Stalkers

[shorty]

Another thread about hobbyist taking ladies on a vacation and the tragic death of a provider, got me to thinking about Stalkers. Ladies, what do you look for in someone that could become a Stalker to you? Also how would you handle the situation if it arose?

[Shayla]

I honestly don't pay that much attention. I'm pretty oblivious to thing when I'm walking around. However, if I did have a stalker I'd be amused, slightly confused and somewhat flattered I think.
I think stalking is silly and too much effort. You'd have to be really bored.
In any event, I'd probably approach it bluntly and just ask "why?" or maybe invite them for coffee. Yeah, it sounds odd but that's just personally how I would handle it. I don't think I'd like to draw more attention and get cops involved especially if it was still at a harmless stage.

[burkalini]

Shayla I must say you just seem to have a great attitude about life. I have seen your post and they always seem very positive. It just goes to show you that not all beautiful women are self asbsorbed and narcisstic. You are really a breath of fresh air and I applaud you.

[Naomi4u]

I'd probably .............. maybe invite them for coffee. Yeah, it sounds odd but that's just personally how I would handle it.

I don't think I'd like to draw more attention and get cops involved especially if it was still at a harmless stage.

It's better to take care of it in the harmless stage. After that it is too late.

Anyways,

I have a few stalkers. They stalk my website and have been trying for months to out me . These group of people are harmless because they're internet stalkers and have nothing better to do with their time. So no biggie.

There was a guy (a hobbyist) I spent two days with that started to harass me. He was married and convinced himself that he had fallen in love with me. He told me he was willing to leave his wife and kids for me. After I told him he needed to back off, he started to harass me even more. He never showed up to my house or anything thank goodness. Not a stalker - just annoying i guess.

You know what though? A lot of escorts convince themselves that they're being stalked at one point or another. A lot of it turns into false accusations. I honestly think a lot of the ":ex boyfriend stalking me complaints" are bs. Most of the ladies in this business are paranoid.

I HIGHLY doubt one would appreciate a real stalker and invite them over for cookies and milk. That is absurd.

[Shayla]

Originally Posted by burkalini

Shayla I must say you just seem to have a great attitude about life. I have seen your post and they always seem very positive. It just goes to show you that not all beautiful women are self asbsorbed and narcisstic. You are really a breath of fresh air and I applaud you.

That's nice of you to say, thank you.
I personally feel that people who are going to go to this extent are just lonely people. Don't get me wrong, I know it can lead to devastating consequences at times but I think how you handle it could possibly alter the potential outcome.
I'm no expert on psychology or anything but I'd say these people are for the most part bored and lonely and just looking for the right kind of attention. How they go about it is obviously not the most conventional way but whose to set that standard? A lot them probably don't even realize that what they're doing is 'wrong'.
I'm not sticking up for these people or condoning their actions, I'm just pointing out that SOME of them don't have the ulterior motives that they're frequently accused of.

[Shayla]

I HIGHLY doubt one would appreciate a real stalker and invite them over for cookies and milk. That is absurd.

Hahaha, well technically if you invite them over, they're not stalking you anymore. Problem solved!

[CiaoBitchezz!]

It depends on the type of stalker, there are different kinds. I dated a guy who tended to stalk me when he was on duty. Yep a cop lol. It went on way after I ended the relationship too for about a year, I moved a few states away and he ended up getting married. whew!

then you have the pissed off hobbyist stalkers who hate women or just the ones they cant bully and push around. Kinda like the ones Naomi mentioned. These losers will try and locate you to any means. They have a lil network going, and really think they know it all. They watch your every move. Its that kind that I laugh at. Really, too funny. Since I know most of their identities Ive thought about stalking them back, sending birthday gifts etc lmao! That would be tooo funny.

And then you have the stalker who has just fallen in love with you because you were kind to them, maybe at school, work, grocery store, etc. It starts out sweet, but coffee with them is a bad idea. A stalker is NOT mentally stable, and it will not end good if you show any other acts of kindness that will lead them on.

there are laws against stalking, but its hard to prevent. Watch your surroundings at all times and if you have a stalker try not to be alone too often. But as unpredictable as they are, you just never know.

