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Darewolf · 07-07-2019, 12:38 PM

I have an unusual question I think. Is there anyone in the area who functions more as a surrogate, who coaches in romance and intimacy rather than just giving pleasure? I really need help knowing how to turn on a woman whom I am already with consistently and make her feel desired with my words. I do not need help picking up women, but rather initiating intimacy and being romantic.

new2thescene · 07-07-2019, 01:11 PM

Find a wingman. Women are not going to know what you need to get other women. Yea, not even a joke.
Join a gym and work on yourself.
Show that you have extra cash to spend.
Be able to show that you can impress her friends if needed

Darewolf · 07-07-2019, 01:15 PM

No. It’s not about getting a woman. It is about being intimate when you have them.

Savannah Moon · 07-07-2019, 01:17 PM

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Originally Posted by new2thescene

Find a wingman. Women are not going to know what you need to get other women. Yea, not even a joke.
Join a gym and work on yourself.
Show that you have extra cash to spend.
Be able to show that you can impress her friends if needed

Please Don't underestimate what women know about each other.

Darewolf · 07-07-2019, 01:20 PM

Right. I have never had trouble finding a woman. I just need help making the one I have feel desired. There are various reasons I struggle with this that I would not post on a board.

new2thescene · 07-07-2019, 01:34 PM

Still, find a wing man. He is going to know alot more then 1 or a few escorts. Plus escort is going to send you a bill.
I was thinking you were having problems snagging the chicks

Darewolf · 07-07-2019, 01:37 PM

I am looking for someone with surrogate-coaching experience. Tough to find in this area it seems.

Savannah Moon · 07-07-2019, 01:46 PM

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Originally Posted by new2thescene

Still, find a wing man. He is going to know alot more then 1 or a few escorts. Plus escort is going to send you a bill.
I was thinking you were having problems snagging the chicks

What you have displayed in your "knowledge " is that of snagging a girl.
You totally missed the boat..LOL
Women & what he is referencing as far as pleasure and intimacy..WHOLE DIFFERENT BALLGAME.
And whether you knew THIS or not..Most of us escorts have a whole RW venue.
We work..pay taxes, have families Goals, are educated & Know EXACTLY what he is referencing.
Your response is how you " snag girls" Capiche?
Intimacy, Pleasure, & how to Please a woman..the boat is still in the dock if you would like to try again LOL
Besides..we don't send bills.

Unique_Carpenter · 07-07-2019, 01:49 PM

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Originally Posted by Savannah Moon

Please Don't underestimate what women know about each other.

Exactly,
If you want professional advice, ask a professional.
Being single, I chase civie gals, sometimes go exclusive with them as well, and, I get profession advice from professional gals on that from time to time. And I go BCD with same progals as well.
The pro gals I've seen for a while provide straight up blunt (ouch) advice. And, I know they find my civie adventures entertaining. A few years back, a few gals would actually do betting pools on how long my civie thing(s) would last. And with hindsight, they were highly accurate with that.
My point being, one, or more, of the progals can be your wing-gal, and there's bcd available as well. Read Savannah's post 8 carefully.
Btw, I had a couple pros run off a civie once upon a time ago. A wingperson is a wingperson.

KatiforYou · 07-08-2019, 07:30 AM

I can help. But, there’s actual sex therapist for things like this.

Joey_Gleet · 07-08-2019, 08:15 AM

First, wash the dishes. Fix her the beverage of her choice and let her relax a bit while you do some practical stuff. Ask how her day was.
Then, depending on her / your taste in music, put on some Barry White / Patsy Cline / Smooth Jazz...
Let it develop organically and be yourself. Things will progress naturally if the chemistry is there.
What you are talking about is going to be unique to each couple. There is no universal formula.

super_delfin00 · 07-08-2019, 09:23 AM

Pretend you like Michael Buble, but all the while Imagine you're really listening to AC/DC

Joey_Gleet · 07-08-2019, 09:55 AM

" In the words of Marcel Proust — and this applies to any woman in the world — if you can stay up and listen with a fair degree of attention to whatever garbage, no matter how stupid it is, that they're coming out with, till ten minutes past four in the morning — you're in! "
- George Spiggot

JRLawrence · 07-08-2019, 11:04 AM

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Originally Posted by Savannah Moon

What you have displayed in your "knowledge " is that of snagging a girl.
You totally missed the boat..LOL
Women & what he is referencing as far as pleasure and intimacy..WHOLE DIFFERENT BALLGAME.
And whether you knew THIS or not..Most of us escorts have a whole RW venue.
We work..pay taxes, have families Goals, are educated & Know EXACTLY what he is referencing.
Your response is how you " snag girls" Capiche?
Intimacy, Pleasure, & how to Please a woman..the boat is still in the dock if you would like to try again LOL
Besides..we don't send bills.

Savannah,

This is the best thing you have ever posted. Very, very good, and very understanding. Congratulations.

new2thescene · 07-08-2019, 12:02 PM

I do get your point. Women look at relationships in a different way then a guy. Are you trying to get into her mind or please her with your body/hands?
Women know what turns guys on and men know what turns women on. I expect folk to disagree. But yea, get a sex therapist or someone that has girl on girl experience. Do what ever makes you happy dude