familiarity breeds contempt

[swamptech]

the basic transactional nature of provider-client relationships is straight forward. It floors me how complicated it always gets. With regular interactions brought about by a comfortable vibe, does this inherently encourage disrespect for the exchange?

Seeing the same provider where you both have a good understanding of each other, is this just not a good idea because both should be vigilant of their expectations being met for the encounter?

I suppose from a client perspective, you should always have plenty of alternatives to walk out on an under-servicing provider?

[gimme_that]

Reword that again. I’m not understanding the point or the subject your trying to make.

It’s not so straight forward......and reading it and trying to make sense of where you are going for me is complicated.

[swamptech]

how about this?
Are 'regular' encounters with the same provider (no less than 1/month) unrealistic to keep the service output w/ compensation dynamic?


To me, it seems like its a rather simple transaction
- you pay me $20 to mow your yard
- i mow your yard
Two expectations being met / tendered. If i grow accustomed to getting that $20 and don't care ("cmon, you're not gonna give me a bad yelp review at this point!"), I just get lazy and start cutting corners (shorting your expectation).

Because of the human interaction dynamic for these transactions, is it just natural to get complacent in meeting the expectations? Is volume so high with most independents that 'regular' becomes more of a hassle than trying to satisfy new clientele?

tl;dr - does regular client / provider interactions just lend itself to both/either parties becoming sloppy rather than more enriching?

[myren1900]

If this is how you feel about seeing your regular provider, you are obviously NOT seeing the right woman. My encounters just seem to get better and better!!!

[MrBig1994]

I've run into a similar situation, especially if you let them know you're seeing them almost exclusively. I guess it's human nature for the most part to put in the least amount of effort for the biggest payout. I'm saying this is all the girls, because it isn't, but if you notice a drop off in performance or an obvious attempt to waste time, pay attention and reduce the donation amount and let them know why. I'm not saying do this on the very 1st occurrence. Everyone has a bad day, but let them know why, and that you've noticed a reduction in effort etc. and you're no longer happy. Some providers may do it without fully realizing, so cut them some slack, but don't be afraid to move on if you have to. Although familiarity can be a good thing, it can also lead to laziness and them trying to take advantage of your good nature. Don't let them. I've been through it because I tend to find a provider I like and stick with that one. Be polite, but firm, and either work it out, or move on. Good luck.

[LuvDevyn]

The only explanation for that would be having to grow out bc you're doing waxing or laser. That's it! That's as bad as not caring to do hair and makeup. So sorry!

[gimme_that]

Since I like regulars familiarity is good. I like consistent service. Nothing wrong with that.

But since I also do multihours I also try to put a little into it to keep things consistent but fresh. Once she compromises that and I’m not the priority when meeting in every way versus just the footnote she needs to the bag I don’t see her anymore or replace her ASAP.

Once they compromise what they offer or do to you and it’s inconsistent cut them off. For some ladies it’s natural for them to get complacent.

Just use them as references to see better potential regulars. They will get the point lady for lady. The lame ones would see that as missed opportunities.

That ugly side of familiarity breeds contempt is the lazy inconsistent ones who get mad at you because you opted to see other ladies while they were treating you less than savory. Or the ones who befriend you as long as they are seeing you, but secretly crap on you to other potential suitors because you not seeing them enough or anymore. But I’ll save that for another thread.

[Shownuff85]

Sounds like marriage 😬

[swamptech]

getting the bait & switch tonight(out of town). I return to nola tomorrow for an encounter where i already paid a deposit.

I'm starting to think getting shit on is my kink