Advertising question?

[KatelynDesire]

I am naturally a very sweet, affectionate woman and enjoy gfe,
But that same girl LOVES to be dominating. ( I'm a confessed wanna be domanatrix,)

How do I let the message across that I'm able to provide a wide variety of services?

[normhouston]

i would think a couple of ways

(1) if you keep posting in this forum it will alert those who post here what you are or are not interested in. example: i saw your post about strap on's and know that you provide that service. anyone into that would be "keyed in" on that service

(2) you might note in your advertisements or profile something like "inquire nicely about my domination sessions if interested". your concern there might be that without being really specific about what you provide you could end up with some real "out there" requests

does this help?

[joe bloe]

I think you should say in the ad the same thing you just wrote in your post. That says it just fine.

I think a lot of guys might like to try a little kink activity once in a while, even if its not their usual thing. Knowing that you are versatile can only help your business. I just read a post in the In Search Of section (Houston) of a guy seaching for a GFE, MSOG, strapon girl. Maybe you're the one.

Your reviews all say east Houston/Channelview for your location. Your avatar says Southwest Houston; have you moved?

[advatar121]

I would have to say that I am a guy that has experienced the GFE combined with the strap on/ domination. We did a senario where she played the girlfriend role who was pissed that I left the toilet seat up. My punishment was she strapped on 8 inches and went to town. It was great she went to town on me then I went to town on her and got to finish with BBBJCIM. It combined everything I love about a session. Unfortunately she is in SC, so I have to find someone local. The good news is I travel to every major city in the area so I get a lot of variety to choose from.

[ElisabethWhispers]

I'm all for letting men know that I like to experiment and I'm open to alternative activities. That's a good way to put it (for me) because although I'm open to just about anything, there are a BUNCH of activities that I don't have experience in.

And to be frank, there are a lot of activities that I have a TON of experience in. So that helps men, for me, to open up to what they might wish to explore. Then I can tell them if I'm a good match or not.

Some ladies have certain activities that they prefer. Say anal play for instance, which is really popular. If you have certain things that you specialize in, let others know.

On a more gentle note, though, you cannot place activities in your ad on ECCIE. Also, acronyms such as GFE cannot be used, either.

But you can share that information in the private areas of your showcase and of course, allude to it in many ways. And also remember, non-sexual activities CAN be mentioned. So you can do whatever you wish with those!

Also, a picture can tell a thousand words. Spend a few hours with your camera and be creative. Then, you don't have to say too much at all because the picture is sharing your proclivities.

Not trying to make this more complicated answer than it needs to be just trying to help!

Warmly,
Elisabeth

[spice-is-nice]

Ditto what normhouston said.

To expand on his second point, I think what he is saying is that once you start providing Domme services, You will find people (like me) who love being submissive sexually, and using "pain" to accentuate pleasure, and either like or are willing to please their partner by doing all sorts of submissive things like bondage, mild to moderate corporal, "forced" daty/dato, water sports, mild to moderate NT and CBT, and a variety of role plays. I consider this group to be people who use BDSM games as an adjunct to sexuality and sensuality. Their preferences may vary considerably, but pleasure is the goal, not degradation, masochism, or slavery.

You will also find people who are seriously masochistic and want to be hurt and want to be degraded and humiliated as part of the scene Or they want to be hurt enough for their body to find the escape known as 'subspace", a much talked about condition which might be due to endorphin release, but is a sublime experience which is unlike sexual excitement. You have to decide and make clear where your boundaries are. Are you are willing to beat people until they are bruised and bleeding with a variety of implements, put needles through their nipples or cocks or balls, hit them as hard as you can in the balls or abdomen, walk on their bodies (including balls) with high heels, slap their faces hard, lock them in cages, defecate on them, brand them, etc., etc.

Having had the lovely good fortune to be with you twice so far in a purely GFE way, I have a little trouble imagining you being comfortable if your partner wants you to be truly sadistic and demeaning to him/her. Of course I had no clue that an amazingly sweet lover like you would be into strap-ons and domination either, so maybe I am wrong LOL. And I definitely look forward to helping you in your 2012 resolution to let your inner freak out!!!

Let me hasten to add that I am not saying any particular activity is "wrong", although many Dommes draw the line at blood or scat activities or anything which might do permanent damage. Anyone who thinks I am mischaracterizing in this post please speak up.

Meanwhile, rock on Katelyn!!

[Richardson570]

IMHO there is a big difference between a wannabe dom and a really good sensual dom (a la Lindsey Lacey). It takes time and training and more. I am not putting a damper on what you want to do and encourage you to pursue it. I would just say be up front with clients. I for one would have no problem with a provider saying/advertising that they offer some forms of BDSM as long as they could tell me what to expect (I really prefer to talk on the phone about a session like that before it happens -- you need to establish trust, expectations and boundaries). I'd be cool with that. No one starts as an expert.

Have fun with it --- you've got me thinking about my next trip to Houston