Happily Married but......

[hobbyist1]

Originally Posted by ZarahAdams

I agree with this. If you were so happy, you wouldn't be here. Happily married men don't hangout on hooker boards.

I totally agree with you Zarah.

[charlestudor2005]

Originally Posted by ZarahAdams

I agree with this. If you were so happy, you wouldn't be here. Happily married men don't hangout on hooker boards.

Originally Posted by hobbyist1

I totally agree with you Zarah.

That's true for the females, also.

[the.namssa]

Originally Posted by Shayla

Variety is the spice of life.

X2......I like a variety of women and I don't think men are typically monogamous by nature.

The "hunter" DNA that we obtained some 40 000 years ago is still alive and well inside pretty much every male with testicles. Can't really be easily programmed out of us, so we tend to have a roving eye and if we see something we like, we want to go get it.

My SO is not interested in keeping me happy sexually, her preference is work, reality TV and her friends. Rather than pursue the civilian population, and lie/mislead some younger lady, I decided to engage the services of professionals that can get the job done, have smoking hot bodies and there is no emotional attachment. Solves quite a few potential issues in my life with having an emotionally attached female fucking up my life.

[Robin3212003]

In many places in the world, men are still allowed multiple wives. Some wealthy men are even allowed harems. I think this is our way having the harem that western society forbids.

[TheDoc]

Originally Posted by Mike007

I was thinking. I'm happily married to a beautiful woman. She gives me pretty good sex and has a beautiful body. So I was asking myself.....why do I hobby? I only have one review but I have been doing this for about 5 years off and on.

Bottom line is I guess I get bored and love meeting new girls. It's that simple. I couldn't really ask for more from my wife. I love her the way she is. But I gotta have some "strange" once in a while!

Anyone else kinda in the same boat? Happily married but.....???

Ok, Mike. I'll answer. I'm in the same boat. I love my wife, and we have pretty good sex, and yet I hobby as well. Why do I do it? Dunno. Because I can? Because I like meeting girls? For the excitement? Maybe I have a higher sex drive? Maybe I am a sex addict? I don't know why. I think I can also say I'm happily married. And, no thank you I do not really need any amateur psychologists trying to analyze my situation. My marriage may not be absolutely perfect, but I am happy with my life, and I think my wife is happy, and I wouldn't want to change a thing. So, I'm sorry for the guys who have to hobby because they aren't getting any at home, or the single guys who don't want a relationship. I get all that. But don't be judging.

[alluringava]

Originally Posted by Robin3212003

In many places in the world, men are still allowed multiple wives. Some wealthy men are even allowed harems. I think this is our way having the harem that western society forbids.

With Asian culture it's concubines...who were often considered as 'wives'. There's this great movie called RAISE THE RED LANTERN that gives a close view of the women who are housed behind their 'master's' mansion. You never see him, and the only indication that he's around is when he lowers the red paper lantern in front of the chosen girl of the evening's house.


Imagine how that would go over here in America. I definitely think some cultures are far more accepting and open of men having mistresses and all that. But then you have to ask yourself, are the women really accepting their husband's infidelity because they HAVE to, or because they CHOOSE to?

[alluringava]

Originally Posted by Ernest Heming

Sweet and Little said it best: Many venture out for the thrill, to feel alive again
That is my reason. Still happily married after over 30 years. Still the love of my life.
By visiting a provider there are no strings attached. Emotion of the moment. She makes me feel special and i provdie a need for her. We can walk away and it is back to the present. Those moments with the provider make me feel a zest for life that touches me to the bone.

Well here's the question of the day...if your wife found out you were seeing escorts, would she be pissed, or would she be understanding about it?

[charlestudor2005]

Originally Posted by alluringava

With Asian culture it's concubines...who were often considered as 'wives'. There's this great movie called RAISE THE RED LANTERN that gives a close view of the women who are housed behind their 'master's' mansion. You never see him, and the only indication that he's around is when he lowers the red paper lantern in front of the chosen girl of the evening's house.


