TRAITS OF A UPSCALE,HIGH CLASS PROVIDER

[MissNorway]

In my humble opinion, I think it all has to do with attitude and how you carry yourself. Bedroom fun is one thing but in my experience, those with champagne tastes want more than just a quick romp. It's about connection, chemistry, conversation and feeling comfortable with each other. And the way she portrays herself is important too, again, not just in the bedroom but outside as well. She should be able to blend with any crowd as to not arouse suspicion. IE, she's not going to walk into a 4+ star hotel wearing a mini skirt and club dress...there is nothing wrong with these practices per say but it's personally nothing I would do as I don't want to attract a lot of attention to myself or my friends. I mean, if I can spot a fellow provider when we don't even know each other, it's safe to assume the staff can as well.

Taking the time to get to know her friend's dislikes and likes and remembering them next time...the little things count.

Although it doesn't always matter, I think education, background, goals...etc have an effect on what makes someone a upscale provider too. It doesn't necessarily matter but someone with a 4 year degree or a masters might carry themselves a little differently than someone without. Again not always, but I believe this is sort of the norm in the real world as well...I don't remember who said it earlier in this thread but someone made a reference that if someone is classy in their "real lives" it will carry over into the hobby. Like the old saying goes, you can take a girl out of the trailer park but you can't take the trailer park out of the girl. Class and integrity isn't really something someone can fake or "turn on" for the job. And I honestly think most with champagne tastes expect personal traits like this.

That's just my 2 cents and I'm sure I haven't said anything that hasn't already been said .

[tara24]

Hey this is Tara .. Look I am new here .. and if I did something worng I did not know that I was .. Sorry but other wise I read the reply and I will be sure to keep all of it in mind ... thanks

[KatelynDesire]

Perceived value is value.
Educated?
What does he ask for her credentials before agreeing to see her?
just wondering.
Slap a $700 pricetag on a pair of payless sneakers and someone is bound to pay it thinking ," Damn look at the fine quality of this footwear!"

[charlestudor2005]

Originally Posted by KatelynDesire

Perceived value is value.
Educated?
What does he ask for her credentials before agreeing to see her?
just wondering.
Slap a $700 pricetag on a pair of payless sneakers and someone is bound to pay it thinking ," Damn look at the fine quality of this footwear!"

Gotta disagree with you here. Yes, a fuck is a fuck, and you can accomplish that with a Thalidomide baby who's missing all arms and legs. Just lay her on the bed and pound the pussy.

But when I've been with a lady who doesn't know proper English or can spell (see the websites and ads) or is fairly uneducated (i.e. doesn't know common facts known to most high school grads or those who have a couple years of college), it's really hard to make a "connection" with a lady. It's called a GFE for a reason: it's an experience, not a 5 minute fuck.

Do I pay her to go away? Sure. But while she's there, I want the experience.

[WTF]

Originally Posted by charlestudor2005

Gotta disagree with you here. Yes, a fuck is a fuck, and you can accomplish that with a Thalidomide baby who's missing all arms and legs. Just lay her on the bed and pound the pussy.

But when I've been with a lady who doesn't know proper English or can spell (see the websites and ads) or is fairly uneducated (i.e. doesn't know common facts known to most high school grads or those who have a couple years of college), it's really hard to make a "connection" with a lady. It's called a GFE for a reason: it's an experience, not a 5 minute fuck.

Do I pay her to go away? Sure. But while she's there, I want the experience.

charles there are more than one way to skin a cat. If you are with someone that is not as educated as you or versed in English, it is up to you to make the connection. Embrace them for wtf they are and I promise you, you will have many more good times than bad.

I love talking to ladies and trying to figure out how they arrived where they are. (In a room naked with me!) If all I am doing is judging them, they know that. If I am there to have a good time and not judge , it usually happens. Do you want them judging you? Looking down on you if say they have a degree from Harvard?

Go with the flow my brother and peace to you and all for the upcoming Holidays and New Year.

[WTF]

Originally Posted by tara24

Hey this is Tara .. Look I am new here .. and if I did something worng I did not know that I was .. Sorry but other wise I read the reply and I will be sure to keep all of it in mind ... thanks

Hey there Tara, you hot lil firecracker. Keep a warm spot for me next time I head to austin!

Welcome aboard and don't be shy about posting. I like those wings btw.

[guest010313]

Originally Posted by WTF

charles there are more than one way to skin a cat. If you are with someone that is not as educated as you or versed in English, it is up to you to make the connection. Embrace them for wtf they are and I promise you, you will have many more good times than bad.

I love talking to ladies and trying to figure out how they arrived where they are. (In a room naked with me!) If all I am doing is judging them, they know that. If I am there to have a good time and not judge , it usually happens. Do you want them judging you? Looking down on you if say they have a degree from Harvard?

Go with the flow my brother and peace to you and all for the upcoming Holidays and New Year.

