Whore - own it or disown it?

[cinderbella]

Originally Posted by Whispers

I knew one of you old whores would get around to me sooner or later.....

The only whores I refer to as "old" or "fat" are exactly that..... Old or fat....

The difference between whores like you and guys like me is that I know and accept that I am old and fat and none of what you and others think are "attacks or degrading comments" meant to get a reaction from me bother me in any manner...

That's what your problem is. You hear the word whore and immediately need to log in as someone else to be exactly what you say is bother some to you. THAT is hypocrisy...

Hahaha, you can call me an old, fat whore all you want. I get to choose carefully out of so many who contact me for an appointment. I am pretty damn happy with my beautiful life and freedom of choice.

I never imagined back when I was in my 20's serving my country on active duty in the military for 8 years that I would one day become a sensual massuse. I still maintain my friendships with some of the people I served with. Some of my old boyfriends from back then still reach out regularly over phone calls and emails. I even have some of my FBSM clients as my real life Facebook friends. Life is what you make it. Attitude is everything. I love myself and I am grateful for my life. When I go out in public and see anyone in a work uniform or even a mom with kids, I tell them to get in line in front of me because I am grateful to work from home doing what I enjoy. If I see a police officer, firefighter, soldier, nurse or paramedic out in public I thank them for their service.

I realize not everyone is like that, and I get discouraged by the crass, tasteless, empty souls of both sexes here and elsewhere. They exist in all walks of life and come in all sizes, shapes and colors. Say a prayer for them, they need it the most. When you go to the drive thru, thank the person waiting on you because they are doing a noble service and not getting paid very well for it. If you see someone out in public who looks like they are doing an incredible job parenting their children, compliment them on it. Demonizing people who work in the sex trade who have done absolutely nothing to you do not deserve your condemnation or rhetoric. Thoughts and attitudes are energy. Align your energy in a more positive way helps you as much as it does the target. Spreading hate and slander hurts you as the sender. What you give comes back to you. Save your bitterness and hate for someone who truly deserves it. Unfortunately there are tons of those people all around you and hating them all is a truly unhealthy way of tearing your own self apart by filling your own soul with hostility.

[cinderbella]

Originally Posted by The Infamous One

I have watched some of my good provider friends have breakdowns over the way we get talked to and about. The way some of the men on this board treat, talk to & about us has effected a lot of us.
. Someone said something to the effect of providers being scared to say anything or stand up for ourselves. He seemed to enjoy that perceived power, which makes him weak in my eyes. Providing doesn't make a lot of us feel guilty. It's the abusiveness/entitlement/trolling etc. that systematically breaks some of us down. But I don't give a fuck anymore. I speak up. There's no excuse for people to treat each other or talk to one another in such a way that it breaks you down. Shit if I wanted that I'd go remarry my ex!

I find the mentality, trolling and entitlement to be abusive, cold, demeaning and akin to kicking a puppy or deliberately trying to break your soul then throwing some $ at you like you are being paid to be dehumanized. It's just a way for unhappy cowards to overcompensate for his own insecurities and secret rage he couldn't get away with in real life. Who knows... Maybe these guys had mommy dearest for a mother and this is the only way they feel they can get back at women. Yep. Being called a whore is not something most people hear at their jobs. IDK. People can be sick fuckers sometimes. Maybe ECCIE needs an on call shrink to deal with all the personality disorders amongst other things!!

This whore is over & out!!!

This ^^^ post, excellent. I completely agree.

[cinderbella]

In my late 20's, I left active duty military to attend college.

I lived in a very expensive area of Northern California, and became desperate for cash. I answered an agency ad, and they sent me to see a client at a motel. He was very nice, but I had never done that before and I had a boyfriend that I wanted to marry. After the appointment, I was instructed to meet the agency owner to pay her cut. I told her I wasn't interested in joining and left.

I applied for a barista position at an independently owned coffee bar and the manager hired me. A few days later I met the owner, who just happened to be the same woman who owned the agency, who had sent me to meet the motel client and later to take her cut. We never said a word about it.

When I was in the military, I learned their were some active duty women who doubled as hookers. Depending on where they were stationed, the scarcity of women gave them a lucrative outlet for making extra cash.

"Whores" are nothing new. Like the song goes:

"I've got the brains, you've got the looks, let's make lot's of money".

[cinderbella]

https://youtu.be/PyeWRd7ZEBs

[Buick_GN]

I don't see any reason to be disrespectful to anyone. The last thing one needs in this are enemies.

So why create them?

[russellevans]

Originally Posted by cinderbella

I lived in a very expensive area of Northern California, and became desperate for cash. I answered an agency ad, and they sent me to see a client at a motel. He was very nice, but I had never done that before and I had a boyfriend that I wanted to marry. After the appointment, I was instructed to meet the agency owner to pay her cut. I told her I wasn't interested in joining and left.