Imagine how that would go over here in America. I definitely think some cultures are far more accepting and open of men having mistresses and all that. But then you have to ask yourself, are the women really accepting their husband's infidelity because they HAVE to, or because they CHOOSE to?

Either I have been oblivious to PDA in the Asian culture, or it doesn't exist. Which is it? I'm not really talking about kids of dating age...I see that occasionally. I'm talking about married couples. Young marrieds or old marrieds. Is it considered impolite in Asian culture for marrieds to engage in PDA?

This query probably shows a great deal of ignorance on my part, but I've never had the chance to spend much time in Asian cultures.

[Lovelyelle_01]

Originally Posted by Ernest Heming

Sweet and Little said it best: Many venture out for the thrill, to feel alive again. That is my reason. Still happily married after over 30 years. Still the love of my life. By visiting a provider there are no strings attached. Emotion of the moment. She makes me feel special and i provdie a need for her. We can walk away and it is back to the present. Those moments with the provider make me feel a zest for life that touches me to the bone.

IMHO, if one was TRULY happily married to the "love of their life", there would be no need to seek the things listed here from us Providers because they are basic needs that the "love of your life" should easily fill. Emotion of the moment would be felt every time she walked into the room. You'd feel special everyday that she's in your life. The zest for life that touches you to the bone would be felt at the very thought of the woman you are ever so happily married to because the love of your life IS that zest! I think many men confuse "happily married" with "safely/comfortably/maybe even familiarly married". But, that's just my opinion.

[simpleton]

If your wife is out banging strange dudes would you remain happily married? If your truly happily married why risk everything that is so important to you?

[Tiffani Jameson]

Originally Posted by ZarahAdams

I agree with this. If you were so happy, you wouldn't be here. Happily married men don't hangout on hooker boards.

I would have to lean towards the fact that a man can love your dirty drawers but just has to have some strange. I know that there are men who forsake their own desires because they love their SO, but nonetheless, I think it's the case of two heads doing the talking. Which head he listens to is a toss-up. I have been in a relationship where the man was quite ideal except he was a whore. When I let him know I knew he wasn't faithful, and that as long as he respected me enough not to let me know what he was doing, he stopped being a whore!

That whole relationship was predicated on us being honest with each other. He told me things that most men would leave for a woman to wonder about, or conclude on her own. Most men feel like there are things that he has to hide things from his woman in order to be perfect or even acceptable.

I wonder how the OP would react if he told his wife that he often thinks of having sex with other women and she told him to go for it, as long as it doesn't get back to her. With some men there is that old double standard that if a woman doesn't fuss with you, or accepts something she's not 'supposed to' she doesn't care.

[pyramider]

If she finds out he is hobbying he will have a new definition of Happily Married.

[canuckvic]

Originally Posted by alluringava

Well here's the question of the day...if your wife found out you were seeing escorts, would she be pissed, or would she be understanding about it?

Well for all those that say they can be happily married and poon, then I guess their answer would be - she'd be understanding

[Bigh1955]

What a great thread! Who the hell knows what happily married means...it's different for each couple. What people do in private is their business - don't judge - it usually ends badly - like over 50% of marriages. Oh yeah, speaking of business - I've read that more than half of hobbyists are married. How would you like to give up over half of your prospective market ladies?

[Guest011914-1]

now this is just my opinion..just because a married man hobbies does not mean he is not happy. It means he is missing something at home and seeks it out with ladies like us. We are safer than an affair due to the fact we know the boundaries...I have several married gentlemen I see who say by spending time with me it is actually helping their marriage...and there are many more reasons I could list but just being married and hobbying does not mean he is unhappy...means he is missing something on some level and by hobbying he is able to maintain his family life and still have time for him therefore filling that void making his life complete...we fill in the puzzle piece that is missing....