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Guest012220 · 02-07-2012, 01:52 PM

As you all know Valentine's day is coming up and I'm thinking about doing a three some with my boyfriend. Yes I'm dating someone, and that's the main reason there are no photos and privacy for my profile. My boyfriend does not know I provide so obviously I would need a female to be discreet not only with him but me. I would really like advice from guys and girls on how to handle the situation. And no it's not about something he suggested, I actually brought it up. I want to please him and make him happy.

Guest021812-3 · 02-07-2012, 02:09 PM

I'd love to help. Just PM me the time and place and we can walk him through it slowly. Just no gay stuff, ok?

Guest012220 · 02-07-2012, 02:43 PM

Lol...what I said another female. I don't think he would like that lol

Hercules · 02-07-2012, 05:25 PM

First of all....your boyfriend is a LUCKY SUMABITCH!!!

My advice would be NO surprises.

Other then that are there any sites that you do NOT advertise on that the two of you could review and pick out some possible ladies?

Good luck!

berkleigh · 02-07-2012, 05:46 PM

I love Three Somes with Couples

I have several reviews from them.

The best advice I can give is to make sure that you are completely comfortable as well as him.

Guest012220 · 02-07-2012, 06:12 PM

Why thank you!!! I'm only a member of eccie and p411. I don't know if I want him to even research. I don't think he would be game for how it works with us. Which is why the deal would go through me and there would be no talk about me or how she knows me. That's partly why I'm undecided about using a provider. One wrong thing said and they could mess up a lot of things. I have to deal with this situation very very discreetly!!!!

durango95 · 02-07-2012, 07:28 PM

Maria,

Your boyfriend is one lucky man to have you and now you want to have a threesome for his pleasure. Sheesh try an older guy, we drive nicer cars, are not demanding, better cooks will also take you to better restaurants and we get the best seats for sporting events and concerts.

Some guys have all the luck.

sxyjade101 · 02-07-2012, 07:39 PM

Your bf will absolutely love it....threesomes are soooooo fun!!

Guest012220 · 02-07-2012, 07:43 PM

Hun....maybe you should go back and read my first post. I said the threesome idea is my decision. I'm the one who brought it up. And also my boyfriend is an older guy( 35) that treats me like a queen. I would not trade him for any other guy which is why I think it's important to keep the relationship spicy so he doesn't stray lol.

I'm considering a threesome,not another girl to join my relationship lol

Guest021812-3 · 02-07-2012, 07:45 PM

My suggestion. Rather than setting it up with a provider and worrying the whole time that you're about to be outed, why don't you tell him your intentions of having a threesome, and then go out on the hunt for your partner? Even if you don't find anybody the first time, the thrill of choosing a girl and then watching you try and bring her in will be more exciting than the threesome itself.

Guest012220 · 02-07-2012, 07:52 PM

Thank you for that helpful advice. That's a good idea as well.

CharityGives · 02-07-2012, 08:05 PM

You and your bf could join a swinger site, and look for a single girl to join you. (Just keep in mind single females are in high demand.)

Every now and then you can get lucky on craigslist, too.

You really should meet her ahead of time. Also think about if you and he want a bi or straight girl.

~Ze~ · 02-08-2012, 05:39 AM

You could just invite an "old friend" out for drinks... maybe one that will only be in town for a few days... and let the night go where it needs to. If you don't know a VERY discreet gal in this group already.. well damn...

(don't forget to let her leave EARLY so she can get to her morning business meeting on time)

The more natural it seems, the better for the illusion.

Thinkin' I am in love with the "mutual hunt" idea as well.

I would think that inviting the BF to join a swinger site or other forums, might be inviting too much temptation into the relationship.

lisa.lisa0302 · 02-08-2012, 07:53 AM

Go to a swingers club. Or find a swingers website.

If your bf does not know, I would not bring a provider into the mix, if you really want a provider, check out the ads and see who is visiting,..........you know they are going home to their city or their state when they leave Texas.

slowmover · 02-08-2012, 11:17 AM

I would find a girl YOU like (provider or not). The hotter things are between the two women, the more the guy will like it and get into it. I wouldn't get him involved in selecting the woman. You know what he would like. Then I would bring her with me and meet him for drinks.

Perhaps someday he will repay the favor.

Best wishes for a great evening!