General queery on marriage/valentines woes/

[garhkal]

Wow.. Just got done reading a long rant by one of my former comrades, who's still active duty. Over the past 10 years, he's been deployed 7 times over the valentines period, and his new wife (of 5 years) is also getting irked about it.. Strangely though, SHE feels its OK for a woman to miss a man's birthday/important day but hell will freeze over before the wife/gf/SO, is ever ok with a man missing valentines..

Over the years, i have heard similar stories, and even worse..
Which makes me scratch my head. Why is ok for her to miss an important day of his, even for silly stuff (like she just didn't want to cancel her gals night out), but HE can never miss anything important to her, even if its cause of work?

Anyone else here, experience (Or hear from kin/friends) Similar stories??

Or situations like when a guy moves his gf into live with him, and instantly HER STUFF takes over the closet, so HE has to go into another bedroom to get dressed.
Or upon moving his SO in, SHE tosses out HIS Stuff (sometimes literally tossing them out onto the street), so she can move her stuff into the house??

Hearing of stories like that time and time again, and adding in other stuff to the mix; like one from a co-worker who worked NIGHTS religiously, but had to sleep iN THE BASEMENT cause wifey refused to let him put up ANY sort of window blinds/curtains in the bedroom. Then other stores, such as one man i knew who did the date scene, asking 5 separate gals in one of those 'date meet ups', if a wife wants something, but a husband needs something that would prevent wife getting what she wants - practically ALL the gals he asked said "WELL his need just has to take a back seat to her want"..
It makes me wonder, WHY so many guys get married?

[dilbert firestorm]

Originally Posted by garhkal

Wow.. Just got done reading a long rant by one of my former comrades, who's still active duty. Over the past 10 years, he's been deployed 7 times over the valentines period, and his new wife (of 5 years) is also getting irked about it.. Strangely though, SHE feels its OK for a woman to miss a man's birthday/important day but hell will freeze over before the wife/gf/SO, is ever ok with a man missing valentines..

Over the years, i have heard similar stories, and even worse..
Which makes me scratch my head. Why is ok for her to miss an important day of his, even for silly stuff (like she just didn't want to cancel her gals night out), but HE can never miss anything important to her, even if its cause of work?

Anyone else here, experience (Or hear from kin/friends) Similar stories??

Or situations like when a guy moves his gf into live with him, and instantly HER STUFF takes over the closet, so HE has to go into another bedroom to get dressed.
Or upon moving his SO in, SHE tosses out HIS Stuff (sometimes literally tossing them out onto the street), so she can move her stuff into the house??

Hearing of stories like that time and time again, and adding in other stuff to the mix; like one from a co-worker who worked NIGHTS religiously, but had to sleep iN THE BASEMENT cause wifey refused to let him put up ANY sort of window blinds/curtains in the bedroom. Then other stores, such as one man i knew who did the date scene, asking 5 separate gals in one of those 'date meet ups', if a wife wants something, but a husband needs something that would prevent wife getting what she wants - practically ALL the gals he asked said "WELL his need just has to take a back seat to her want"..
It makes me wonder, WHY so many guys get married?

one phrase... GPS!

Golden Pussy Syndrome!!!

[cowboy8055]

It often seems that men and women get along better when they're not living together.

[Warptcuck]

If I am working, she don't get a Valentine gift. I think it is a bullshit holiday so women can get a gift. And they expect an expensive gift.
I will buy birthday and Christmas gifts, but all of those other gift giving holidays are bogus. My wife knew this before we got married. She don't expect anything special, except maybe a nice meal on those days.

[garhkal]

Originally Posted by dilbert firestorm

one phrase... GPS!

Golden Pussy Syndrome!!!

Glad i am single then!

[Guest050619-1]

[QUOTE=Warptcuck;1060487780]If I am working, she don't get a Valentine gift. I think it is a bullshit holiday so women can get a gift. And they expect an expensive gift.QUOTE]

+1

It's not even a fucking holiday. Does anyone get the day off from work? No place of employment I know of does.

It's an "occasion" and nothing more. And one that's been over-commercialized, at that.

God have Mercy on husbands / bf's whose wives / gf's work in an office setting , for example, where other women are the recipients today of elaborate bouquets / flowers, chocolates, etc (delivered to them) at their place of employment...and their woman was not.

Yeah that happened (to me).....many years ago, first wife There was hell to pay the rest of that week, I assure you. Bogus fucking "holiday" indeed.....

[Clark W. Griswold]

That's just the way things are, man. Don't fight it and dig a bigger hole for yourself. The best thing you can do is just not forget. I speak as a man who has been a bachelor the majority of his life but I've seen / heard some things.