MJ, you wrote a slightly different version of this question on the national "technical" board, and I think it is the posting to which I would prefer to respond from the perspective of a concerned hobbyist.
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Originally Posted by Anita Lay
I removed my showcase due to some bogus alerts that were posted in three states concerning a 'he say', 'she say' conversation and was never investigated by moderators for those 3 states.... I rather not deal with the drama.
Would love to have the only good review removed- it was considered bogus and an alert was done on that as well . I sent the moderator all of the information to prove it was legit.
Every time I turn around there is a alert.
One person keeps doing this over and over.
I could care less about having a provider status or having good reviews. rather just have some fun and learn things while here, along with maintaing board friendships that has been established.
Please take me back to poster position ..thanks...
Thanks
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Your recitation of events is quite sketchy.
Firstly, your only review was questioned by many because of your behavior, but your moderator
DID IN FACT confirm its legitimacy (
http://www.eccie.net/showpost.php?p=1664323&postcount=6).
Secondly, your own history is what has caused your problems. Hobbyists understand that just because a massively dramatic woman changes her handle, that does not mean the risks have disappeared. While you lament the fact that guys warn each other, you ignor one of the hobbyists most valued principles:
safety. If a provider is a risk, that risk remains regardless of what name she uses.
If you say that you are a changed person, you cannot expect people to simply accept that because you say so. Many of us read many forums and have noted your comments in those forums. Quite honestly, some of your comments are deeply disturbing.
For example, you opened this thread (
http://www.eccie.net/showthread.php?t=326045) and no matter how you try to spin it, any reasonable man would have grave concerns about a woman who plans to video their meeting. Even if you came along and publicly stated that you changed your mind and would not install video cameras, you have already made it deeply worrisome for the guys. Any guy reading that thread will expect you have video equipment carefully hidden even if you claim you don't. Again, you have created your own problem with these kinds of posts. For you to expect hobbyists to ignor such risks is naive.
Thirdly, you say you could care less about having reviews or even having a "provider status", indicating you just want to have fun. While it is true you have many postings all over the entire ECCIE network which are goofy and silly, it is also true that you have many,
many posts that are considered by hobbyists to be troublesome because of your rudeness (which you even admit in a few posts) and your suggestions to ladies to use "low blows" against guys, and many other posts that allude to a threatening of hobbyist safety (such as this one offering a hobbyist's private information to "everyone":
http://www.eccie.net/showthread.php?t=327356).
Many people will consider the old adage "
a leopard cannot change his spots" to be applicable, and thus be cautious. With each morph into a new persona, hobbyists will note it and warn each other. That is
truly "watching each other's back". The fact that you even admit to multiple handles and taunt both hobbyists and moderators about creating multiple personas (as you have done again in the OP of this thread)... that causes hobbyists to be concerned for their safety, and thus to alert others to the potential risks.
If you had come on ECCIE and just been a normal person in the hobby, you would have been able to have those "board friendships" without any problems, but that is not what you have done. You started this particular incarnation with an apology, then pretended to be a newbie, then continued morphing into an incendiary personality.
I don't know what you expect from hobbyists when this is your behavior. Guys want to be safe. Your history and many of your posts under
this incarnation give hobbyists pause regarding that safety. Perhaps I can quote the first post of your current handle's advent and draw your attention to both the third and fourth sentences:
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Originally Posted by Anita Lay
I am dearly sorry to all that has been put through mental torment for something that was between me and another person. Never did I intend for something to go this far and get out of hand.
You have the right to feel unsafe with all the actions going on and it gives Mississippi a bad name.
I made my bed and I will lie in it, with or without you.
learning from it all is the best policy and I have been a dumb azz.
All the name calling and finger pointing is getting us no where.
These people and others are innocent and deserve better.
Thanks & be safe.
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Best Regards, UF
remove good review?
