sounds wonderful! It is very mature and shows your wonderful insight into your own personality, and what a true Gentleman you are. I think, it is best to reflect on boundaries, possibilities and potential for pain beforehand. And as the older one of the parties involved carrying more responsibility as well due to your private intricacies, it is purrrfect that you do respect and keep the boundaries, even if you - maybe - were able to overstep them to push your ego ;-).

[alluringava]

If there is anyone here on this board who epitomizes a true, high class provider who is not only beautiful, but sophisticated, kind, elegant and has impeccable manners, it's YOU, NinaSastri.

[Ed Highlight]

Originally Posted by alluringava

If there is anyone here on this board who epitomizes a true, high class provider who is not only beautiful, but sophisticated, kind, elegant and has impeccable manners, it's YOU, NinaSastri.

I have been in the company of the lovely Nina and you would not believe how plain and simple she is while she "epitomizes a true, high class provider who is not only beautiful, but sophisticated, kind, elegant and has impeccable manners" - I often dream that day will come again.....sigh......

[bladtinzu]

Originally Posted by ninasastri

just open up a low dollar hottie homepage and start bashing yourself about how your level of education and snobbery rises in direct affiliation with the level of $$$ you charge ;-)) ? Maybe that`s where they know where the "quality over quantity" distinction comes from? bwahahaha

Which reminds me of one I saw a year or so back who claimed she had an MBA from the Johnson School which is out of Cornell University. Highly doubtful she even graduated high school let alone was accepted to Cornell. And why would a fellow MBA work as an escort and take that large of a pay cut?? Her hourly was $300 as an escort.. Mine is still significantly more than that..

[JohnnyYanks]

Originally Posted by bladtinzu

Which reminds me of one I saw a year or so back who claimed she had an MBA from the Johnson School which is out of Cornell University. Highly doubtful she even graduated high school let alone was accepted to Cornell. And why would a fellow MBA work as an escort and take that large of a pay cut?? Her hourly was $300 as an escort.. Mine is still significantly more than that..

Well this contributes to the thread - how exactly? Or were you just looking for a place, any place, to impress us with your earning power?