From “ Lifestyle wife” to Provider

[tomsview]

OK, not quite sure how to phrase this question so please minimalize any verbal bullying until I get some feedback to re-compose the inquiry. I am curious to hear about those providers, here or elsewhere, who were once in the “lifestyle” with their SO and then evolved separately as a provider, whether still attached, separated or divorced. I ask out of interest in this as a variation/ fetish. Here is the deal: Provider indulged in the lifestyle for years, loved the energy of strange and the fantasy of being a courtesan …so much that she decided to go solo as a provider. Kind and measured replies would be greatly appreciated.
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[AngelaAspenXXX]

While in LA, I was HUGE into the lifestyle with my SO

I was dating another male adult performer/ director/ company owner for almost 2 years. He is paid far more than I can ever dream so us both being paid? Awesome. A guy far better at sex than me? Paid more for sex than me? OMG!

He would go and fuck... I would go and fuck... we would bring orgies home on the weekends. When guys would send me boat loads of clothes, if he would be on his way to set... he would come break them in before a client got there.

Him fucking me dirty then sending me onto a client was HOT! Vis Versa...him fucking me... and NOT cuming... saving it for set... banging out the worlds most beautiful women was such a killer turn on.

The Money? Just made it all sexier. Dirty Sexy Money!

xo- Angela Aspen

[dearhunter]

Originally Posted by AngelaAspenXXX

Him fucking me dirty then sending me onto a client was HOT! ........The Money? Just made it all sexier. Dirty Sexy Money!

xo- Angela Aspen

uhhhhhhhhh ok

[tomsview]

Wow ANgela, great story. Dirty Sexy Money, indeed!!!

I was in the lifestyle for 6 years with my SO, during that time we really enjoyed the clubs, Pendelum, Secrets, Encounters, but mostly small house parties and private get togethers with other couples. We did run across the occassional visiting porn star (Whitney Wonders) non of which either of us had a strong interest, we just wern't into the PSE thing. Well all good things must pass and we eventually parted ways. We both faded from the lifesyle and became involved in vanilla relationships. The vanilla thing has caused me to stray towards some much needed variation, ( only on occasion of course ;-) ) Now that I'm here on Eccie and P4 I feel very comfortable in asking these types of questions. Thanks for sharing !

[dearhunter]

Is your former SO interested in becoming a provider?

[tomsview]

former SO becoming a provider ? nah I think not, at least not that I know of. Although a lady friend from those days in the LS recently mentioned an interest in capitalizing on her super libido. I told her she might do well, but it would sure be a major shift from the nursing profession. Who knows, she may decide to do it part time. That in part is what sparked my interest is posing the question in a thread.

[lilred_robin]

My 1st hubby and I were swingers. Hell, I started a 'group' in high school.
The 2nd husband wasn't really so into it, but after the fun newlywed phase wore off, I needed more attention that one guy could possibly give.
So I became lil red Robin
I started p4p in Houston in 2006.

[tomsview]

Exactly ! Ther ya go, that's what I'm talking about. Thanks for sharing !
Would love to hear about your group in HS. but maybe best not here.
Hobby On !

[simplegent]

Interesting thread - brings a few thoghts of my own to mind. Thanks for starting this one.

[rwksl]

My wife and I are in the lifestyle, and she would never consider taking money from any of our friends. But she's more than happy to take money from me- even when no sex is involved.

[Still Looking]

Originally Posted by AngelaAspenXXX

While in LA, I was HUGE into the lifestyle with my SO

I was dating another male adult performer/ director/ company owner for almost 2 years. He is paid far more than I can ever dream so us both being paid? Awesome. A guy far better at sex than me? Paid more for sex than me? OMG!

He would go and fuck... I would go and fuck... we would bring orgies home on the weekends. When guys would send me boat loads of clothes, if he would be on his way to set... he would come break them in before a client got there.

Him fucking me dirty then sending me onto a client was HOT! Vis Versa...him fucking me... and NOT cuming... saving it for set... banging out the worlds most beautiful women was such a killer turn on.

The Money? Just made it all sexier. Dirty Sexy Money!

xo- Angela Aspen

Everyone has their definition of reality!?

[txswing99]

My ex-GF that started me on swinging in college, later became a rather successful provider in Dallas years later. We reconnected again in her provider life and it was actually not weird at all!

[tomsview]

Now there's an interesting twist. Are you still in touch with her and is she still providing ? Which leads to the question; How long has she been at it ?
Either way, thanks for sharing.

[tomsview]

hahaha ! so well put. Now there's a classic Lifestyle wife. I can relate. Ya don't need to draw me a picture on that one. Thanks for contributing !

Originally Posted by rwksl

My wife and I are in the lifestyle, and she would never consider taking money from any of our friends. But she's more than happy to take money from me- even when no sex is involved.

[Brooke Wilde]

Originally Posted by rwksl

My wife and I are in the lifestyle, and she would never consider taking money from any of our friends. But she's more than happy to take money from me- even when no sex is involved.

You and your wife are one of the luckiest couples on earth. Not just because of the interesting sexual life style you live and share, but because of the honesty and respect you both share for one another.

I will never forget the look on your face, and forgive me for being cheesy, but the down right sparkle in your eyes when you spoke of her. To be married to someone for 20+ years and still be so passionate about them is very rare. I pray that some day I am blessed enough to have a marriage and bond like the 2 of you share.

Hell, once I get my degree I need to bring the 2 of you in once a month to speak at couples counseling events I would like to someday hold I think your wife could help a lot of women out.