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Originally Posted by ninasastri
You are nevertheless focussed too much on biological explanations which are outdated. We don`t live in stone age anymore and men and women are not so different from each other in connections. Because if plant seed and go is th male attribute ,
then why are so many men staying in sexless or at least sex negative marriages.....
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It's not just men, or men in marriages...it's women too and it happens in relationships. Having seen more people than I care to try and remember in this situation, both in and outvf the scorting world, I would day a large proportion ( of both gender) fall into the group of not having the courage/ confidence to leave until they KNOW the grass is greener.
If the relationship is pretty much sound, apart from the sex, a man is less likely to leave the marriage IMO than a woman. He will fill that missing void without disturbing the equilibrium at home. He will the two parts his whole. Ive come across several men that are anywhere between probably 65 to 85% happy with their marriage and are notvwilling to give that sizable chunk of comfort up unless they know they can be happier elsewhere. Having an affair won't tell them that...they have no idea what it would be like to live with that person and they generally seem to know and accept that. So instead of trying to replace the relationship, they try to make it up by other means.
Women generally are different. They want all their comforts from one source (unless they live a polyamorous life) and after having an affair will either generally leave the marriage OR stop the affair. That's one of the reasons that even women that can afford to generally don't use male escorts and why there is not such a demand for them. Women are generally more willing to believe that the whole enchilada DOES exist and they can have it. I think the fact that women are more self sufficient in terms of being able to live alone and take care of themselves makes a split less worrisome for them. They worry more about how they will cope financially than how they will cope on other fronts. Men are usually the revere. I can't count the number of divorced men I have encountered that don't know how to grocery shop/cook/ do laundry/ etc. I seriously think that this is why in households where the input isn't equal ( ie women does all housekeeping tasks, men does all financial stuff..including earning the most money) these couples take much longer to split, than the ones that share all this stuff as equally as possible.
Ok have at it lol
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Dammit, I can't scroll back up on this iPad.
I meant to also say that in relationships where the a person feels that only ,25% of their needs are being met, they are much more likely to leave and try and find something better than stay but see escorts. That's been my understanding anyway of both my own and other people's relationships over the years. As it pertains to needy clients/ escorts, to me they are the ones that aren't getting enough out of the relationship with their client/provider and push the boundaries for more. It's not the client/provider they need to change, is the kind of relationship they want. At that point, its time to get out of this biz.
i offered him a free fisting session already. :-) Its up to him now :-)