I don't think it is about judgement. Let's say you are dropping over 1k for a dinner date. Do you want to sit in a nice restaurant searching for common ground until you land on a topic with which she is familiar or do you want to talk about stuff that interests you? I wouldn't pay to see Larry the cable guy, why should a client pay to talk about Jersey Shore?

[Missy Mariposa]

In my humble opinion, I think it all has to do with attitude and how you carry yourself. Bedroom fun is one thing but in my experience, those with champagne tastes want more than just a quick romp. It's about connection, chemistry, conversation and feeling comfortable with each other. And the way she portrays herself is important too, again, not just in the bedroom but outside as well. She should be able to blend with any crowd as to not arouse suspicion. IE, she's not going to walk into a 4+ star hotel wearing a mini skirt and club dress

Absolutely agree with this. Someone who books 6, 12, or 24+ hours is not just looking for a warm hole.

I've actually had this topic come up a lot lately in conversation. Some of the things I heard most were a professional website, classy and accurate photos, and good communication skills (either via email or on the phone). Other things were education, intelligence, good taste (in music, decor, whatever), and a sense of humour.

So basically, be a real person

[diordandridge]

"That streetwalker may have reached the highest lot in life she can reach. The HDH may have stooped as low as one can go given their background, you just never know."

that is pretty profound

[Bigh1955]

Originally Posted by Anita Lay

Ladies and Gentlemen,
I want your thoughts and ideas on what you consider to be upscale and high class in a provider.

It's not just about the fee. It's not just about the provider's appearance or attire. It's not just about her intelligence or education or how she communicates and interacts with her client and possibly her client's associates. It certainly isn't just about the sex. It's about all of these, and truly upscale providers do their homework so they appear to effortlessly and happily "provide" an interactive, client-focused, amazing - almost joyful - experience.

Miss Manners never published a book illuminating proper etiquette for high class gentleman's companions. There are however a number of books written by successful high end companions that provide insight as to how to conduct yourself both publically and in private. Here are a few things I feel will immediately eliminate you from "high end" consideration: vulgarity, especially in public; upselling of any sort whether done by the provider or the agency; talking about other clients (even in general terms) or discussing how busy you are - or aren't; excessive texting, especially if you tell me what gift to bring or (God forbide) you call me "sweety" or "hun;" and finally, leaving the TV on to provide background ambiance - OMG! These may seem obvious, but it surprises me how often one or more of these basic rules are violated within the first hour of an engagement.

Phrasing Anita's question a different way - can a provider see 4 or 5 clients a day or charge by the hour or even half-hour and still be high end? Surprisingly, I think its possible, but unlikely, especially in the beginning, due to the volume of homework. That said, the most amazing provider I ever saw was able to pull it off. She had an uncanny ability to read people, and say or do just the right thing at the right moment. This isn't to say she didn't do her homework. She regularly and discreetly stayed in touch with her clients by sending personal emails and even occasional phone calls. The level of intimacy this engendered made "the experience" of spending time with her all the more special.

For me, there isn't an all inclusive list of qualities to be a high end companion. Be a lady. Be polite. Always remain focused on giving your client the gift of an incredible (total) experience and your clients will see you as a high end companion.

[NinaBrooke]

Originally Posted by CajunGent

They don't fudge on their height/weight and age.

Nope, they don`t. They tend to invest their time to fudge on their so called careers they tend to pretend to have outside the hobby and they tend to fake their numbers of "advanced degrees" . (some think a BA is an advanced degree , and have never seen a university ever since...) (lol)

[charlestudor2005]

They don't play games.

[JDNorthface]

Originally Posted by Missy Mariposa

...Some of the things I heard most were a professional website, classy and accurate photos, and good communication skills (either via email or on the phone). Other things were education, intelligence, good taste (in music, decor, whatever), and a sense of humour.

So basically, be a real person

Good summary. And not just formal education. Wisdom and intelligence come from a heart willing to learn and grow and sheepskin doesn't necessarily produce that. It's not what's hanging on the wall...it's what's in the heart.

Good post.

[NinaBrooke]

Originally Posted by charlestudor2005

They don't play games.

sorry, that was a bit shortsighted of you, Charles. They do. Like any other people as well. There is no difference in character between escorts that charge more or less. If you play games or don`t is in your personality. That brings me back to advanced degrees: If HDHs don`t play games why does someone who has a BA have to pretend she has more than one degree and they are "advanced"?

[charlestudor2005]

Originally Posted by ninasastri

sorry, that was a bit shortsighted of you, Charles. They do. Like any other people as well. There is no difference in character between escorts that charge more or less. If you play games or don`t is in your personality. That brings me back to advanced degrees: If HDHs don`t play games why does someone who has a BA have to pretend she has more than one degree and they are "advanced"?

You completely misunderstood my post.