Discrimination

[Guest020720]

Originally Posted by DFW5Traveler

I'm actually a little offended, tnt. You call us who happen to be white, boys, then refer the the black guys as men.

cuz if I called a black guy a boy - then I'd really be swimming in deep shit then, now wouldn't I?


to me, you are all boys at heart....cuz you are all here to play...


it's just how it came out...I hope you were pulling my leg, and if you weren't then you're just as silly as coefficient who reads shit into things that weren't there to begin with.

I can't please everyone ALL the time. There comes a point that I get worn out trying to pussy foot - tip toe - bend over backwards - trying to hold everyone's hand all the time - which is yet another reason I turned off my hobby phone...and this can go for guys or girls.

I am who I am...I have a limited filter. If you want to read shit into what I say, I will apologize when it's deeply obvious that it was a big fuck up - but when it's petty shit like that...well, I think people just need to learn to accept me for who I am and understand that overall my intentions are good and that I'd rather be known for being a "real" chic with little to nothing on the bullshit scale.

[pyramider]

I hope DFWTraveler is kidding.

[Guest020720]

me too...cuz the other thing was...he assumed I meant "guys" translated to men....

eye roll....

[darkchoc6]

Jairu, I feel your pain. When I first started hobbying I had as many black providers tell me they were in the NBA than other races. There are around 900 or so providers in the DFW on this site. Just as us guys go through and weed out the ones who don't float our boat, providers are free to do the same. Though it would be more helpful if the NBA policy was clearly stated on their showcase.

A provider once told me that she doesn't see black men because she was robbed by a black client. I thought my career as a thief may work against me. My thief career started and ended as a little kid who stole a piece of bubble gum from a gas station and thought I was going to do life in prison for it.

Telling every provider you contact your race can be disappointing, especially when its one you had high on your list, but I'd rather know they won't see me before I get to the door (Like you did). Charge it to the game and roll on. Plenty of providers (all races) around here who will see us. Happy hunting.

[Majichands]

The Austin board had something like this up a while back and as I said on there.
I know a provider that is white only dates black men and her children are black but WILL NOT SEE AA FOR WORK.
It is the way her man at the time deals with her job.. It is as if she is not cheating on them if she is not doing the same race. That's the way her SO deals with her job so just because they do not see them does not mean they do not like them in fact they might like them too much....lol
Me as long as your respectful You could be purple.

[Kaci Snow]

I for one dont care if your purple or blue or green just let me know before you come so i know who i am looking for when you show up ! Every girl has her own rights as to who she wants to see and thats fine but i still dont get the robbed or hurt ummm... so was I and you know what I am a big enough person that i understand that NOT every guy is going to be like that just becuase hes black , yellow , green whatever. If you screen right you dont have to be worried about some pimp showing up. Good Luck and I really hope that you find all the wonderful ladies that DFW has to offer that would be more than willing to see you with ref.

[Soonerman12]

Originally Posted by Jariou

I recently, 2 days ago, had a date with a young woman, she was white, and I am Blk. I won’t mention her name just yet, don’t want to start anything. Nothing on her showcase said she discriminated. That’s cool, to each his/her own. I won’t’ complain about that, but when I showed up. I could see her look through the peep hole, so after a few more knocks. I did the math. That pissed me off. I ended up going to a reliable AMP on a short notice to get some satisfaction. What do you thing about that? Would anyone handle it different? I can appreciate a person who is upfront about what they want and who they are. I have on 2 occasion contacted 2 women who ads stated no Blk. What I did find out was for some personal reasons they are picky, and not totally prejudice against a race, but still we cannot put a people in a bag and label the same. Your thoughts. Also the ad on back page stated no Blk, but nothing on the showcase or reviews.

Patience.. Things are progressing now. More and more black men are starting to look out for one another on this board and warn one another of the loser providers who engage in this sort of behavior. We are hoping that we can get all of the NBA providers to disclose that in their profiles. Then, we can make sure that their asses never get any of our money.

It's nice to see that there are open minded providers here. Much appreciated.

[Guest020720]

Hey SM - I know you didn't get a reply about the "list" - but I had suggested it a few pages before that thread got shut down due to ignorant behavior (not on your part).

I think it's a good suggestion and I told you before that a friend who was also a client use to keep one going several years ago.

He kept track of all the local providers in his area - as well as girls who regularly toured there....and if their name ever got linked to being NBA, a type of an "alert" was sent out to members of his list...it may have been a yahoo group or something like that.

I think if you guys/men/boys/human beings can behave like rational people regarding this - then the ladies who at times don't see black men for WHATEVER reason - might find reason to make an exception for a client of one of their friends....and if they should do so - don't throw that shit up in their faces.

If it is someone that you want to see - do the deed WITHOUT mention of her previous history of turning down black men - It can only lead to trouble in session.

Later on, your mutual friend may be able to shed some light on it later for you, which may help solve this giant puzzle for you.

I think that this would be the best route to go for those of you who keep running into this shit storm over and over again.


I do feel for you - but I also feel for the girls who end up making this decision for all the various reasons.

I had a professor tell me once - that all relationships are based on power.

We are either giving it or taking it. In the hobby it's a compromise of how much each side is willing to give up and at what cost.

[Jariou]

This has been thought provoking.
In the words of a famous black philosopher, “Can’t we just all get along?”