allincluded4u - a cautionary tale

[Slothrop]

So, I'd asked for info and reccs for ladies in Chattanooga earlier this month, and to avoid driving all the way to Knoxville, I stuck with Chatt girls. I contacted allincluded4u (Brittany) about a week beforehand, thru p411. We agreed to iron out the particulars closer to the actual day.

Emailed her again and we agreed to meet at my hotel on Tuesday the 19th. I emailed again to say I'd be arriving later than expected and asked if that was still okay. The last email I got was asking where I'd be staying, and that was while I was still on the road.

I never heard anything else from her, and after giving her two days to respond, I emailed again and asked if she wanted to tell me why she stood me up. That was on the 21st, and I've still had no response.

I didn't want to rant or give an actual review since I never even met her, but I did feel this treatment warranted a warning to others that she might be a flaky no-show. Sure, maybe she was in a car crash or something, but the most likely scenario is deciding to go party and blow me off, and not in the good way.

Thanks to Fastcars1966 for advice on where to post this; I hope it's actually in the right spot!

[guest100913]

Man, I am so sorry. I feel like maybe I am a little bit to blame because of my contribution to your earlier request for info.

She seemed to be exactly what you were looking for and the reviews were good. I haven't been to Chattanooga in a long time, and so she has been on my ever-growing "to do" list.

Back in May I had tried to contact her for a sort of "pre-screen" since I was not sure when I would be in town again. But she was fairly clear that unless you were booking an appointment right away, she didn't want the communication, not even for a pre-screen, so I just chalked it up to her privacy preference and thought I would try to contact her on my next trip to the Choo-Choo.

Sorry man. Thanks for letting us know. And yes, the right sub-forum for this posting would be either here or in the men's lounge.

[bluffcityguy]

Just one thing: did you have a date and time set?

This may be just me, but I'd be hesitant to say I've been NC/NS'd if I've told a girl I'll be in her city on a particular date, and that I'd contact her to pin down an exact time once I arrived. That's kind of the impression I'm left with by your post. If I'd tentatively inquired about a date without setting an exact appointment time, and then (owing to circumstances beyond my control) wound up arriving later than I expected that day, I wouldn't hold it against the lady to book another appointment in my stead, and not see me. Shit happens.

OTOH, I agree she did owe you the courtesy of a response, if only to either explain what happened (if she was unavoidably detained), or to unjustly chew your ass out so at least you know where you stand. As it is, though, "what we got here [may be] failure to communicate".

Cheers,

bcg

[Slothrop]

BCG - lemme clarify a little. As I said, I'm not bashing, but I've waited a week for any kind of response. I wasn't happy about being stood up, but I also wondered if the girl had been hurt, either on the road or, god forbid, *by* someone.

Anyway, I had emailed her on the road, saying I was 2hours away. That's when I asked if that would be too late. (I had previously given the option of the next day as opposed to that night, btw.) She'd replie that was fine and that's when she asked where I'd be staying.

That email when I was 2 hours away was the last I heard from her. I emailed several more times, inquired about a phone number, etc. No response. I waited two das before trying again, and still nothing.

I'd have understood perfectly if my arrival time had put her off or if she'd decided to go with another appt but the common courtesy of email would have been easy and professional. If I have unforeseen changes in plans, you can bet your ass I contact anyone affected by it, and that's all I ask in return. He'll, I'd have been happy to reschedule for the next day, seeing as how that was an option for her in the first place.

I was disappointed, and tbh, just knowing the girl wasn't lying dead or in a hospital somewhere would have eased my mind a little. Contrary to what people might hear on the news, we hobbyists generally care about girls' welfare...

[bluffcityguy]

Originally Posted by Slothrop

BCG - lemme clarify a little. As I said, I'm not bashing, but I've waited a week for any kind of response. I wasn't happy about being stood up, but I also wondered if the girl had been hurt, either on the road or, god forbid, *by* someone.

Anyway, I had emailed her on the road, saying I was 2hours away. That's when I asked if that would be too late. (I had previously given the option of the next day as opposed to that night, btw.) She'd replie that was fine and that's when she asked where I'd be staying.

That email when I was 2 hours away was the last I heard from her. I emailed several more times, inquired about a phone number, etc. No response. I waited two das before trying again, and still nothing.

Ok. That makes a bit more sense. Thanks for the clarification.

Cheers,

bcg

[CrimsonSky]

I don't know if this had anything to do with the situation or not but it may be an explanation of her suddenly stopping contact and the dates seem about right.

http://www.chattanoogan.com/articles/article_205370.asp