The One Sidedness of My Hobby Activities

[seekinggradeAbj]

I talk with various providers while seeking compatibility and more times than not, I find one not willing or eager to give me what I seek. That's perfectly okay and I am glad we find out sooner than later. I hold those women in high regard and appreciate their upfront honesty.

My question, for the guys and ladies alike is, how many of you think it's okay for the guy to be "greedy" in his desires? How many think it's okay to partake of only activities that pleasure you, without regard for the other?

Am I an asshole? It's unintentional, I mean to be a good person. I'm never pushy or disrespectful. I just like what I like and feel if I'm going to pay, I'm going to get the most out of it. When I travel, I don't rent a Kia, I rent a Porsche or a Mustang at least. Y'all ladies are my version of a sports car...

[seductrix4u]

I think that every hobbyist should get exactly what he wants. He's the client. Stating your desires does not make you an asshole. If you want an "all about me" session, you should get it.

Having said that, I'm the type of provider that needs a little kindling before my fire starts roaring. So if a guy shows up like, "Here I am, do me," I'll do him. But it won't be nearly as much fun for me. And I won't see him again.

I prefer hobbyists that think of me a little bit in the equation. It does not make me a bad provider anymore than your needs make you a bad client. We just know what we like during a session.

Happy hunting!

[seekinggradeAbj]

Thank you for the well thought out answer! I hope to hear more on this.

I'm not screening people with this post, just trying to start some conversation to see if I'm right for this hobby.

[SexPanther69]

This is actually an interesting topic, and I glad you posted the question. And thanks S4U for your insightful response.

Like S4U, I also like some kindling - for the provider AND for me. It makes the experience SO much better when both (or all) people are into it. I certainly want what I want, and expect to receive it, but the provider is not a mind-reader. Communication and comfort are keys to any good relationship!

But with that said, it is extremely difficult to have a “real” GFE in 60 minutes, especially on a “first date”. In my perfect little world, on the first visit, we would spend 30-minutes or so just hanging out before the clock starts running. Drinks, dinner, whatever... I would think both parties would find this beneficial.

I also understand and respect that “time is money”. And also, there are very strict and necessary rules about phone/email communications.

The original poster would very likely benefit from something like this, and would also pay a little extra to ensure he’s “found the right provider”. However, in most cases, the delta between a 60-minute and 90-minute session ranges from $100 - $150. And paying this much for a conversation is cost-prohibitive. For me, on a first date, I would gladly pay an extra $50 (plus drink/food tab) to hang out for a while before the actual clock starts.

I’m still pretty ignorant to many aspects of the hobby, so I’m certain there are flaws with this theory. But “better” isn’t the enemy of “perfect”. And until the client also has a “profile page” (that includes expectations and provider references), it could possible improve the client/provider experience.

Just my 2-cents.

TP

[Fsn57]

It's your money, I wouldn't feel bad about expecting what you want for the fee paid. After all, this isn't dating, its a business arrangement for services rendered.

Some people enjoy the warmup to the finish, but everyone has their own desires. I wouldn't feel obligated to "warm her up" if that's not your thing. For some, the IOP is necessary for others, it just about being serviced.

[sinbad6969]

It has been my experience that if you treat a lady with respect you are more that likely to get her best effort. With that said, I find it pleasing to make the date for her as pleasurable as possible. I get enjoyment out of her having as good of time as I want to have.

[the_real_Barleycorn]

Part of the thrill is pleasing the woman (real or not). There are a couple of providers that I no longer frequent because they just don't respond. It goes back to my navy days in Bremenhaven Germany. A beautiful little Asian woman was beneath me and she kept saying "please cum" and just lay there. Ruined what could have been a great experience.

[Ltstorm]

As a new hobbyist myself I am still figuring things out. We are going to providers usually for something bery specific (maybe sex,maybe something else) we will continue to go to that provider that fulfills that need,whatever it is. It is like eating out( get your mind out of the gutter) if you are in the mood for Italian then Mexican no matter how good just doesn’t fulfill that same need. Just my 2 cents.

[Phredej]

Try as I may it is impossible for me to find a victim in this hobby. I truly believe the divorced honest man who loses half his retirement, house, and has to pay 30% of his income to child support is the real victim.

So, all bets are off. You pay the ladies to leave with no attachment bullshit.

[Savannah Moon]

I personally don't offer B& G because it is one sided.
I also would decline a DATY only session even though I honestly LOVE both!!

Gents who desire a one sided encounter have no qualms expressing that upfront.



I think it is about communication
It's not like I have never done one-sided encounters..I just prefer more activity.
Some women offer it all day long and that's what they prefer.

There is a fit for everyone & I mean EVERYONE

[DallasRain]

It is your playtime so tell me what ya want and lets see if I can make it happen!

You are MY king & I am YOUR Queen!

[Phredej]

Originally Posted by DallasRain

It is your playtime so tell me what ya want and lets see if I can make it happen!

Perfect comment and attitude Dallas!!

[bilbobaggin]

I can agree that it's not asking to much for a client a little selfish in wanting there own desires, but within reason. As long as it's upfront, and agreed on I don't see a issue with being "greedy".

I can also understand why some providers wouldn't be interested in a 90 BJ(no offense).

[seekinggradeAbj]

Thank you all for the responses. I am not a cold, callous guy who expects a woman to drop to her knees without speaking as soon as I cross the threshold, I enjoy kissing and touching, I just don't partake of full service or DATY. I'll continue being up front with the ladies who are willing to hear my desires up front. I've got a few of you lovelies I need to visit and revisit.

Have a great weekend!

[BookemDano]

Some are not for all. I like what I like. I like to kiss and please as well as being pleased. For me, pleasing a woman and her being passionate is what gets me going. I try and go through reviews and make sure, before making an appointment, I'm somewhat compatible with a provider. That doesn't mean it's always worked out. Live and learn I guess.
I suppose that's why some of these ladies have regulars.........compatible.