[shorty]

Originally Posted by Shayla

I honestly don't pay that much attention. I'm pretty oblivious to thing when I'm walking around. However, if I did have a stalker I'd be amused, slightly confused and somewhat flattered I think.
I think stalking is silly and too much effort. You'd have to be really bored.
In any event, I'd probably approach it bluntly and just ask "why?" or maybe invite them for coffee. Yeah, it sounds odd but that's just personally how I would handle it. I don't think I'd like to draw more attention and get cops involved especially if it was still at a harmless stage.

[Naomi4u]

Originally Posted by shorty

Exactly.

[Naomi4u]

Originally Posted by Shayla

Hahaha, well technically if you invite them over, they're not stalking you anymore. Problem solved!

I truly hope this is some marketing ploy because you can't possibly be serious. Maybe you want stalkers dunno.
Inviting a stalk into your home means they're not stalking you anymore? Everything gets better after that? LOL. So exactly how do you measure their sanity? How do you know he's the type of stalker that won't kill you? Over tea and bread? I'm pretty sure if it is a REAL stalker - You know - one that is true threat to you and your family - That little tea party will not end well.

[Naomi4u]

Originally Posted by CiaoBitchezz!

It depends on the type of stalker, there are different kinds. I dated a guy who tended to stalk me when he was on duty. Yep a cop lol. It went on way after I ended the relationship too for about a year, I moved a few states away and he ended up getting married. whew!

then you have the pissed off hobbyist stalkers who hate women or just the ones they cant bully and push around. Kinda like the ones Naomi mentioned. These losers will try and locate you to any means. They have a lil network going, and really think they know it all. They watch your every move. Its that kind that I laugh at. Really, too funny. Since I know most of their identities Ive thought about stalking them back, sending birthday gifts etc lmao! That would be tooo funny.

And then you have the stalker who has just fallen in love with you because you were kind to them, maybe at school, work, grocery store, etc. It starts out sweet, but coffee with them is a bad idea. A stalker is NOT mentally stable, and it will not end good if you show any other acts of kindness that will lead them on.

there are laws against stalking, but its hard to prevent. Watch your surroundings at all times and if you have a stalker try not to be alone too often. But as unpredictable as they are, you just never know.

Very well said.

[Shayla]

Originally Posted by Naomi4u

I truly hope this is some marketing ploy because you can't possibly be serious.
Inviting a stalk into your home means they're not stalking you anymore? Everything gets better after that? LOL. So exactly how do you measure their sanity? Over tea and bread? I'm pretty sure if it is a REAL stalker - You know - one that is true threat to you and your family - That little tea party will not end well.

I guess I'm not that mentally sane myself. I'd be somewhat intrigued by them. Maybe I'd stalk my stalker. That'd be interesting scheme to pull off. It'd keep me busy. It'd be like hide and seek for grown ups.
Alright, I'm done.

[CiaoBitchezz!]

Shayla, you are either very young and thrive off of any kind of attention, or you really have no idea how dangerous a stalker can be. They are Mentally unstable and dangerous. Its no game to play with a person or group of people like that. Hun, you really need to do some research. You seem like a sweetie, I would hate to see you become a victim.

[shorty]

Originally Posted by CiaoBitchezz!

Shayla, you are either very young and thrive off of any kind of attention, or you really have no idea how dangerous a stalker can be. They are Mentally unstable and dangerous. Its no game to play with a person or group of people like that. Hun, you really need to do some research. You seem like a sweetie, I would hate to see you become a victim.

Well Said!

[Ed Highlight]

Originally Posted by Shayla

I guess I'm not that mentally sane myself. I'd be somewhat intrigued by them. Maybe I'd stalk my stalker. That'd be interesting scheme to pull off. It'd keep me busy. It'd be like hide and seek for grown ups.
Alright, I'm done.

Nothing a stalker hates more than attention!! I should know, I can stalk with the best of 'em!! Just ask Naomi, Valerie, London, SweetNLittle, Nina, Sandra Dee, Tiffany, etc., etc., etc.

Shayla, let's have coffee......SYL (Stalk You Later)