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Originally Posted by Logandog
You should have gotten your ass kicked ,you called her mommy ?? This ain't for you
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I didnt call her mother, I sent her mother this message on facebook which I still have saved in archived chats.
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"Hi is ur daughter [real name edited this post]?
If so I wanted to inform you that she ripped me off money and has been very rude to me. I lent her a total of $352. I gave her $312 for her cable bill and also gave her $40 to get her tamaflu medicine (I believe she stated that you were giving her a ride to get her medicine that day)
[She "real name edited"] owes me a total of $352 and has been very rude to me. She has left me hanging and been very hurtful. I have autism and am very bothered by people playing games with me and hurting me. I even had to call the Ellis hospital mental health crisis line a few times over her games
Is there any advice you could offer on how to handle this situation with her. It is causing me emotional stress where I can’t focus or function. Not to mention she has my hard earned money which I need to get back"
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That was all I sent to her. Nothing about mentioning this hobby or how I knew her.In case anyone was wondering, I had been friends with Jada on facebook while I was seeing her as a client, which is how I knew her mother's page, I did not stalk anyone. But I use poor judgment cuz of my autism and was never guided in the past, so that explains why I may have done this.
To elaborate my own late mother (who passed away from cancer) unfortunately never guided me and would fight my battles for me. Like when I was 16, I was being bullied by this other kid, my mom contacted this kid's mother, choosing to handle it that way, rather than telling me to stand up for myself. Worse when I was 19 and going to SCCC, my mom told off bullies at the college campus who had been picking on me - she made it worse as the bullies began calling me a mamas boy from then on.
My mom would monitor my facebook and myspace pages (back when myspace was popular) and not allow me to even swear on my page, she would call me and tell me to remove my swearing posts, if I did so anyways. See what I had to go thru?
And it continued that way into my 20s, with my mom acting like that, treating me like a mamas boy. Worse she is the one who got me to see that bad therapist I previously mentioned (the negative therapist who told me I cant have a girlfriend cuz I have aspergers and focused on my disability, I mentioned about him last year on my previous account). He was a big source of my anger, hence I stopped seeing him last year and now have a good new therapist who is helping me. But when I was like 21, my mom and that former "bad" therapist would have threeway sessions with me, where I was almost being ganged up upon and lectured like a child by both of them at once. I was 21 at the time, hello, a grown man, bothers me now to look back at that. So you can see how I was never guided in my past and why I might have made such a poor decision. Many of my issues aren't my aspergers, but my upbringing which has caused this. No not looking for excuses, but just saying that I was sheltered too much and too long when I was younger.
Sad that it took my mom dying for me to finally attempt to try to grow up and have an independent life of my own.