This is what I consider a whore. Desperate for cash so you sell your body while your bf is at home. This is the kind of thing that makes me question women's motives every day. Even when you're engaged and committed, she might just go out and fuck someone else to get ahead. That or you're just less trustworthy than the average woman. After your big speech this seems to betray the image you are building.

Don't really care either way but this is a prime example of first ballot all american whore to me.

[cinderbella]

Originally Posted by russellevans

This is what I consider a whore. Desperate for cash so you sell your body while your bf is at home. This is the kind of thing that makes me question women's motives every day. Even when you're engaged and committed, she might just go out and fuck someone else to get ahead. That or you're just less trustworthy than the average woman. After your big speech this seems to betray the image you are building.

Don't really care either way but this is a prime example of first ballot all american whore to me.

Hahaha, being that was in 1993, we were never engaged and we never lived together. Neither of us married. He sent me an email yesterday, sometimes he calls. He knows exactly what I do, I told him years ago when I became a sensual massuse. He loves to see my pictures, he still finds me attractive.
We are still great friends and keep in regular touch.

I think you russellevans are a sad misogynist and I know I am not the only one. Your jealousy and misery belong to you. Keep sending that hatred of yours out, it comes right back to you. You are your own worst enemy.

[nuglet]

One of my early gf's and I were together for a couple of yrs.. Then one time on a trip, she told me of her lurid past.. having been deserted by her "baby-daddy" and unemployed, she needed $ and needed it right away.. Although she had a strong background in office management and great office skills, she decided the fastest way to solve her immediate problem was to turn some tricks (in LA cali)..
When I met her, she managed a travel agency office.. and then went on to manage a "artificial marble" countertop company...
I never looked down on her, as I respected "ya do what you gotta do" attitude.. Coolest lady I ever knew.. and if I ever needed someone to cover my back, she was right over my shoulder.. Not A whore,, in fact, very much a Lady, and very self-reliant.. as many here are.. jmo.

[Penelope Pearl]

Originally Posted by FirePhoenix

I use the word "provider," because that's exactly what I have been my whole life, providing services for people who either needed or wanted them. In the medical field, people needed the skills I had. As a maid, I provided services and skills to those who wanted them. So, as a provider, I cover both: need and want.

In my personal experience throughout life, the people who choose to use the "w" word have extreme, unresolved issues with their mothers. Now, this may not be true for all, but people I have met use that word as an excuse to justify and vent anger and resentment from their jaded upbringing by their mothers. They hide behind definitions as an excuse to use such terminology, while knowing the effect it has on others, but without an awareness of the harm it is doing to them.

It also has been in my personal experience that those using that word tend to view it as a source of pride. Why would you view it pridefully if you truly have skills, self-confidence, love of sex ,and comprehend the definition? Would they still be so proud to call themselves that? Again, in my personal opinion, the "pride" they put into the use of the word often has deep-seeded cracks in their self-esteem, and somehow, in spite of their upbringing or as a result of it, the word became "glamorized."

It's how the woman identifies and defines the word and themselves.

No you sell your pussy which makes you a whore.. If you don't like that word then how about your a prostitute..

Those who can't come to grips with these terms are in serious denial...

Laying on your back & taking a dick up your snatch isn't a skill..

[Observing]

Originally Posted by Miss Valentina

I don't really care what y'all call me/us. "Whore" "Skank" "Tossin' Coins in the Hippo's Yawn"...

All l ask, out of professional courtesy is please do not jizz on my plants.

Thanks guys.

[ztonk]

Originally Posted by Penelope Pearl

No you sell your pussy which makes you a whore.. If you don't like that word then how about your a prostitute..

Those who can't come to grips with these terms are in serious denial...

Laying on your back & taking a dick up your snatch isn't a skill..

Thank you!

z

[3daygetaway]

Neither is delivering a pizza, but if you call the delivery guy a mozzarella-fucker or a pepperoni-dick, he's gonna shit on your yard...if not your pizza.

[Claire She Blows]

Originally Posted by Penelope Pearl

No you sell your pussy which makes you a whore.. If you don't like that word then how about your a prostitute..

Those who can't come to grips with these terms are in serious denial...

Laying on your back & taking a dick up your snatch isn't a skill..

Who pissed in your Cheerios?

[Penelope Pearl]

Originally Posted by Claire She Blows

Who pissed in your Cheerios?

Nobody the truth hurts obviously.. That's a personal problem not mine I know what I am & I accepted it the first time I sucked dick for $$$...

[Claire She Blows]

Originally Posted by FGarvin

No. You HOPED it would. Why? Because you're an attention whore.

at·ten·tion whore

nounUSderogatory

a person who behaves in a provocative, outrageous, or reprehensible manner in order to attract attention.

This is my new favorite post. IJS.