What am I doing wrong????

[RPM12]

Hi ladies and gents, I don't mean to sound pathetic or anything, and I don't even want sympothy( think that's how you spell it). Anyway I have tried to schedule appointments with some provider, first of all I'm a newbie I have no refs, I offer my info such as my name, number, place of employment, even that phone number so they can know well you know?. I've even given my email even as far as giving my facebook page and still can't get an appointment with anyone. I mean come on!! Please tell me what I'm doing wrong??? It seems that all I can do is go to the spas when what I really want is to get some ref.'s under my belt. So please any advice would be much appreciated. Thanks.

[fher76]

There are plenty of newbie friendly providers on eccie, you just have to look. Once you get enough references then you can contact the non-newbie women.

[Marcus78]

It is the hardest part of the hobby, (other than finding ways to pay for it) getting that first, reliable reference. I would search for the term "newbie" or "newbie Friendly" in the SA ads section, and give a lady a call from there. There are 3 or 4 in SA I think. If you are striking out with one, go to the next one and get that first ref. From there, you should have no problem seeing a lady; many will see you with only one reference! I know it is kinda generic advice, but that is all there is to it really. If you fail the first time, try again with another lady until you succeed. Best of luck to you, and happy hobbying!

[Rand Al'Thor]

If the provider you contacted asked for your personal information as part of newbie screening process, they should schedule you if the information checks out. If not, that is a serious breech of security - now your personal information is floating around in the possession of a few alleged sex workers.

Personally, I would not give out my personal information. There are newbie friendly providers who will see you without all that. Worst case, drop the money for P411 and, if you have to, give your personal information there. That way, only one out of country has your info instead of every provider who asks for it.

[Guest030824]

P411 is the way to go. It is well worth the money and allows the providers to feel secure in contacting you. I find contacting a provider through P411 gets the get together set up quicker.

[sanantonioman37]

Ditto on p411 great for starting out.

[Chuck12]

Originally Posted by RPM12

Hi ladies and gents, I don't mean to sound pathetic or anything, and I don't even want sympothy( think that's how you spell it). Anyway I have tried to schedule appointments with some provider, first of all I'm a newbie I have no refs, I offer my info such as my name, number, place of employment, even that phone number so they can know well you know?. I've even given my email even as far as giving my facebook page and still can't get an appointment with anyone. I mean come on!! Please tell me what I'm doing wrong??? It seems that all I can do is go to the spas when what I really want is to get some ref.'s under my belt. So please any advice would be much appreciated. Thanks.

I'm with Rand, did she ask for all that info as screening?

You have to be careful out there. The little head can be powerful in controlling our decisions, but just think about it, you pretty much gave a stranger on the internet more than enough info to find you and possible black mail you, etc.

There are providers out there that are newbie friendly, all you have to do is look for them. Others have lighter screening for newbies or alternate other than references. Find them and contact them and see them. That way you build some references to see providers who require references in order to see them.

Even though you really really want to see X provider, remember that your safety comes first and that anything you put out there on the internet can come back to bite you.

[Likinikki]

RPM, the best advice I can offer is to READ the provider's showcase/website/signature line to see what her requirements are FIRST. If you contact a provider who's not newbie friendly, or doesn't see anyone without current references...9 out of 10 times, you're going to get turned down.

Like some of the hobbyists have said...use the search feature, or post a request in the ISO forum for newbie friendly providers. One thing to remember when making your selection of newbie friendly providers...make sure she's well reviewed and reputable.

Good-luck!

[Mojojo]

As stated above dude invest in p411. It makes screening for the ladies easier, which in turn might increase your chances of getting a date.

[RPM12]

Thanks for all the advice and as far as my info goes I didn't give the the whole thing th most I gave was my email and but not with the same person , my phone number. I never gave my last name. Anyways all is well now I got to see one of the beautiful ladies today and hopefully with her as my ref I'm sure I'll get to see a whole lot of other beautiful ladies. Again thnks to all

[Guest083013]

RPM12 said in part:
".....I've even given my email even as far as giving my facebook page and still can't get an appointment with anyone....."

Facebook -- you got to be kidding!!!

of course that could extend her client base and you and your friends could have more exciting discussions over dinner and at parties..............

[texasjohn1965]

"If God did not want them sheared, He would not have made them sheep"

Calvera - Magnificent Seven

[greenhorn1960]

Originally Posted by dennisrn

Facebook -- you got to be kidding!!!

of course that could extend her client base and you and your friends could have more exciting discussions over dinner and at parties..............

[Misterb8tor]

Looks like things have taken a turn for the better for RPM

http://http://www.eccie.net/showthread.php?t=276561

Way to go! Stay safe and quit giving out all that personal info!

[Likinikki]

Good choice grasshopper! (wink, wink!)