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phizz · 09-17-2011, 04:05 PM

Ok this is really pathetic.

Theres this girl who initially liked me and asked me out. We went out and I started to have a huge crush on her. Its the first time in my life where an attractive girl was actually attracted to me the same way. After about a week of dating she invited me over to her place and we made out for a few hours. But when things progressed, I couldn't get an erection. Its not that she wasn't hot. She was AMAZING. Its just I don't know what the problem is. I tried working at it in the restroom, everything. I hadn't masturbated in over a week. I haven't watched porn. I haven't done anything wrong. The situation was highly embarrassing.

When it became apparent that I was like that, it turned her off understandably. I saw her eyes move away from us and knew she was no longer interested. We held eachother and she explained to me that she thinks we've been moving too fast and what not. She said she just got out of a 3 year relationship last month and that this was all too fast. The next day she called me and said that she has been doing some thinking and that she isn't really wanting a relationship or anything serious right now. I assume it had everything to do with my problem.

After that, she invited me over the next night and the same problem happened. I don't really know what the fuck is wrong with me becuz this NEVER happened to me before. Now, I don't know what to do. I think I lost out on a really good opportunity with someone who I was extremely attracted to. Now she doesn't initiate any of our correspondance. She isn't nearly as interested in me as she was the first week when we started dating, and I feel pretty much devastated.

This is highly embarrassing. Now, I don't know what to do.

-phizz

Guest081519 · 09-17-2011, 04:15 PM

I don't know what to tell you. You should probably talk to your doctor about it. Professional advice is best with something this serious.

phizz · 09-17-2011, 04:21 PM

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Originally Posted by JJ

I don't know what to tell you. You should probably talk to your doctor about it. Professional advice is best with something this serious.

Yeah I did. He's running blood tests and stuff. Problem is now I'm about to go on a 3 week business trip so I won't know what is going on. Really bad timing.

Neednoname · 09-17-2011, 04:23 PM

Are you unable to suddenly get an erection at all? Or is it just with her?

Did you try at home? I know you tried in the restroom, but perhaps in a less stressful situation.

phizz · 09-17-2011, 04:27 PM

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Originally Posted by Neednoname

Are you unable to suddenly get an erection at all? Or is it just with her?

Did you try at home? I know you tried in the restroom, but perhaps in a less stressful situation.

Yes I tried it at home in a less stressful situation with the same problems too. Believe me this chick looked epic. I probably would have to be gay not to be attracted to her.

Neednoname · 09-17-2011, 04:29 PM

Well I guess just wait for your doctor to correspond with you over the phone. If it's something bad perhaps handle it where the business trip is, and if not just wait until you get back to address it. Nothing else you can do until the blood work comes back.

phizz · 09-17-2011, 04:31 PM

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Originally Posted by Neednoname

Well I guess just wait for your doctor to correspond with you over the phone. If it's something bad perhaps handle it where the business trip is, and if not just wait until you get back to address it. Nothing else you can do until the blood work comes back.

They're just checking my testosterone levels.

phizz · 09-17-2011, 04:34 PM

I wasn't really looking for answers here just wanting the opportunity to discuss a serious problem I was going through.

Keyzer Soze · 09-17-2011, 04:35 PM

Could be performance anxiety. Relax and let things take their normal course. You may be over thinking the problem and making it worse. Just my .02cents

phizz · 09-17-2011, 04:38 PM

We were relaxed and going slow. I spent like 2 hours doing foreplay. Theres just no excuse I can confidently use.

TrmaOne · 09-17-2011, 04:49 PM

Take a Viagra....even if you done need one to get you over the hump..Maybe just performance anxiety with you feeling inadequate with the girl who you feel may be out of your league...

Quote: "Its the first time in my life where an attractive girl was actually attracted to me the same way". I'm sure it will pass...Good luck.

canyonman · 09-17-2011, 05:29 PM

Performance anxiety is some powerful shit..

One other thought, you aren't taking any new meds are you? I was taking a new med a few years ago and it knocked my dick into the dirt... told my doc I ain't taking that shit anymore!

phizz · 09-17-2011, 07:44 PM

I think you guys brought up a good point about the performance anxiety which I agree to having. The whole idea of an attractive girl initiating interest in me kinda freaked me out too. The confusing thing about the anxiety is that it is following me home (alone). I think that this may be a bigger problem. The puzzling thing about it is that this ED problem has not existed with any AMPs I've been to in Houston or SA over the past several years. So either the problem was just now starting to happen for me, or, its that this girl is beyond hot. Too difficult to tell.

doorman52 · 11-16-2011, 08:31 PM

Don't feel like the Lone Ranger on this one it happens to the best of us. When it gets into your head it's tough to fight. I can catch a bad case of PA and when I leave I get a woody, gotta hate that.

coqsman · 11-16-2011, 08:55 PM

Not to alarm you... but this is a common first sign of heart problems! Get your ticker checked just in case.