What's the best way to confirm in advance whether a provider will agree to your fetish?

[AdventurousMouse]

Many providers don't want to discuss specific services through text or calls (and understandably so, for liability reasons)

That being said, for the sake of the provider and the client, it's best if both parties are on the same page ahead of time (as far as what the client wants out of the session)

My providers I've gotten with on a regular basis are aware of my fetish. I like to see new providers from time to time, however. There have been times with new providers where they get here, only for it to turn out they refuse my fetish.

In a nutshell, I'm looking for a way to confirm fetish willingness in advance with new providers, yet refrain from making her suspect I'm a cop entrapping her.

[Mr69Jones]

If she has a website then you should find out if she's fetish friendly or not. Reviews would be another way.

[~Ze~]

Carefully wording what interests you, is one thing.

Asking if another person will provide it is specific and taboo.

I love hearing what people are interested in. I hate being asked if I am an alphabet girl. (xyz etc)

[Fizley]

Usually I am a menu hobbiests.

I Usually look for quick appointments, or HH and as I am Tying my shoes to head out the door I ask:"Can we consider???." If she says yes, I say: How about we schedule and hour this afternoon."

Go hit the ATM Machine, and come back.

[Wile E Coyote]

Letting a provider know what you like from a session you pay her for after screening usually gets you in hot water and is taboo, especially from providers who you would not see if they paid you double their donation rate, then you are stuck with those providers following your posts forever. You are forever considered a hard to please client.

Giving subtle hints or just going in hoping for the best gives the provider the excuse of giving a "meh" mentally checked out dead fish session doing little as possible service and her telling you she cannot read your mind. Then expecting a glowing review afterwards.

So either way, it is your fault!

[AdventurousMouse]

Without giving away my exact fetish, let's just say my specific fetish requires some advance planning. So it's not enough to simply check her ad/website to see if she mentions being fetish-friendly.

I'd need to make sure she comes prepared.

On that note, in addition to some providers telling me upon arrival that they won't do my fetish, there have also been providers who said they'd be willing to do my fetish...but they couldn't because they didn't come prepared